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  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

“To be poured into without becoming full, and to pour out without becoming empty, without knowing how this is brought about–this is the case of ‘Containing the Light’.” —Chung Tzu


SELF-TALK: DAILY DOES OF DISCERNMENT

3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2016

#Mind #Noise: 2016-01-01

  • Below the noise of your mind lives your being, which you rejected in favor of becoming things.
  • Below the noise of your mind lives your being, which you ignore while pursuing self as concepts and images.
  • Below the noise of your mind lives your being, which you think is too simple and childish for your grandiose dreams for self.
  • Below the noise of your mind lives your being, which you despise in favor of claiming or trying to be something superior to others.
  • Below the noise of your mind lives your being, which you rejected in favor of becoming an adult who pursues profit in self-esteem.

#Solutions #Remain: 2016-04-11

  • Solutions remain solutions at all times.
  • Solutions are an experience of positive energy.
  • Solutions focus on increasing encouragement, faith, and hope.
  • Solutions are not about ego, identity, personality, pride, or self-esteem.
  • Solutions are directional, focused on a path, or linear, and neither loop nor get stuck.

#Ego #Self: 2016-04-16

  • There is no ego or self-esteem self that is not a composited fabrication.
  • There is no ego or self-esteem self that exists in the past, present, or future except in the imagination.
  • There is no ego or self-esteem self that exists in the present without it being recalled, reimagined, or remembered.
  • There is no ego or self-esteem self that exists in the present without it first being reactivated and reanimated from memory.
  • There is no ego or self-esteem self that exists in the present without it being rebuilt, recreated, refashioned, reinitialized, or regenerated on the spot.

#Character #Reputation: 2016-04-18

  • You are not your character even though it determines your life story.
  • You are not your reputation even though it determines your friends and enemies.
  • You are not your personality even though it determines how people react to you.
  • You are not your opinions of yourself even though they determine your ego and self-esteem.
  • You are not your measurements and ratings of yourself even though they determine how you feel about yourself.

#Will #Pleasure: 2016-04-21

  • The will to power is ego.
  • The will to superiority is self-esteem.
  • The will to pleasure is body.
  • The will to meaning is soul.
  • The will to contact is heart.

#Self-esteem #Inferior: 2016-05-12

  • If you serve self-esteem, then you are what you hate before you hate it.
  • If you serve self-esteem, then you are what you mock before you mock it.
  • If you serve self-esteem, then you are what you despise before you despise it.
  • If you serve self-esteem, then you are what you rebel against before you rebel against it.
  • If you serve self-esteem, then you are what you consider inferior before you consider it inferior.

#Stop #Start: 2016-05-13

  • Stop believing in self-esteem and self-talk and start believing in self.
  • Stop caring about self-esteem and self-talk and start caring about self.
  • Stop having faith in self-esteem and self-talk and start having faith in self.
  • Stop taking self-esteem and self-talk seriously and start taking self seriously.
  • Stop hoping self-esteem and self-talk will have positive results and keep your hope for your authentic self and original nature.

#Corpse #Drag: 2016-05-14

  • Stop beating the corpses of self-esteem.
  • Stop punishing the corpses of self-esteem.
  • Stop debating with the corpses of self-esteem.
  • Stop dragging around the corpses of self-esteem.
  • Stop trying to awaken the corpses of self-esteem.

#Management #Graveyard: 2016-05-15

  • Self-esteem is zombie control.
  • Self-esteem is graveyard management.
  • Self-esteem is management of the living dead.
  • Self-esteem is how to make the best acting and looking Frankenstein monster.
  • Self-esteem is working as an undertaker to make the dead look alive and beautiful.

#Ego #Reduction: 2016-05-16

  • Ego cannot become different from ego (self as thought).
  • Ego will always be toxic, because ego cannot change.
  • You can serve ego less, but you cannot make ego less ego.
  • You can meditate for twenty years, but your ego will be the same as the day that you started.
  • Ego reduction is about identifying with ego less and taking ego less seriously so that you give less time to ego; however, it is not about making ego less ego.

