Issues & Skills Menu: 9 Sections

• 1. Anger Issues
• 2. Blame Issues
• 3. Communication Skills
• 4. Coping Skills
• 5. Counseling Issues
• 6. Praying Issues
• 7. Recovery Issues
• 8. Responsibility Issues
• 9. Thinking Skills

1. ANGER ISSUES: Free Information

Anger Issues & Anger Magement

• Breathe will teach you how to relax and regain self-control in just 4 seconds.

“Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. Act Against Anger: Deal with Negative Feelings
2. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4
3. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
4. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected
5. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example
6. Facts about Anger
7. Quotations by Topic: Anger
8. Shit Happens, Deal with It
9. STPHFR Understand Your Anger
10. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
11. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
12. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
13. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal

Related Pages

1. Coping Skills: Anxiety–12 Steps of Reacting
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Scripture by Topic: Anger

2. BLAME ISSUES: Free Information

Damning & Blaming Issues

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

1. 5 Styles for Standards & Quality (5TP)
2. Blame 6 Levels
3. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
4. Control What You Can
5. Control What You Choose to Feed
6. Damning: Attachment & Detachment
7. Damning & Blaming Increase Problems
8. Damning & Blaming: Consequences of
9. Damning Defeats Coping
10. Damning Self & The 7 Main Emotions
11. Damning: Shoulds & Ego
12. Damning: The Problem & The Solution
13. Damning Traits versus Correction Traits
14. Damning, Whining & Blaming Prevent Solutions
15. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
16. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
17. One Hundred Reasons to Stop Damning
18. Quotations by Topic: Damning & Blaming
19. Response of Responsibility
20. Scripture by Topic: Damning
21. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
22. Use Negation, Not Destruction

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1. Coping Skills: Becoming Is the Enemy
2. Coping Skills: Depression–12 Steps of Reacting
3. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
4. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
5. Responsibility Issues: Parable on Responsibility

3. COMMUNICATION SKILLS: Free Information

Communication Skills, Methods & Practices

• Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition will help you to improve your attitude, which improves everything else.

“First, don’t interpret or add to what they said–just hear it and share it back.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 5 Parenting Styles (5TP)
2. Communication Dualities
3. Difficult People: How to Handle
4. Don’t Argue Reality
5. Double-Binds: How to Respond
6. Ego Maintains Fights
7. Eighteen Communication Guides
8. Emotional Responsibility
9. Empathic to Narcissistic: 5 Styles Using 5TP
10. Golden Rule: To Have Friends Be a Friend
11. Happy Relationships Are Easy
12. “I” Statements for Less Conflict
13. “I” Statements: Advanced Version
14. Ins & Outs of Communication
15. Marital Conflict Solved
16. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
17. Parenting: A Strategy of Reciprocity
18. Parenting: Help Children Think for Themselves
19. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
20. Parenting: Single Parenting Issues
21. Passive to Aggressive: 5 Styles Using 5TP
22. Personalizing: Why did they do that to me?
23. Relational Styles: 25 Based on 5 Thinking Positions
24. Relationship Healing Exercise Using 5TP
25. Roles As Masks
26. Semantics & Words
27. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
28. What Do Men Want?
29. What Do Women Want?
30. What’s It All About?
31. Whiners: Learn How to Stop Them

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1. Counseling & Psychotherapy Issues: List of Pages
2. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
3. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
4. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
5. Quotations by Topic: Communication
6. Self-Esteem Issues: Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
7. Scripture by Topic: Gossip

4. COPING SKILLS: Free Information

Coping Methods, Skills & Practices

• Stress for Success, Second Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to make stress work for you.

