Issues & Skills Menu: 9 Sections

• 1. Anger Issues
• 2. Blame Issues
• 3. Communication Skills
• 4. Coping Skills
• 5. Counseling Issues
• 6. Praying Issues
• 7. Recovery Issues
• 8. Responsibility Issues
• 9. Thinking Skills

1. ANGER ISSUES: Free Information

Anger Issues & Anger Magement

• Breathe will teach you how to relax and regain self-control in just 4 seconds.

“Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. Act Against Anger: Deal with Negative Feelings
2. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4
3. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
4. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected
5. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example
6. Facts about Anger
7. Quotations by Topic: Anger
8. Shit Happens, Deal with It
9. STPHFR Understand Your Anger
10. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
11. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
12. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
13. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal

Related Pages

1. Coping Skills: Anxiety–12 Steps of Reacting
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Scripture by Topic: Anger

2. BLAME ISSUES: Free Information

Damning & Blaming Issues

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

1. 5 Styles for Standards & Quality (5TP)
2. Blame 6 Levels
3. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
4. Control What You Can
5. Control What You Choose to Feed
6. Damning: Attachment & Detachment
7. Damning & Blaming Increase Problems
8. Damning & Blaming: Consequences of
9. Damning Defeats Coping
10. Damning Self & The 7 Main Emotions
11. Damning: Shoulds & Ego
12. Damning: The Problem & The Solution
13. Damning Traits versus Correction Traits
14. Damning, Whining & Blaming Prevent Solutions
15. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
16. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
17. One Hundred Reasons to Stop Damning
18. Quotations by Topic: Damning & Blaming
19. Response of Responsibility
20. Scripture by Topic: Damning
21. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
22. Use Negation, Not Destruction

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1. Coping Skills: Becoming Is the Enemy
2. Coping Skills: Depression–12 Steps of Reacting
3. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
4. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
5. Responsibility Issues: Parable on Responsibility

3. COMMUNICATION SKILLS: Free Information

Communication Skills, Methods & Practices

• Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition will help you to improve your attitude, which improves everything else.

“First, don’t interpret or add to what they said–just hear it and share it back.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 5 Parenting Styles (5TP)
2. Communication Dualities
3. Communication: Memes Teach How to Communicate
4. Difficult People: How to Handle
5. Don’t Argue Reality
6. Double-Binds: How to Respond
7. Ego Maintains Fights
8. Eighteen Communication Guides
9. Emotional Responsibility
10. Empathic to Narcissistic: 5 Styles Using 5TP
11. Golden Rule: To Have Friends Be a Friend
12. Happy Relationships Are Easy
13. “I” Statements for Less Conflict
14. “I” Statements: Advanced Version
15. Ins & Outs of Communication
16. Marital Conflict Solved
17. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
18. Parenting: A Strategy of Reciprocity
19. Parenting: Help Children Think for Themselves
20. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
21. Parenting: Single Parenting Issues
22. Passive to Aggressive: 5 Styles Using 5TP
23. Personalizing: Why did they do that to me?
24. Relational Styles: 25 Based on 5 Thinking Positions
25. Relationship Healing Exercise Using 5TP
26. Roles As Masks
27. Semantics & Words
28. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
29. What Do Men Want?
30. What Do Women Want?
31. What’s It All About?
32. Whiners: Learn How to Stop Them

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1. Counseling & Psychotherapy Issues: List of Pages
2. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
3. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
4. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
5. Quotations by Topic: Communication
6. Self-Esteem Issues: Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
7. Scripture by Topic: Gossip

4. COPING SKILLS: Free Information

Coping Methods, Skills & Practices

• Stress for Success, Second Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to make stress work for you.

