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Counseling Notes on Cognitive Dissonance, Suicidology, & Schizophrenia

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Counseling Notes: Cognitive Dissonance

  • Cognitive dissonance is a two-edged sword.
  • Cognitive dissonance is when one experiences enough discomfort to see a need to change.
  • On the positive side, the change can be to switch thinking, feeling, or behaving for the better.
  • On the negative side, the change can be to stop counseling to stop the dissonance, the discomfort.
  • Cognitive dissonance can be addressed by helping clients see that all change involves discomfort and awkwardness.
  • Cognitive dissonance can be framed as an advantage, a sign that progress is occurring, an awareness of the need for change, and a stage in the change process.
  • Cognitive dissonance is what clients are experiencing when they tell you: it’s too hard to change, it’s not me, it doesn’t feel right, it feels phony, it feels unnatural.

Counseling Notes: Suicidology

  • When checking for suicidal thinking, you must learn to check for homicidal thinking as well.
  • Why? Because suicide is sometimes framed as homicide in the mind of the client.

Counseling Notes: Seeking Revenge

  • The person who commits suicide as an act of homicide is seeking revenge.
  • It is their fantasy that they live as the murderer of someone or something else by killing themselves as that someone or something else.
  • In Object Relations terms, they are the object of the murderer seeking revenge, and they are killing themselves as the object of the other.
  • They consider this duality of self and other, and the other is dying, not the self.
  • So, look for anger, revenge, and an immature relational style to help discover those who commit suicide to kill or punish others.

Counseling Notes: Schizophrenia

  • These thoughts apply to other psychotic disorders as well.

Counseling Notes: Self-Talk Madness

  • The schizophrenic has an unusual self-talk system.
  • The schizophrenic has the typical dualistic self-talk system of having an internal dialogue between positive and negative opinions of oneself and one’s behaviors.
  • However, this dialogue is complicated and interrupted by a second dialectic from a competing self-talk set that is not owned by the self, but that is seen as coming from outside self: society, life, or God.
  • Since both of these self-talk systems are occurring simultaneously, they compete for the individual’s time, attention, and resources.
  • This puts the individual under a lot of stress, which causes emotional and mental wear and tear.
  • This state of constant conflict and suffering is occasionally resolved and relieved through extreme behaviors.
  • If you counsel a schizophrenic, then you should know that they will likely perceive you as speaking for their second and competing self-talk dialectic.

Counseling Notes: Quotations Various Sources

Listed Alphabetically

“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce

“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” —Hebrews 12:8

“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194

“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5

“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6

“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7

“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11

“The great man is he who does not lose his child-heart.” —Mencius

“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.” —Julien Green

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn, and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

Counseling Notes: Quotations from Scripture

Listed Biblically

“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5

“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14

“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15

“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20

“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22

“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20

“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18

“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3

“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2

“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18

“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13

“Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25