1. 2 Healthy Options for Coping
2. 4 Seconds Is All You Need
3. 5 Stress Attitudes Using 5TP
4. 5 Stress Kinds or Types Using 5TP
5. 5As of Coping with Life & Reality
6. 5Fs of the Survival Instinct (5TP)
7. 10 Ways to Change & Control Others
8. 12 Steps Stop Shit
9. Acceptance: A Step Towards
10. Alone Is Not Lonely
11. Anxiety & Worry
12. Anxiety & Worry: 12 Steps of Reacting
13. Attitude Power
14. Becoming Is the Enemy
15. Better Choose Better
16. Books for Reading & Reference
17. Bored Are Boring!
18. Clean Your Mind
19. Coherence Is the Goal
20. Coping Quotations: AA
21. Coping Quotations: Alone
22. Coping Quotations: Anger
23. Coping Quotations: Dealing with Difficulties
24. Coping Quotations: Worry
25. Coping Statements to Repeat
26. Correction Is My Friend or Foe?
27. Depression: 12 Steps of Reacting
28. Detachment & Identity
29. Dieting: Lose Weight Permanently
30. Do the Right Thing Anyway
31. Effort Is Inescapable: Choose Right Effort
32. Emotional Maturity & Responsibility
33. Failure Is Not Final
34. Fair or Equal Is a Death Wish
35. Forgiveness Requires Forgiveness
36. Four Steps to End Emotional Pain
37. Garden Your Mind: 3Rs
38. Green Tea: List of Pages
39. Humility Is Not Humiliating
40. Inner Conflict
41. Instant Yoga
42. Maturity: 6 Levels for Your Happiness
43. Maturity Defined & Quotations On Maturity
44. Mindfulness Is Either Animalism Or Spiritualism
45. Miscellaneous Quotations this Author
46. Morning Reading Promoting Coping
47. Negative Feelings: How to Deal With
48. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
49. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
50. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
51. Poem on Self-Care First
52. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
53. Preferences Over Shoulds Over Musts
54. Problem & Solution
55. Procrastination with 3 Solutions
56. Roles versus Masks
57. Secret of Life
58. Self-Defeating Behaviors
59. Shame of Self Is an Enemy
60. Six Steps to End Emotional Pain
61. Stop Acting Stupid
62. Stress Is Musts
63. Suffering: The Cause of
64. Think Better Feel Better
65. Three Kinds of Meditation
66. Three Simple Steps to Sanity
67. Three Tests for Practical Living
68. Two Healthy Options: Problem-Solving & Coping
69. Weakness Is Strength
70. What I Learned from Riding a Bicycle
71. Why Not Why?
72. Why Wait for Magic?
73. Work Is Wonderful
74. Worry: What Is Worry Good For?

Related Pages

1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. Blame Issues: Damning Defeats Coping
3. Blame Issues: Damning, Whining & Blaming
4. Communication Skills: Parenting–4 Main Failures
5. Communication Skills: Parenting–A Strategy
6. Communication Skills: Parenting–Kevin’s 8 Rules
7. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
8. Quotations by Topic: Coping with Difficulties
9. Quotations by Topic: Solitude
10. Recovery Issues: Cause of Addictions
11. Responsibility Issue: Parable on Responsibility
12. Responsibility Issues: Trying is Planning to Fail
13. Scripture by Topic: Temptation
14. Thinking Skills: Meditation Right
15. Viktor Frankl on Meaning As Coping (youtube): External Link