1. 2 Healthy Options for Coping
2. 4 Seconds Is All You Need
3. 5 Keys for Right Meditation
4. 5 Stress Attitudes Using 5TP
5. 5 Stress Kinds or Types Using 5TP
6. 5As of Coping with Life & Reality
7. 5Fs of the Survival Instinct (5TP)
8. 6 Styles of Failing to Cope
9. 7 Steps of Suppression: No-ting
10. 10 Ways to Change & Control Others
11. 12 Steps Stop Shit
12. Acceptance: A Step Towards
13. Alone Is Not Lonely
14. Anxiety & Worry
15. Anxiety & Worry: 12 Steps of Reacting
16. Attitude Power
17. Becoming Is the Enemy
18. Better Choose Better
19. Books for Reading & Reference
20. Bored Are Boring!
21. Clean Your Mind
22. Coherence Is the Goal
23. Coping Quotations: AA
24. Coping Quotations: Alone
25. Coping Quotations: Anger
26. Coping Quotations: Dealing with Difficulties
27. Coping Quotations: Worry
28. Coping Statements & Phrases
29. Coping Statements to Repeat
30. Correction Is My Friend or Foe?
31. Depression: 12 Steps of Reacting
32. Detachment & Identity
33. Dieting: Lose Weight Permanently
34. Do the Right Thing Anyway
35. Effort Is Inescapable: Choose Right Effort
36. Emotional Maturity & Responsibility
37. Failure Is Not Final
38. Fair or Equal Is a Death Wish
39. Feelings & Coping: Memes
40. Forgiveness Requires Forgiveness
41. Four Steps to End Emotional Pain
42. Garden Your Mind: 3Rs
43. Green Tea: List of Pages
44. Humility Is Not Humiliating
45. Inner Conflict
46. Instant Yoga
47. Make Worse to Make Better As a Strategy
48. Maturity: 6 Levels for Your Happiness
49. Maturity Defined & Quotations On Maturity
50. Mindfulness Is Either Animalism Or Spiritualism
51. Miscellaneous Quotations this Author
52. Morning Reading Promoting Coping
53. Negative Feelings: How to Deal With
54. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
55. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
56. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
57. Poem on Self-Care First
58. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
59. Preferences Over Shoulds Over Musts
60. Problem & Solution
61. Procrastination with 3 Solutions
62. Roles versus Masks
63. Secret of Life
64. Self-Defeating Behaviors
65. Shame of Self Is an Enemy
66. Six Steps to End Emotional Pain
67. Stop Acting Stupid
68. Stress Is Musts
69. Suffering: The Cause of
70. Think Better Feel Better
71. Three Kinds of Meditation
72. Three Simple Steps to Sanity
73. Three Tests for Practical Living
74. Two Healthy Options: Problem-Solving & Coping
75. Weakness Is Strength
76. What I Learned from Riding a Bicycle
77. Why Not Why?
78. Why Wait for Magic?
79. Work Is Wonderful
80. Worry: What Is Worry Good For?
81. Yoga for Coping, Recovery, Relaxation, & Health

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1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. Blame Issues: Damning Defeats Coping
3. Blame Issues: Damning, Whining & Blaming
4. Communication Skills: Parenting–4 Main Failures
5. Communication Skills: Parenting–A Strategy
6. Communication Skills: Parenting–Kevin’s 8 Rules
7. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
8. Quotations by Topic: Coping with Difficulties
9. Quotations by Topic: Solitude
10. Recovery Issues: Cause of Addictions
11. Responsibility Issue: Parable on Responsibility
12. Responsibility Issues: Trying is Planning to Fail
13. Scripture by Topic: Temptation
14. Thinking Skills: Meditation Right
15. Viktor Frankl on Meaning As Coping (youtube): External Link

