Praise Works Wonders for Motivating Self and Others
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“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” —Albert Einstein
“Everybody’s main actions are determined by desires which are anterior to the calculations of pleasures and pains.” —Bertrand Russel, History of Western Philosophy
“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” —Confucius
Motivation Is …
- Motivation is not a goal. Motivation is not a desire. Motivation is not a wish.
- Motivation is action towards a goal. Motivation is persistent action towards a goal.
Motivation Comes From …
- Motivation does not come from feelings, goals, dreams, desires, wishes, wants, or waiting.
- Motivation comes from effort towards a goal that gets you closer to that goal. Motivation comes from good stress.
3Ps of Motivation
- Praise Goal
- Practice Goal
- Persist Goal
3Ps of Motivation: Brief Explanation
- Goal Praise: desire goal.
- Goal Practice: work on goal.
- Goal Persistence: stay encouraged.
3Ps of Motivation: Long Explanation
- Goal Praise: You must see the goal as good and desirable. You must reinforce the desirability of the goal by persistently praising it: making yourself aware daily of the benefits of achieving the goal.
- Goal Practice: You must put effort towards the completion of the goal. You must work and push yourself to work on the goal. Good goal practice is doing something every day towards the completion of the goal.
- Goal Persistence: You must overcome obstacles and persist in praising and practicing the goal. You must not give up, quit, give in, get discouraged, let laziness win, surrender to procrastination, believe in low frustration tolerance (LFT), or otherwise self-defeat your goal.
“It is a mark of much folly not to have one’s life regulated with regard to some end.” —Aristotle, Eudemian Ethics
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#Meaning #Work: 2020-05-30
1. Meaning without work is not meaningful.
2. If you are not working to progress or expand what you find most meaningful, then you are not happy or satisfied with life.
3. Human meaning requires work to secure that meaning, and the work must be either progressing or expanding the meaning or its purpose.
4. Unless you can do some meaningful work to help realize your chosen meaning for life, then your chosen meaning becomes less and less important.
5. If your life is to have value, then your life has to have meaning; however, if your life is to have meaning, then your life has to provide work that you can perform towards a purposeful goal.
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Quotations from Various Sources
“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool. —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce
“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” —Hebrews 12:8
“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194
“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5
“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6
“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7
“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale
“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn, and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
Quotations from Scripture
“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15
“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20
“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20
“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18
“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3
“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2
“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16
“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21
“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18
“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13
“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33
“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25