5. COUNSELING ISSUES: Free Information

Psychotherapy & Counseling

• Carl Rogers, Control Freak will teach you the real technique and how to save it.
• Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
2. 9 Superstitions of Counselors & Therapists Regarding Feelings
3. Albert Ellis 2nd Most Influential Psychotherapist: External Link
4. Albert Ellis: “The New Yorker” Article
5. Answering “Why” Something Happened
6. Anxiety: Notes on
7. Better Choose Better
8. Books for Reading & Reference
9. Brief CBT Explained in 6 Lines
10. Brief CBT Explained in 12 Lines
11. CBT, REBT & FitzMaurice
12. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), CT & REBT Quotations
13. Carl Rogers, How to Save His Work
14. Change & 15 Beliefs Regarding Change
15. Change: Is it Possible?
16. Client Intake & Processing Forms
17. Client’s Rights & Responsibilities
18. Conditioning Factors: Many Kinds
19. Confidentiality: 10 Limits to
20. Copyright Information
21. Counseling Notes on
22. Counseling Relationship: Is it Really Everything?
23. Couple Counseling Strategy
24. Dental Analogy of Counseling (3Rs)
25. Depression: Notes on
26. Disclaimer Information Regarding Intention of this Website
27. Emotional Control: Use Your Tools
28. Emotional Responsibility
29. Emotions: 7 Problematic
30. External or Internal Focus?
31. Feeling Superstitions: 9 Common Ones of Counselors
32. First Question in Counseling
33. Four Keys to Counseling
34. Four Keys to Mental Health
35. Four Kinds of Counselors
36. Free Handouts in PDF Format: 91
37. Freedom: Psychological
38. Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
39. GAADSAP Emotions & No-ting
40. Garden Your Mind to Keep it Healthy
41. Golden Rule of Mental Health
42. Insight Levels & Movement
43. Law of Attraction & Visualization
44. Maturity & Emotions
45. Mental Health Field Professions Defined
46. Metatheory of Counseling: 3Rs
47. Motivating Questions to Ask
48. Motivation: 3Ps of
49. Move Beyond Duality Technique (MBD)
50. Movies: Recommended for Being Good
51. Musts: Friend & Foe
52. Nine Fundamental Thinking Errors
53. Nine Ways to Upset Yourself & Others
54. Psychoanalysis: The Problems with Solutions
55. Questions to Ask Yourself
56. Questions (10) to Ask a Prospective Counselor
57. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
58. REBT Is Deeper than CBT, CT & other Counseling Theories
59. REBT’s 4 Issues As a System
60. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts for Life
61. REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
62. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
63. REBT’s Main Website
64. REBT Websites for More Information: External Links
65. Reasons Why You Do What You Do
66. Reform Versus Mental Health
67. Relate to Experience: How do you?
68. Second Question in Counseling
69. Self-talk: 4 Options for Dealing with Disturbing
70. Seven Questions to Ask Yourself
71. Sigmund Freud: Ego Defense Mechanisms
72. STPHFR Insights on Emotions
73. STPHFR Theory of Emotions
74. Test Your Thinking for its Results
75. The 3Rs of Counseling
76. The 4Rs of Skill Learning
77. Therapy Simplified Into 4 Opposing Issues
78. Third Question in Counseling
79. Thirty-five Stages of Switching or Counseling
80. Three Client Types
81. Three Goals of Counseling
82. Three Stages of Switching or Counseling
83. Three Treatment Plan Goals & 3 Session Goals
84. Transference & Counseling
85. Trauma Treatment Information
86. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
87. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples
88. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons
89. Ventilation: To Reinforce or To Let Go?
90. Victim Script Defined
91. Visualization: The Technique

Related Pages

1. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
2. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
3. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Websites External Links
4. Responsibility Issues: Shoelaces Parable on Responsibility
5. Scripture by Topic: Counseling
6. Self-Esteem Issues: List of Pages
7. Thinking Skills: Seven Thinking Errors of CT

6. PRAYING ISSUES: Free Information

Praying & Prayers

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.” —Matthew 6:5-6

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.” —Søren Kierkegaard

1. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann
2. Lord’s Prayer: New Testament
3. Morning Reading to Promote Serenity
4. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
5. Right Prayer
6. Prayer of Saint Francis
7. “Serenity Prayer” by Reinhold Niebuhr
8. Surrender Prayer
9. What You Serve Is What You Get
10. When & Where to Pray: New Testament