5. COUNSELING ISSUES: Free Information

Psychotherapy & Counseling

• Carl Rogers, Control Freak will teach you the real technique and how to save it.
• Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
2. 9 Superstitions of Counselors & Therapists Regarding Feelings
3. Albert Ellis 2nd Most Influential Psychotherapist: External Link
4. Albert Ellis: “The New Yorker” Article
5. Answering “Why” Something Happened
6. Anxiety: Notes on
7. Better Choose Better
8. Books for Reading & Reference
9. Brief CBT Explained in 6 Lines
10. Brief CBT Explained in 12 Lines
11. CBT, REBT & FitzMaurice
12. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), CT & REBT Quotations
13. Carl Rogers, How to Save His Work
14. Change & 15 Beliefs Regarding Change
15. Change: Is it Possible?
16. Chemical Imbalance Theory Debunked: External Link
17. Client Intake & Processing Forms
18. Client’s Rights & Responsibilities
19. Conditioning Factors: Many Kinds
20. Confidentiality: 10 Limits to
21. Copyright Information
22. Counseling Notes on
23. Counseling Relationship: Is it Really Everything?
24. Couple Counseling Strategy
25. Dental Analogy of Counseling (3Rs)
26. Depression: Notes on
27. Disclaimer Information Regarding Intention of this Website
28. Emotional Control: Use Your Tools
29. Emotional Responsibility
30. Emotions: 7 Problematic
31. External or Internal Focus?
32. Feeling Superstitions: 9 Common Ones of Counselors
33. Feelings & Coping: Memes
34. First Question in Counseling
35. Four Keys to Counseling
36. Four Keys to Mental Health
37. Four Kinds of Counselors
38. Free Handouts in PDF Format: 91
39. Freedom: Psychological
40. Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
41. GAADSAP Emotions & No-ting
42. Garden Your Mind to Keep it Healthy
43. Golden Rule of Mental Health
44. Insight Levels & Movement
45. Law of Attraction & Visualization
46. Maturity & Emotions
47. Mental Health Field Professions Defined
48. Metatheory of Counseling: 3Rs
49. Motivating Questions to Ask
50. Motivation: 3Ps of
51. Move Beyond Duality Technique (MBD)
52. Movies: Recommended for Being Good
53. Musts: Friend & Foe
54. Nine Fundamental Thinking Errors
55. Nine Ways to Upset Yourself & Others
56. Psychoanalysis: The Problems with Solutions
57. Questions to Ask Yourself
58. Questions (10) to Ask a Prospective Counselor
59. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
60. REBT: What is REBT?
61. REBT Is Deeper than CBT, CT & other Counseling Theories
62. REBT’s 4 Issues As a System
63. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts for Life
64. REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
65. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
66. REBT’s Main Website
67. REBT Websites for More Information: External Links
68. Reasons Why You Do What You Do
69. Reform Versus Mental Health
70. Relate to Experience: How do you?
71. Second Question in Counseling
72. Self-talk: 4 Options for Dealing with Disturbing
73. Seven Questions to Ask Yourself
74. Sigmund Freud: Ego Defense Mechanisms
75. STPHFR Insights on Emotions
76. STPHFR Theory of Emotions
77. Test Your Thinking for its Results
78. The 3Rs of Counseling
79. The 4Rs of Skill Learning
80. Therapy Simplified Into 4 Opposing Issues
81. Third Question in Counseling
82. Thirty-five Stages of Switching or Counseling
83. Three Client Types
84. Three Goals of Counseling
85. Three Stages of Switching or Counseling
86. Three Treatment Plan Goals & 3 Session Goals
87. Transference & Counseling
88. Trauma Treatment Information
89. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
90. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples
91. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons
92. Ventilation: To Reinforce or To Let Go?
93. Victim Script Defined
94. Visualization: The Technique

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1. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
2. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
3. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Websites External Links
4. Responsibility Issues: Shoelaces Parable on Responsibility
5. Scripture by Topic: Counseling
6. Self-Esteem Issues: List of Pages
7. Thinking Skills: Seven Thinking Errors of CT

6. PRAYING ISSUES: Free Information

Praying & Prayers

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.” —Matthew 6:5-6

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.” —Søren Kierkegaard

1. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann
2. Lord’s Prayer: New Testament
3. Morning Reading to Promote Serenity
4. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
5. Right Prayer
6. Prayer of Saint Francis
7. “Serenity Prayer” by Reinhold Niebuhr
8. Surrender Prayer
9. What You Serve Is What You Get
10. When & Where to Pray: New Testament

Related Pages

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. New Testament: List of Links to Books
3. Poems by Topic: Be Me
4. Poems by Topic: Churchianity
5. Poems by Topic: Fight the Good Fight
6. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
7. Poems by Topic: Pray for Suffering
8. Poems by Topic: Reflections
9. Poems by Topic: Somebody Please
10. Poems by Topic: Upside-Down
11. Poems by Topic: Who is My World?
12. Scripture by Topic: List of Pages

