Twelve Steps of Anxiety Reacting

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The 12 Steps of Anxiety shows how you create anxiety problems with your attitudes. Understand your anxiety to gain control of it.



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12 STEPS OF ANXIETY REACTING WITH SHORT EXAMPLE

  1. BAD HAPPENS: Notice bad things.
  2. DEIFY SELF: I know better than myself.
  3. EGO PLEASURE: Positive self-esteem (pride).
  4. BLAME SELF: I should have known better.
  5. DEMONIZE SELF: I know worse than others.
  6. EGO PAIN: Negative self-esteem (depression).
  7. ANGER AVOIDS: I run from my guilt trips.
  8. DEIFY SELF: I know better than my guilt.
  9. EGO PLEASURE: Positive self-esteem (conceit).
  10. BLAME SELF: I should know better than guilt.
  11. DEMONIZE SELF: I know worse than guilt.
  12. DEMAND CHANGE: I must know better than guilt.

The Message of The 12 Steps of Anxiety

  • My avoidance of ego pain leads me to cycle my anxiety.
  • My claims to know better are my worst problems.

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Quotations from Various Sources

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“Anxiety cannot provide security.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Anxiety is to warn not to perform.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 174

“For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” —I Peter 2:20

“In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 163

“The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created ‘dangers’ that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 171

“Underneath dysfunctional anxiety is insecurity.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 165


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