Related Pages

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. New Testament: List of Links to Books
3. Poems by Topic: Be Me
4. Poems by Topic: Churchianity
5. Poems by Topic: Fight the Good Fight
6. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
7. Poems by Topic: Pray for Suffering
8. Poems by Topic: Reflections
9. Poems by Topic: Somebody Please
10. Poems by Topic: Upside-Down
11. Poems by Topic: Who is My World?
12. Scripture by Topic: List of Pages

7. RECOVERY ISSUES: Free Information

Addiction Recovery Issues & Topics

• Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
• Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

“Recovery is the process of recovering who you were as a child.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. 5 Levels of Living Life: Assess Yours
3. 12 Steps of Anger Reacting
4. 12 Steps of Anxiety Reacting
5. 12 Steps of Depression
6. 12 Steps of Recovery: Rewritten & Simplified
7. 12 Steps Stop Shit
8. 12 Steps to Keep the Shit Going
9. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Steps of
10. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Traditions of
11. Cause of Addictions
12. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
13. Do the Good More & Do the Bad Less
14. Emotional Responsibility
15. Emotionalize New Behaviors & Beliefs
16. How to Quit in 5 Steps
17. No-ting Thinking Error
18. Quotations & Slogans from AA
19. Reduce Problems & Stress
20. Relapse Prevention: 3 Steps
21. SAD: 3 Step Program of Recovery
22. Secret of Life
23. Serenity Prayer: Help with Acceptance
24. Seven Pillars of Recovery
25. Stimulation As Motivation
26. Temptation: A Strategy to Overcome
27. The Four Absolutes: Oxford Group External Link
28. Use Negation, Not Destruction
29. Yoga Practice Points

Related Pages

1. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Quotations by Topic: Acceptance
5. Quotations by Topic: Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
6. Quotations by Topic: Coping Statements
7. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
8. Trying to Fail: List of Pages

8. RESPONSIBILITY ISSUES: Free Information

Responsibility Issues & Topics

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Responsibility is not limited to behavior. Responsibility must also be taken for thinking and feeling if one wishes to claim maturity.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 3Rs: Recognize, Remove & Replace Problems
2. About It, Is Not It
3. Apologies Can Be Real
4. Better Choose Better
5. Blame 6 Levels
6. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
7. Challenging & Disputing Thinking Errors
8. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
9. Control What You Can
10. Control What You Choose to Feed
11. Drum Circle Experiment
12. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
13. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
14. Feed Feelings: 12 Ways
15. Fights Diagram: Ego Causes & Maintains Hurt & Anger
16. Four Seconds Is All You Need to Relax
17. Golden Rule: The (Quotations)
18. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
19. Meditation Simplified
20. Motivation 6 Step Cycle from Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition
21. Non-Doing & Non-Action
22. Parable on Responsibility
23. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
24. Response of Responsibility
25. Secret of Life
26. Seek-or-Shun Response & 5TP
27. Self-Control: Act Opposite of Feelings
28. Shoelaces Parable: 4 Life Lessons
29. S-R Thinking (Stimulus-Response)
30. STPHFR Infographic
31. STPHFR Model Explains Feelings & Behaviors
32. Start Right to Finish Right
33. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
34. Suffer Well: Choice Helps
35. Trying Is Planning to Fail
36. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
37. Will: The 7 Options for What to Will

Related Pages

1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Coping Skills: Control Others
4. Coping Skills: Why Wait for Magic?
5. Counseling Issues: 9 Feeling Superstitions
6. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
7. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
8. Quotations by Topic: Responsibility

9. THINKING SKILLS: Free Information

Thinking Skills, Tools & Right Reasoning

• We’re All Insane! Second Edition will teach you how to think better and saner.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent of the people think they think; and ninety-five percent of the people would rather die than think.” —George Bernard Shaw

Thinking Skills Can Help You To–

• Learn how to think instead of what to think.
• Discover how to think to help, not hinder yourself.
• Discover how claims to know, do, or be are detrimental to your sanity.
• Discover how deconstructivism can help free you from the tyranny of concepts for open experiencing.