#Self-esteem #Trouble: 2016-05-25

  • Nothing in this world can trouble you more than self-esteem noise.
  • Nothing in this world can trouble you more than self-esteem arguments.
  • Nothing in this world can trouble you more than the chatter of your ego.
  • Nothing in this world can trouble you more than the self-talk of your ego a.k.a. self-esteem.
  • Nothing in this world can trouble you more than the inner courts, hearings, and trials held by self-esteem.

#Live #Die: 2016-05-28

  • If you live for ego, then you will die for ego.
  • If you live for pride, then you will die for pride.
  • If you live for self-stories, then you will die for self-stories.
  • If you live for self-images, then you will die for self-images.
  • If you live for self-esteem, then you will die for self-esteem.

#Pride #Pleasure: 2016-05-29

  • Pride provides ego pleasure.
  • Ego pleasure provides excuses for every passion.
  • Excuses provide permission to seek pride over peace and piety.
  • Pride provides an exculpation for a life spent serving self-esteem’s penchants.
  • Self-esteem provides an exculpation for a life spent in the destruction of persons as personalities.

#Self-esteem #Kills: 2016-06-02

  • In order to rate the self, self-esteem first kills the self by analyzing it.
  • In order to rate the self, self-esteem first kills the self by dissecting it.
  • In order to rate the self, self-esteem first kills the self by classifying it.
  • In order to rate the self, self-esteem first kills the self by objectifying it.
  • In order to rate the self, self-esteem first kills the self by pigeonholing it.

#Measure #Self: 2016-06-03

  • Self-esteem is the mummification of the self.
  • Self-esteem is the practice of taxidermy upon the living.
  • Self-esteem is the death of self as something and the disintegration of that thing into ever more things.
  • In order to invent the self, self-esteem first kills your original self in order to stuff it with dead people’s bones.
  • In order to invent the self, self-esteem first kills your original self in order to mummify it with things, thoughts, and traits.

#Right #Demand: 2016-06-11

  • How is your demand to be right creating peace in your relationships?
  • How is your knowing better than others encouraging them to love you?
  • How is your always knowing everything working to make others admire you?
  • How is your instance on being right helping your relationships to become more caring?
  • Is it finally time to admit and realize that your claims to know are only serving your ego, pride, and self-esteem?

#Listen #Communicate: 2016-06-15

  • People listen for parts to use to prove they’re superior, not to your meaning.
  • People listen for parts to use to prove others are inferior, not to your meaning.
  • People listen for parts to use to boost their self-esteem, not to your meaning.
  • People listen for parts to use to defend their self-esteem, not to your meaning.
  • People listen for parts to use to show how much they know, not to your meaning.

#Burden #Tangle: 2016-06-29

• Disburden your self from self-esteem.

• Disconnect your self from self-esteem.

• Disencumber your self from self-esteem.

• Disengage your self from self-esteem.

• Disentangle your self from self-esteem.


#Angry #Hurt: 2016-07-13

• Do you get angry at kindness or virtue?

• Do you get angry at compassion or love?

• Do you get angry at awareness or consciousness?

• You get angry at ego, pride, self-esteem, and shame.

• You get angry at ego danger, ego pain, ego threats, feelings of inferiority, hurt pride, and low self-esteem.


#Aware #Increase: 2016-07-18

• It is silly to cultivate awareness, because if you are alive then you are aware.

• It is absurd to try to be aware, because you cannot increase or decrease your awareness.

• When your awareness is attached to concepts and images of yourself, others, and life, then you appear to have less awareness.

• When you free your awareness from attachment to ego, self-esteem, and thought-things, then you appear to have more awareness.

• Ideas of attending, awareness, being present, focusing, meditating, and witnessing are just more attachments waiting to devour awareness.


#Aware #Awake: 2016-07-27

• Awake is when you sense without thought.

• Awake is awareness free of attachments to thought.

• Awake is having your awareness free of ego, self-esteem, and social-esteem.

• Awake is when your consciousness is not divided, multitasking, or split between sensing reality versus sensing thoughts as reality.

• Awake is having all of your awareness or consciousness available instead of some being compartmentalized or partitioned off by thought.


