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Correction Is Friend or Enemy

Book cover for "Garden Your Mind"

Learn to Value Correct Correction


  • Correction is either your friend or your enemy depending upon its kind.

Correction is your enemy if you engage in self-esteem styles of thinking and false being: ego.

Self-esteem thinking occurs whenever you identify with the knowledge of your comparisons of your self with others.

Why is correction your enemy?

Because according to self-esteem:

1) You are your mistakes.

2) You are your failures.

3) You are your faults.

4) You are what you do.

5) You are your comparisons with others.

Therefore, you must resist correction in order to resist the ego pain and self-damning that it will result in. For to you, correction = condemnation.

Correction is your friend when you engage in USE or USA. USE is unconditional self-esteem meaning that you do not identify with comparisons of your self and others: either high or low, either good or bad.

  • USA is unconditional self-acceptance meaning that you accept yourself independently of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

Why is correction your friend?

Because according to USE and USE:

1) You are not your mistakes.

2) You are not your failures.

3) You are not your faults.

4) You are not what you do.

5) You are not your comparisons with others.

Therefore, you seek correction in order to improve your thinking so that you can perform better in the future. For to you, correction = support to succeed.

Correction of self is pain and leads to: anger, rebellion, lying, defensiveness, phoniness, contented conforming cows. Correction of thinking is curative and leads to wisdom.

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Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce 

“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.” —Erica Jong 

“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” —Hebrews 12:8 

“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194 

“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5 

“Don’t try to cover your mistakes with false words. Rather, correct your mistakes with examination.” —Pythagoras, fragment 

“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206 

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” —Proverbs 27:6 

“For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:” —Proverbs 6:23 

“For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” —I Peter 2:20 

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6 

“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7 

“Justifying a fault doubles it.” —French proverb 

“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11 

“No one wants advice–only corroboration.” —John Steinbeck 

“Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it.” —Gordon R. Dickson 

“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.” —Julien Green 

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale 

“There is no point to correction unless there is there is the possibility of correction.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” —Anonymous