7. RECOVERY ISSUES: Free Information

Addiction Recovery Issues & Topics

• Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
• Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

“Recovery is the process of recovering who you were as a child.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. 5 Levels of Living Life: Assess Yours
3. 12 Steps of Anger Reacting
4. 12 Steps of Anxiety Reacting
5. 12 Steps of Depression
6. 12 Steps of Recovery: Rewritten & Simplified
7. 12 Steps Stop Shit
8. 12 Steps to Keep the Shit Going
9. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Steps of
10. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Traditions of
11. Cause of Addictions
12. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
13. Desire Leads to Compulsion Leads to Addiction
14. Do the Good More & Do the Bad Less
15. Emotional Responsibility
16. Emotionalize New Behaviors & Beliefs
17. How to Quit in 5 Steps
18. No-ting Thinking Error
19. Quotations & Slogans from AA
20. Reduce Problems & Stress
21. Relapse Prevention: 3 Steps
22. SAD: 3 Step Program of Recovery
23. Secret of Life
24. Serenity Prayer: Help with Acceptance
25. Seven Pillars of Recovery
26. Stimulation As Motivation
27. Temptation: A Strategy to Overcome
28. The Four Absolutes: Oxford Group External Link
29. Use Negation, Not Destruction
30. Yoga for Coping, Recovery, Relaxation, & Health
31. Yoga Practice Points

Related Pages

1. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Quotations by Topic: Acceptance
5. Quotations by Topic: Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
6. Quotations by Topic: Coping Statements
7. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
8. Trying to Fail: List of Pages

8. RESPONSIBILITY ISSUES: Free Information

Responsibility Issues & Topics

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Responsibility is not limited to behavior. Responsibility must also be taken for thinking and feeling if one wishes to claim maturity.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 3Rs: Recognize, Remove & Replace Problems
2. About It, Is Not It
3. Apologies Can Be Real
4. Better Choose Better
5. Blame 6 Levels
6. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
7. Challenging & Disputing Thinking Errors
8. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
9. Control What You Can
10. Control What You Choose to Feed
11. Drum Circle Experiment
12. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
13. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
14. Feed Feelings: 12 Ways
15. Feelings & Coping: Memes
16. Fights Diagram: Ego Causes & Maintains Hurt & Anger
17. First Fix Your Problem with Your Problem
18. Four Seconds Is All You Need to Relax
19. Golden Rule: The (Quotations)
20. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
21. Meditation Simplified
22. Motivation 6 Step Cycle from Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition
23. Non-Doing & Non-Action
24. Parable on Responsibility
25. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
26. Response of Responsibility
27. Secret of Life
28. Seek-or-Shun Response & 5TP
29. Self-Control: Act Opposite of Feelings
30. Shoelaces Parable: 4 Life Lessons
31. S-R Thinking (Stimulus-Response)
32. STPHFR Infographic
33. STPHFR Model Explains Feelings & Behaviors
34. Start Right to Finish Right
35. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
36. Suffer Well: Choice Helps
37. Trying Is Planning to Fail
38. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
39. Will: The 7 Options for What to Will

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1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Coping Skills: Control Others
4. Coping Skills: Why Wait for Magic?
5. Counseling Issues: 9 Feeling Superstitions
6. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
7. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
8. Quotations by Topic: Responsibility

9. THINKING SKILLS: Free Information

Thinking Skills, Tools & Right Reasoning

• We’re All Insane! Second Edition will teach you how to think better and saner.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent of the people think they think; and ninety-five percent of the people would rather die than think.” —George Bernard Shaw

Thinking Skills Can Help You To–

• Learn how to think instead of what to think.
• Discover how to think to help, not hinder yourself.
• Discover how claims to know, do, or be are detrimental to your sanity.
• Discover how deconstructivism can help free you from the tyranny of concepts for open experiencing.