#Hold #Accountable: 2016-07-28

• Hold your self-talk accountable for the energy and time it demands.

• Hold your self-talk accountable for the style, tone, and words that it uses.

• Hold your self-talk accountable for the effects and results that it produces.

• Hold your self-talk accountable for accepting, coping, and problem solving.

• Hold your self-talk accountable for detaching from your ego, pride, self-esteem, and social-esteem.


#Human #Not: 2016-08-02

• Human beings are not self-esteem.

• Human beings are not social-esteem.

• Human beings are not self-constructs.

• Human beings are not social-constructs.

• Human beings are not ego, pride, or shame.


#Thinking #Reasoning: 2016-08-24

• Why call it thinking when it is not a rational process but only ego feeding?

• Why call it thinking when it is not a rational process but only noise making?

• Why call it thinking when it is not a reasoning process but only ego serving?

• Why call it thinking when it is not a reasoning process but only the chatter of thought feeding itself?

• Why call it thinking when it is not a rational process but only thought replacing self for the sake of pride and self-esteem?


#Ego #Self-esteem: 2016-10-23

• Don’t be ego, be your true self.

• Don’t be self-esteem, be your natural self.

• Don’t be self-images, be your original self.

• Don’t be self-concepts, be your authentic self.

• Don’t be pride or shame, be your genuine self.


#Past #Present: 2016-11-09

• Let them live in your past without you.

• Refuse to live in your past with your accusers or detractors.

• Those who cannot accept and see your new behaviors and habits are often those who cannot do that for themselves.

• There are those who desire your continued failure and wrongdoing as a means to boosting their superiority complex a.k.a. self-esteem.

• Those who do not believe in recovery, redemption, rehabilitation, or forgiveness are often self-righteous bigots working for your failure.


#Know #Measurement: 2016-11-10

• The measurement is not the measured.

• Measurements are not forms of knowing.

• Measurement is not a form of knowing, but only a way to discover facts to manipulate.

• You can know a measurement, but that in no way indicates that you know what was measured.

• Measurement is technologically useful, but it is also misused for false claims and purposes such as by self-esteem.


#Shame #Social: 2016-11-12

• Shame is for society and guilt is for self.

• Shame is for the strong to bear and the weak to flee.

• A sense of shame works positively like a sense of humility does unless it is ego-based shame.

• Shame needs to be under the highest ideals and virtues else it serves ego, pride, self-esteem, and superiority.

• Shame and humility are necessary to keep one thinking well of others and praying for others rather than gathering pride to feed ego.


#Own #Self: 2016-11-14

• Own your self rather than self-esteem.

• Own your self rather than fame or fortune.

• Own your self rather than a career or a title.

• Own your self rather than a family or a house.

• Own your self rather than other’s good opinions.


#Greatest #Stupidity: 2016-12-07

• The greatest failure comes from not starting.

• The greatest loss comes from wasting your life on self-esteem.

• The greatest regret comes from not following your dreams and talents.

• The greatest misery comes from believing that others control your feelings.

• The greatest stupidity comes from not proving beliefs, ideas, opinions, and theories against all sources of information.


#Advice #Circumstance: 2016-12-12

• Advice is reason guiding despite ego demanding that problems continue.

• Advice is practical and useful and oblivious to the whining of self-esteem.

• Advice is a rational proposal to make the best of the worst or the good better.

• Advice is reason proposing solutions to problems that emotion would prefer to keep.

• Advice is dependent upon circumstances such that good advice for one is bad advice for another.


#Relationship #Issues: 2016-12-16

• If your self-talk is critical, then you will have relationship issues regarding criticism.

• If your self-talk is anxious, then you will have relationship issues regarding fear, trust, and worry.

• If your self-talk is negative, then you will have relationship issues regarding a lack of dreams, hope, and vision.

• If your self-talk is demeaning, then you will have relationship issues regarding depression, disrespect, and low self-esteem.

• If your self-talk is mean, then you will have relationship issues regarding arguing, controlling, dominating, and name-calling.


#Manage #Relationships: 2016-12-18

• Relationships are often about trying to manage someone else in order to manage yourself.

• Relationships are often about condemning and criticizing someone else instead of yourself.

