• Civilized societies move from physical violence to emotional violence and back again.
• Emotional violence takes societies a long time to admit, combat, and understand.
• Emotional-violence games are more easily won by women just as physical-violence games are more easily won by men.
• Emotional-violence games are lost by all players in that the winners become meaner and the losers become more angry and resentful.
• Studies show that emotional violence is more damaging and long lasting than is physical violence, because emotional violence more readily affects identity than does physical violence.