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Self-Esteem Is Something, Not Someone

7 Step Plan to Reduce Ego

Self-Esteem Is Knowing Self As Something You Possess

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

Self-esteem can be understood as a claim to know self as something.

  • The prerequisite for knowing is owning.

That is, in order to claim to know, you first must claim to possess.

This limits self-esteem to areas in which you can have something or at least to claim to have something.

  • Therefore, self-esteem issues can concern anything that a person claims they have.

Typical areas of having, of claims for possession are: experience, abilities, property, knowledge, opinions of others, accomplishments, friends, money, power, fame, potential, likability, looks, education, titles, heritage, behaviors, thoughts, feelings, memories, sensations, personality, humor, intelligence, etc.

Self Is Knowledge

  • Self-esteem claims you are what you possess, what you know.
  • Therefore, if what you have is bad, then you are bad. Conversely, if what you have is good, then you are good.
  • Hence, you become knowledge instead of a person, a being.
  • I am what I have. I know what I have. I can identify with what I know. I feel what I think I am.

5 Thoughts that Lead to Feeling Like Things, Not Like a Being

  1. I have something.
  2. I know that thing.
  3. I identify with that thing.
  4. I am that thing.
  5. I feel like that thing.

Quotations from Various Sources

“A nickname is the heaviest stone that the devil can throw at a man. It is a bugbear to the imagination, and, though we do not believe in it, it still haunts our apprehensions.” —William Hazlitt

“Self-esteem steals souls.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“You are an intricate mechanism, but comparison, judgment, identification prevent comprehension.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV, p. 2

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