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10 Questions End Self-Esteem Games

10 Questions End Self-Esteem Lies


Human Beings Cannot Be Reduced to Their Bodily Actions

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

“Once you label me, you negate me.” —Søren Kierkegaard


You Are a Being, Not Self-Esteem Images or Concepts of Your Physical Behaviors.

  • Because You Are Not Your Behaviors or Judgments of Your Behaviors.
  • Because You Are Not the Actions that You Take or Do Not Take.
  • Because You Are Not Your Habits or Memories of Your Habits.

10 Parts of a Human Being

Most people will agree that they are being at least ALL of the following 10 ways ALL of the time:

  • heart, soul, mind, body, senses, sensations, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and memories.

However, most people are trained to judge themselves as their good or bad behaviors to feed their ego more self-images and self-concepts.

Correct this error by asking yourself the following 10 questions whenever you rate yourself for having or being any action.


10 Questions to Challenge Self-Esteem’s Labeling of People

  1. Is my HEART that action?
  2. Is my SOUL that action?
  3. Is my MIND that action?
  4. Is my BODY that action?
  5. Are ALL my SENSES that action?
  6. Are ALL my SENSATIONS that action?
  7. Are ALL my THOUGHTS that action?
  8. Are ALL my FEELINGS that action?
  9. Are ALL my BEHAVIORS that behavior?
  10. Are ALL my MEMORIES that action?

The Answer Is “No”

You can easily answer “No!” to each question; therefore, you are not the behaviors that you judged or rated yourself to be.

Obviously, since you are being heart, soul, mind, body, senses, sensations, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and memories at ALL times—you CANNOT also be just one or even a few of them or some of your behaviors at any one time.

  • You can only be ALL that you are at any one time.

To think that you are less than what you are is an obvious error and mistake that serves only ego by its new name of self-esteem.


For Example—

  • If someone calls you a name—that cannot make you anything.
  • You can never become someone’s opinion of you because you are so much more than mere descriptions, images, concepts, labels, names, or thoughts about your experiences.

To prove this to yourself, remember a time when you or someone else labeled you as “stupid” for making a mistake or doing something stupid.

Now, ask yourself if that was or is true–by remembering the 10 parts you always are and by asking if each one of those 10 parts is stupid just because you did a stupid thing and so were mislabeled as stupid.

The answer is “NO!,” you are not stupid even if what you did was stupid.

  • You CANNOT be a stupid behavior!
  • You CANNOT be stupid because stupid is a label or a judgment, not a person!

People Are Not Names

Now you know the truth that to label people or to call people names is just to lie.

  • We can accurately label experiences, but not people, not human beings!

People Are Not Self-Images

  • You are not your physical actions.
  • You are not your opinions of your physical actions.
  • You are not other people’s opinions of your physical actions.
  • You are not your self-images or self-concepts about or as your physical actions.
  • You are not other people’s self-images or self-concepts for you as your physical actions.

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Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“I often marvel how it is that though each man loves himself beyond all else, he should yet value his own opinion of himself less than that of others.” —Marcus Aurelius, 121-180 A.D. 

“It is my contention that the promotion of ‘self-esteem’ has done demonstrably more harm than good, and that the prudent individual will resist the arrogant and childish temptation to ‘esteem himself.’” —David Mills, Overcoming “Self-Esteem” Why Our Compulsive Drive for “Self-Esteem” Is Anxiety-Provoking, Socially Inhibiting, and Self-Sabotaging 

“Perfection does not consist in macerating or killing the body, but in killing our perverse self-will.” —Catherine of Siena 

“Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.” —Albert Ellis, Ph.D., the most famous and influential living psychologist in the world, Psychology Today, February, 2001, p. 72, in the interview, “The Prince of Reason,” with the famous psychologist Robert Epstein, Ph.D. 

“Self-esteem steals souls.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“The assumption being that if high-risk children could be made to ‘feel good about themselves,’ these epidemics could be mitigated. … This prescription, unfortunately, has proven to be yet another in a long list of nouveau homilies that haven’t lived up to their promises.” —John Rosemond, Plan To Build Self-Esteem Backfires, August 1996 syndicated newspaper column regarding research done at Case Western Reserve University and the University of Virginia 

“The first step man takes in self-confidence, removes him so far from the confidence he ought to have in God.” —Marguerite of Navarre 

“The societal pursuit of high self-esteem for everyone may literally end up doing considerable harm.” —Roy F. Baumeister, Joseph M. Boden, and Laura Smart, Psychological Review, February 1996 

“There is little reason to believe self-esteem leads to academic achievement or is even necessary for academic success. It is therefore crucial to delegitimize the education establishment’s mindless glorification of self-esteem.” —Nina H. Shokraii, “The Self-Esteem Fraud: Feel-Good Education Does not Lead to Academic Success,” USA Today Magazine, January 1998 

“What others think of us would be of little moment did it not, when known, so deeply tinge what we think of ourselves.” —Lucius Annaeus Seneca, 4 B.C. ? to 65 A.D. 

“You are an intricate mechanism, but comparison, judgment, identification prevent comprehension.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV, p. 2 

“You never exist quite so much as when you are not thinking.” —Friedrich Nietzsche, 1844-1900, German philosopher

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