Pages to Help You Think Better & Clearer

1. 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace): Memes
2. 5 Keys for Right Meditation
3. 5 Thinking Positions (5TP): Memes
4. 6 Styles of Thinking
5. 7 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
6. 8 Thinking Skills for Detaching
7. 9 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
8. 12 Levels of Existence from We’re All Insane!
9. Atheism Is Superstitious
10. Ballet & Thinking
11. Beyond The Duality of Opposites
12. Big versus Small Thinking
13. Both-And Skill
14. Choice Is a Delusion
15. Circle Diagram of 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)
16. Constructivism: Pros & Cons
17. Continuum Knowledge
18. Deconstructivism: The Answer
19. Descartes’ Dualism & the 7 Realities
20. Discovery Demands 5TP: The Evolution of Perspective
21. Duality & Opposites
22. Eastern Psychology
23. Ego’s Know-Better Payoffs
24. Ego: The Four Kinds
25. Ego: The Tripartite Nature of
26. Evolution Exploitation Exposed
27. Five Survival Styles (5TP)
28. Five Thinking Positions (5TP): Explained
29. Five Thinking Styles (5TP)
30. General Semantics & Contact
31. Global Attitudes
32. Hierarchy Natural
33. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
34. How to Help the Poor
35. How to Save or Change the World
36. Human Rights: United Nations Declaration
37. Know, Do, & Be Thinking
38. Levels of Existence: Basic 3
39. Life Is Positive, Neutral, Or Negative?
40. Limitations of Thought
41. Meditation: The Right Kind
42. Messenger & Message Problem
43. Mind Is a Magnet
44. Nazi Thinking: Hive Mind
45. Nine Causes of Everyday Madness or Neurosis
46. One + One = Three
47. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
48. Perspective-Taking Book: Discovery Demands 5TP
49. Perspective-Taking Thinking Skill
50. Pinhead Arguments Rarely Work
51. Postmodern Foolishness
52. Postmodernism & Constructivism Exposed
53. Problem-Solving
54. Quotations on Thinking
55. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
56. Rational & Helpful Thoughts: 50
57. Revolution: How to Succeed
58. Science versus Scientism
59. Second-Order Thinking
60. Self: The Model of
61. Semantics & Words
62. Spiritual Development 12 Stages
63. Spiritual Development: First 5 of the 15
64. Spiritual Development: Second 5 of the 15
65. Spiritual Development: Third 5 of the 15
66. Spirituality: What Is it?
67. STPHFR Model of Feelings
68. Superstitions: 9 about Feelings
69. Superstitions: 42 Modern Ones
70. Test Your Thinking
71. The Three Stooges & Failure
72. Thinking Errors: #1 or Primary Error
73. Thinking Errors: 4 Covering Methods
74. Thinking Errors: 4 of Ukraine System
75. Thinking Errors: 7 of Cognitive Therapy (CT)
76. Thinking Errors: 9 Basic Ones
77. Thinking Errors: 11 Irrational Beliefs from REBT
78. Thinking Errors: 12 Cognitive Biases (External link)
79. Thinking Errors: 100s in Planet Earth: Insane Asylum
80. Thinking Errors: No-ting or Undoing
81. Thinking Errors: List of Pages
82. Thinking Has Its Righ Place
83. Thinking Skills: Memes
84. Thinking Skills & Tools: List of Pages
85. Thinking Tests: List of Pages
86. Thinking Working on Thinking Fails
87. Thought As Ruler Is Failure
88. Universality: The Way of Peace
89. Use Negation, Not Destruction
90. What Is Thinking Good For?
91. What Is Yoga? What Is Instant Yoga?
92. What, How & Why Questions
93. Who Is My World?: Poem
94. Word Sets for Using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)

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1. 5 Thinking Positions (5TP): List of Pages
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Communication Skills: Passive to Aggressive
4. Coping Skills: Think Better Feel Better
5. Counseling Issues: 25 Relational Styles
6. Critical Thinking Skills: External Link
7. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
8. Free Philosophy Courses: External Link
9. Quotations by Topic: Thinking
10. Responsibility Issues: About It Is Not It
11. Responsibility Issues: S-R Thinking
12. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR
13. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR Insights
14. Self-Esteem Issues: Feud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms