Issues & Skills Menu: 9 Sections

• 1. Anger Issues
• 2. Blame Issues
• 3. Communication Skills
• 4. Coping Skills
• 5. Counseling Issues
• 6. Praying Issues
• 7. Recovery Issues
• 8. Responsibility Issues
• 9. Thinking Skills

1. ANGER ISSUES: Free Information

Anger Issues & Anger Magement

• Breathe will teach you how to relax and regain self-control in just 4 seconds.

“Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. Act Against Anger: Deal with Negative Feelings
2. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4
3. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
4. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected
5. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example
6. Facts about Anger
7. Quotations by Topic: Anger
8. Shit Happens, Deal with It
9. STPHFR Understand Your Anger
10. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
11. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
12. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
13. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal

Related Pages

1. Coping Skills: Anxiety–12 Steps of Reacting
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Scripture by Topic: Anger

2. BLAME ISSUES: Free Information

Damning & Blaming Issues

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

1. 5 Styles for Standards & Quality (5TP)
2. Blame 6 Levels
3. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
4. Control What You Can
5. Control What You Choose to Feed
6. Damning: Attachment & Detachment
7. Damning & Blaming Increase Problems
8. Damning & Blaming: Consequences of
9. Damning Defeats Coping
10. Damning Self & The 7 Main Emotions
11. Damning: Shoulds & Ego
12. Damning: The Problem & The Solution
13. Damning Traits versus Correction Traits
14. Damning, Whining & Blaming Prevent Solutions
15. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
16. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
17. One Hundred Reasons to Stop Damning
18. Quotations by Topic: Damning & Blaming
19. Response of Responsibility
20. Scripture by Topic: Damning
21. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
22. Use Negation, Not Destruction

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1. Coping Skills: Becoming Is the Enemy
2. Coping Skills: Depression–12 Steps of Reacting
3. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
4. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
5. Responsibility Issues: Parable on Responsibility

3. COMMUNICATION SKILLS: Free Information

Communication Skills, Methods & Practices

• Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition will help you to improve your attitude, which improves everything else.

“First, don’t interpret or add to what they said–just hear it and share it back.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 5 Parenting Styles (5TP)
2. Communication Dualities
3. Communication: Memes Teach How to Communicate
4. Difficult People: How to Handle
5. Don’t Argue Reality
6. Double-Binds: How to Respond
7. Ego Maintains Fights
8. Eighteen Communication Guides
9. Emotional Responsibility
10. Empathic to Narcissistic: 5 Styles Using 5TP
11. Golden Rule: To Have Friends Be a Friend
12. Happy Relationships Are Easy
13. “I” Statements for Less Conflict
14. “I” Statements: Advanced Version
15. Ins & Outs of Communication
16. Marital Conflict Solved
17. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
18. Parenting: A Strategy of Reciprocity
19. Parenting: Help Children Think for Themselves
20. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
21. Parenting: Single Parenting Issues
22. Passive to Aggressive: 5 Styles Using 5TP
23. Personalizing: Why did they do that to me?
24. Relational Styles: 25 Based on 5 Thinking Positions
25. Relationship Healing Exercise Using 5TP
26. Roles As Masks
27. Semantics & Words
28. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
29. What Do Men Want?
30. What Do Women Want?
31. What’s It All About?
32. Whiners: Learn How to Stop Them

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1. Counseling & Psychotherapy Issues: List of Pages
2. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
3. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
4. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
5. Quotations by Topic: Communication
6. Self-Esteem Issues: Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
7. Scripture by Topic: Gossip

4. COPING SKILLS: Free Information

Coping Methods, Skills & Practices

• Stress for Success, Second Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to make stress work for you.

1. 2 Healthy Options for Coping
2. 4 Seconds Is All You Need
3. 5 Stress Attitudes Using 5TP
4. 5 Stress Kinds or Types Using 5TP
5. 5As of Coping with Life & Reality
6. 5Fs of the Survival Instinct (5TP)
7. 10 Ways to Change & Control Others
8. 12 Steps Stop Shit
9. Acceptance: A Step Towards
10. Alone Is Not Lonely
11. Anxiety & Worry
12. Anxiety & Worry: 12 Steps of Reacting
13. Attitude Power
14. Becoming Is the Enemy
15. Better Choose Better
16. Books for Reading & Reference
17. Bored Are Boring!
18. Clean Your Mind
19. Coherence Is the Goal
20. Coping Quotations: AA
21. Coping Quotations: Alone
22. Coping Quotations: Anger
23. Coping Quotations: Dealing with Difficulties
24. Coping Quotations: Worry
25. Coping Statements & Phrases
26. Coping Statements to Repeat
27. Correction Is My Friend or Foe?
28. Depression: 12 Steps of Reacting
29. Detachment & Identity
30. Dieting: Lose Weight Permanently
31. Do the Right Thing Anyway
32. Effort Is Inescapable: Choose Right Effort
33. Emotional Maturity & Responsibility
34. Failure Is Not Final
35. Fair or Equal Is a Death Wish
36. Feelings & Coping: Memes
37. Forgiveness Requires Forgiveness
38. Four Steps to End Emotional Pain
39. Garden Your Mind: 3Rs
40. Green Tea: List of Pages
41. Humility Is Not Humiliating
42. Inner Conflict
43. Instant Yoga
44. Maturity: 6 Levels for Your Happiness
45. Maturity Defined & Quotations On Maturity
46. Mindfulness Is Either Animalism Or Spiritualism
47. Miscellaneous Quotations this Author
48. Morning Reading Promoting Coping
49. Negative Feelings: How to Deal With
50. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
51. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
52. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
53. Poem on Self-Care First
54. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
55. Preferences Over Shoulds Over Musts
56. Problem & Solution
57. Procrastination with 3 Solutions
58. Roles versus Masks
59. Secret of Life
60. Self-Defeating Behaviors
61. Shame of Self Is an Enemy
62. Six Steps to End Emotional Pain
63. Stop Acting Stupid
64. Stress Is Musts
65. Suffering: The Cause of
66. Think Better Feel Better
67. Three Kinds of Meditation
68. Three Simple Steps to Sanity
69. Three Tests for Practical Living
70. Two Healthy Options: Problem-Solving & Coping
71. Weakness Is Strength
72. What I Learned from Riding a Bicycle
73. Why Not Why?
74. Why Wait for Magic?
75. Work Is Wonderful
76. Worry: What Is Worry Good For?
77. Yoga for Coping, Recovery, Relaxation, & Health