• Relationships are often about trying to control someone else in order to control your emotions.

• Relationships are often about trying to fix someone else in order to fix your attitude and expectations.

• Relationships are often about trying to change someone else in order to change your self-esteem a.k.a. ego.


#Unreal #Pain: 2016-12-21

• Something might be emotionally and psychologically painful, but that alone does not make it real.

• Something might be emotionally and psychologically painful, but it might also be just ego paranoia.

• Something might be emotionally and psychologically painful, but it might also be just an ego fantasy.

• Something might be emotionally and psychologically painful, but it might also be just some self-esteem game.

• Something might be emotionally and psychologically painful, but it might also be just an imaginary ego conflict over inferiority and superiority.


3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2017

#Choose #Forced: 2017-01-04

• You choosing to listen to negative self-talk or are you just a victim?

• You choosing to listen to negative self-talk or are you programmed to listen?

• You choosing to listen to negative self-talk or are you being pressured to listen?

• You choosing to listen to negative self-talk and enjoying some perverse ego payoff while doing so?

• You choosing to listen to negative self-talk so that you can blame, damn, and whine about how others make you to listen to it?


#Self-discipline #Overcoming: 2017-01-05

• Maturity begins with mature self-talk.

• Self-mastery begins with mastering self-talk.

• Spirituality begins with spiritualizing self-talk.

• Self-discipline begins with disciplining self-talk.

• Overcoming ego begins with overcoming self-talk.


#Kind #Compassion: 2017-01-07

• To be honest, make your self-talk honest.

• To be kind, make your self-talk kind to you.

• To be virtuous, make your self-talk virtuous to you.

• To be inspirational, make your self-talk inspire you.

• To be compassionate, make your self-talk compassionate to you.


#Effective #Outcomes: 2017-01-08

• The beginner starts with noticing the effects of their self-talk.

• The student makes their self-talk worse through control, trying, and suppressing.

• The adept makes their self-talk start to follow morality more and more through surrender.

• The teacher has their self-talk under virtue, not ego or self-esteem.

• The wise has their self-talk responsible for virtuous results.


#Listen #Hear: 2017-02-08

• You know what channel you are watching on TV, but do you know what channel you are watching in your mind?

• You know what channel you are listening to on the radio, but do you know what channel you are listening to in your mind?

• Experiment with asking your self-talk or thinking, “What did you just say? I didn’t hear all of it.”

• Experiment with asking your self-talk or thinking, “What do you want or intend? I am not sure I know.”

• Experiment with asking your self-talk or thinking, “What are you saying or thinking that I am or am not? I cannot tell who you think I am.”


#Desire #Poverty: 2017-02-12

• Desire poverty of self-images.

• Desire poverty of self-concepts.

• Desire poverty of self-talk.

• Desire poverty of self-stories.

• Desire poverty of self-scripts.


#Says #Self-talk: 2017-03-24

• Self-talk says that you are helpless and weak which makes your self-talk not you.

• Self-talk says that you are ignorant and stupid which makes your self-talk not you.

• Self-talk says that you are broken and defective which makes your self-talk not you.

• Self-talk says that you are inadequate and worthless which makes your self-talk not you.

• Self-talk says that you are and an outcast and unwanted which makes your self-talk not you.


#Story #Narrative: 2017-03-28

• What self-narratives and self-stories are you living in while you edit, criticize, and rewrite them?

• Where are your self-narratives and self-stories from the past that you no longer believe in or repeat in your self-talk?

• Who is living your self-narratives and self-stories from the past that you no longer believe in or repeat in your self-talk?

• Do your self-narratives and self-stories get stored in some mystical library or do they just dissolve like all delusions and illusions?

• Yes, self-narratives and self-stories can be used to self-direct and self-motivate, but that does not make ego-stories necessary, real, sane, or spiritual.


#Mind #Delight: 2017-05-23

• Is your mind a delight or a burden?

• Is your outlook elevated or downcast?

• Is your attitude mending or sickening?

• Is your thinking uplifting or demeaning?

• Is your self-talk encouraging or discouraging?