Pages to Help You Think Better & Clearer

1. 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace): Memes
2. 6 Styles of Thinking
3. 7 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
4. 8 Thinking Skills for Detaching
5. 9 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
6. 12 Levels of Existence from We’re All Insane!
7. Atheism Is Superstitious
8. Ballet & Thinking
9. Beyond The Duality of Opposites
10. Big versus Small Thinking
11. Both-And Skill
12. Choice Is a Delusion
13. Circle Diagram of 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)
14. Constructivism: Pros & Cons
15. Continuum Knowledge
16. Deconstructivism: The Answer
17. Descartes’ Dualism & the 7 Realities
18. Discovery Demands 5TP: The Evolution of Perspective
19. Duality & Opposites
20. Eastern Psychology
21. Ego’s Know-Better Payoffs
22. Ego: The Four Kinds
23. Ego: The Tripartite Nature of
24. Evolution Exploitation Exposed
25. Five Survival Styles (5TP)
26. Five Thinking Positions (5TP): Explained
27. Five Thinking Styles (5TP)
28. General Semantics & Contact
29. Global Attitudes
30. Hierarchy Natural
31. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
32. How to Help the Poor
33. How to Save or Change the World
34. Human Rights: United Nations Declaration
35. Know, Do, & Be Thinking
36. Levels of Existence: Basic 3
37. Life Is Positive, Neutral, Or Negative?
38. Limitations of Thought
39. Meditation: The Right Kind
40. Messenger & Message Problem
41. Mind Is a Magnet
42. Nazi Thinking: Hive Mind
43. Nine Causes of Everyday Madness or Neurosis
44. One + One = Three
45. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
46. Perspective-Taking Book: Discovery Demands 5TP
47. Pinhead Arguments Rarely Work
48. Postmodern Foolishness
49. Postmodernism & Constructivism Exposed
50. Problem-Solving
51. Quotations on Thinking
52. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
53. Rational & Helpful Thoughts: 50
54. Revolution: How to Succeed
55. Science versus Scientism
56. Second-Order Thinking
57. Self: The Model of
58. Semantics & Words
59. Spiritual Development 12 Stages
60. Spiritual Development: First 5 of the 15
61. Spiritual Development: Second 5 of the 15
62. Spiritual Development: Third 5 of the 15
63. Spirituality: What Is it?
64. STPHFR Model of Feelings
65. Superstitions: 9 about Feelings
66. Superstitions: 42 Modern Ones
67. Test Your Thinking
68. The Three Stooges & Failure
69. Thinking Errors: #1 or Primary Error
70. Thinking Errors: 4 Covering Methods
71. Thinking Errors: 4 of Ukraine System
72. Thinking Errors: 7 of Cognitive Therapy (CT)
73. Thinking Errors: 9 Basic Ones
74. Thinking Errors: 11 Irrational Beliefs from REBT
75. Thinking Errors: 12 Cognitive Biases (External link)
76. Thinking Errors: 100s in Planet Earth: Insane Asylum
77. Thinking Errors: No-ting or Undoing
78. Thinking Working on Thinking Fails
79. Universality: The Way of Peace
80. Use Negation, Not Destruction
81. What Is Thinking Good For?
82. What Is Yoga? What Is Instant Yoga?
83. What, How & Why Questions
84. Who Is My World?: Poem
85. Word Sets for Using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)

Related Pages

1. 5 Thinking Positions (5TP): List of Pages
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Communication Skills: Passive to Aggressive
4. Coping Skills: Think Better Feel Better
5. Counseling Issues: 25 Relational Styles
6. Critical Thinking Skills: External Link
7. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
8. Free Philosophy Courses: External Link
9. Quotations by Topic: Thinking
10. Responsibility Issues: About It Is Not It
11. Responsibility Issues: S-R Thinking
12. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR
13. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR Insights
14. Self-Esteem Issues: Feud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms

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