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Is Emotional Ventilation Helpful?

STPHFR 6 Steps of Feeling & Acting


Make Ventilation Helpful, Not Hurtful

  • Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT).

  • Help is here for facing the false & misguided theory of ventilation as cure.


SOME FACTS

  • No one has ever died from the lack of expression of problems.
  • People have lived long lives without expressing their feelings.
  • People have kept feelings to themselves for their entire life.
  1. The expression of problems and emotions reinforces them more often than it helps to alleviate them.
  2. There is no evidence that feelings build up and cause pressure that requires a release.
  3. There is only evidence that people collect evidence so that they can excuse blowing up.
  4. There is only evidence that people collect evidence to feel justified in their anger.
  5. There is only evidence that people collect evidence in order to feel certain they will win their case when they drop it on you.

TWO PROBLEMS

  1. You have conflicting goals, which causes you to have an uncompleted expression: unfinished business.
  2. You have goals that cannot be completed because you lack the power and authority to complete them, which causes you to have an uncompleted expression: unfinished business.

TWO SOLUTIONS

  1. Align your goals with each other so that your goals are not in conflict: single eye, integrity, wholeness, to thine own self be true, oneness, simplicity, honest, direct, genuine.
  2. Align your goals with reality: acceptance, coping, Serenity Prayer, humility, stop overcontrol, stop demandingness, peace.

WRONG VENTILATION

  • Expressing to control.

Studies show that the expression of anger leads to more not less anger. Why? Because when you express anger, you feel self-righteous and so want to control even more.


RIGHT VENTILATION

  • Expressing to let go.

The goal is only to release, to let pass, to surrender, to let be, to let it go, to turn it over to God. In this case, the expression is the completion of the goal and not just an encouragement to continue with the unrealistic and/or conflicted goal.


SOLUTION

  • Have the right intention when you ventilate: to complete and let go.

3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2020

#Magical #Feelings: 2020-04-30

1. Feeling your feelings is not a magical cure for anything.

2. Expecting people to cope with feelings they are already struggling with just because you tell them to is condescending, naive, and self-righteous.

3. Not evaluating, accepting, and understanding the coping level of the client demonstrates a lack of empathy, competence, and skill on the part of the therapist.

4. Therapists who do not initially encourage and promote the learning of new coping skills and the transfer of current coping skills to current problems need to go back to school.

5. Experiencing your feelings is a better way to live; however, people are not born with emotional coping-skills, and some feelings are dangerous and destructive if not handled properly.


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