#Cope #Redirect: 2017-06-05

• People cope with self-talk by turning its criticalness onto causes and politics.

• People cope with self-talk by turning its nagging onto those they live with.

• People cope with self-talk by turning its quibbling onto others through gossip.

• People cope with self-talk by turning its faultfinding onto the media, the news, and TV shows.

• People cope with self-talk by turning its carping onto other races, religions, or other self-righteous targets.


#Recognize #Self-Talk: 2017-06-06

• Recognize that self-talk is neither practical nor productive.

• Recognize that self-talk is your worst energy and time waster.

• Recognize that self-talk is talking about concepts, ideas, and images of human beings, but never human beings themselves.

• Recognize that self-talk is dehumanizing, because it talks about you as behaviors, comparisons, and things, not as a living being.

• Recognize that self-talk adheres to no consistent, logical, or rational processes; but, instead, follows chaotic, desperate, and erratic processes.


#Remove #Self-Talk: 2017-06-07

• Remove self-talk by strongly experiencing and feeling self-talk as being impractical and unproductive.

• Remove self-talk by strongly experiencing and feeling that self-talk is your worst energy and time waster.

• Remove self-talk by strongly experiencing and feeling that self-talk is talking about concepts, ideas, and images of human beings, but never human beings themselves.

• Remove self-talk by strongly experiencing and feeling that self-talk is dehumanizing, because self-talk talks about you as behaviors, comparisons, and things, not as a living being.

• Remove self-talk by strongly experiencing and feeling that self-talk adheres to no consistent, logical, or rational processes; but, instead, follows chaotic, desperate, erratic, and foolish processes.


#Replace #Self-Talk: 2017-06-08

• Replace self-talk with practical and productive thoughts, feelings, and actions that are antagonistic to or in opposition to self-talk.

• Replace self-talk by investing your energy and time in your relationships, values, and your belief in the equality and universality of human nature.

• Replace self-talk by refusing to use concepts, ideas, and images of human beings; and, instead, to always honor all people as indescribable and unknowable beings.

• Replace dehumanizing self-talk by refusing to reduce any human being to behaviors, comparisons, things, or thoughts; and, by accepting all human beings but not all human behaviors.

• Replace self-talk’s inconsistent, illogical, and irrational processes with consistent, logical, and rational processes that are based upon evidence, experience, and results.


#Follow #Out: 2017-06-19

• Do not respond to self-talk.

• Do not defend against self-talk.

• Do not obey or submit to self-talk.

• Do not engage with or relate to self-talk.

• Follow out, hear out, meditate out, and thereby bring self-talk to its natural end.


#Object #Thing: 2017-06-23

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as a thing.

• Self-esteem and self-talk view your self as an object.

• Self-esteem and self-talk regard your self as a doll or mannequin for clothing and reclothing.

• Self-esteem and self-talk consider your self to be a painting that is always in need of repainting.

• Self-esteem and self-talk believe your self to be a movie that needs continual editing and rewriting.


#Marionette #Puppet: 2017-06-24

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as a marionette or puppet to be controlled.

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as an effigy to be embarrassed and shamed.

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as a voodoo doll to be tortured in order to make you behave better.

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as a cartoon character that needs to be redrawn to conform to ever changing standards.

• Self-esteem and self-talk treat your self as a print or portrait that needs to be modified to fit ever changing demands and expectations.


#Thought #Thing: 2017-06-25

• Should self be reduced to things and thoughts for the sake of the machinations and manipulations of ego, self-esteem, and self-talk?

• Should self be reduced to behaviors and habits for the sake of the machinations and manipulations of ego, self-esteem, and self-talk?

• Should self be reduced to cartoons and movies for the sake of the machinations and manipulations of ego, self-esteem, and self-talk?

• Should self be reduced to concepts and images for the sake of the machinations and manipulations of ego, self-esteem, and self-talk?

• Should self be reduced to experiences and memories for the sake of the machinations and manipulations of ego, self-esteem, and self-talk?


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  5. Self-Esteem Issues: List of Pages
  6. Self-Nature Issues: 3 Duties of Self-Realization
  7. Self-Nature Issues: Find Your Host Nature

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