Author: Kevin Evertt FitzMaurice, M.S.

1. People have desires and feelings that they defend against being aware of.2. People have motives and thoughts that they defend against being aware of.3. People have psychological payoffs and rewards that they defend against being aware of.4. People h…

1. Guilt and shame are constructed feelings, and what is constructed can be deconstructed.2. Depression is a set of constructed attitudes, and what is constructed can be deconstructed.3. Pride and superiority are constructed feelings, and what is const…

1. Hate the practices of ego, not the ego-bound.2. Hate the practices of self-becoming, not the self-absorbed.3. Hate the practices of self-esteem, not the self-esteem zombies.4. Hate the practices of self-talk and self-stories, not those lost in self-…

1. Hate the practices of ego, not the ego-bound.2. Hate the practices of self-becoming, not the self-absorbed.3. Hate the practices of self-esteem, not the self-esteem zombies.4. Hate the practices of self-talk and self-stories, not those lost in self-…

1. Hate the practices of ego, not the ego-bound.2. Hate the practices of self-becoming, not the self-absorbed.3. Hate the practices of self-esteem, not the self-esteem zombies.4. Hate the practices of self-talk and self-stories, not those lost in self-…

1. Hate the process of sin, not the sinner.2. Hate the process of illogic, not the illogical.3. Hate the process of insanity, not the insane.4. Hate the process of foolishness, not the fool.5. Hate the process of irrationality, not the irrational.

1. Facts are not knowing.2. Facts are usually able to be confirmed with “yes” or “no” answers.3. Facts are simple forms of data that usually consist of verifiable information like dates, colors, figures, labels, names, numbers, orders, sequences, shape…

5 Things to Learn in Counseling1. How to cope better.2. How to problem-solve better.3. How to know when to cope or to problem-solve.4. How to develop the two types of perspective-taking.5. How to find and regain your original identity.

•1 Self-esteem a.k.a. ego has two goals: (1) prevent becoming negative mental content; (2) work to become positive mental content.•2 Self-esteem defends against being negative mental content using many methods including covering, hiding, faking, and ly…

•1 Self-esteem a.k.a. ego has two goals: (1) prevent becoming negative mental content; (2) work to become positive mental content.•2 Self-esteem defends against being negative mental content using many methods including covering, hiding, faking, and ly…