Related Pages

1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. Blame Issues: Damning Defeats Coping
3. Blame Issues: Damning, Whining & Blaming
4. Communication Skills: Parenting–4 Main Failures
5. Communication Skills: Parenting–A Strategy
6. Communication Skills: Parenting–Kevin’s 8 Rules
7. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
8. Quotations by Topic: Coping with Difficulties
9. Quotations by Topic: Solitude
10. Recovery Issues: Cause of Addictions
11. Responsibility Issue: Parable on Responsibility
12. Responsibility Issues: Trying is Planning to Fail
13. Scripture by Topic: Temptation
14. Thinking Skills: Meditation Right
15. Viktor Frankl on Meaning As Coping (youtube): External Link

5. COUNSELING ISSUES: Free Information

Psychotherapy & Counseling

• Carl Rogers, Control Freak will teach you the real technique and how to save it.
• Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
2. 9 Superstitions of Counselors & Therapists Regarding Feelings
3. Albert Ellis 2nd Most Influential Psychotherapist: External Link
4. Albert Ellis: “The New Yorker” Article
5. Answering “Why” Something Happened
6. Anxiety: Notes on
7. Better Choose Better
8. Books for Reading & Reference
9. Brief CBT Explained in 6 Lines
10. Brief CBT Explained in 12 Lines
11. CBT, REBT & FitzMaurice
12. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), CT & REBT Quotations
13. Carl Rogers, How to Save His Work
14. Change & 15 Beliefs Regarding Change
15. Change: Is it Possible?
16. Client Intake & Processing Forms
17. Client’s Rights & Responsibilities
18. Conditioning Factors: Many Kinds
19. Confidentiality: 10 Limits to
20. Copyright Information
21. Counseling Notes on
22. Counseling Relationship: Is it Really Everything?
23. Couple Counseling Strategy
24. Dental Analogy of Counseling (3Rs)
25. Depression: Notes on
26. Disclaimer Information Regarding Intention of this Website
27. Emotional Control: Use Your Tools
28. Emotional Responsibility
29. Emotions: 7 Problematic
30. External or Internal Focus?
31. Feeling Superstitions: 9 Common Ones of Counselors
32. Feelings & Coping: Memes
33. First Question in Counseling
34. Four Keys to Counseling
35. Four Keys to Mental Health
36. Four Kinds of Counselors
37. Free Handouts in PDF Format: 91
38. Freedom: Psychological
39. Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
40. GAADSAP Emotions & No-ting
41. Garden Your Mind to Keep it Healthy
42. Golden Rule of Mental Health
43. Insight Levels & Movement
44. Law of Attraction & Visualization
45. Maturity & Emotions
46. Mental Health Field Professions Defined
47. Metatheory of Counseling: 3Rs
48. Motivating Questions to Ask
49. Motivation: 3Ps of
50. Move Beyond Duality Technique (MBD)
51. Movies: Recommended for Being Good
52. Musts: Friend & Foe
53. Nine Fundamental Thinking Errors
54. Nine Ways to Upset Yourself & Others
55. Psychoanalysis: The Problems with Solutions
56. Questions to Ask Yourself
57. Questions (10) to Ask a Prospective Counselor
58. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
59. REBT Is Deeper than CBT, CT & other Counseling Theories
60. REBT’s 4 Issues As a System
61. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts for Life
62. REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
63. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
64. REBT’s Main Website
65. REBT Websites for More Information: External Links
66. Reasons Why You Do What You Do
67. Reform Versus Mental Health
68. Relate to Experience: How do you?
69. Second Question in Counseling
70. Self-talk: 4 Options for Dealing with Disturbing
71. Seven Questions to Ask Yourself
72. Sigmund Freud: Ego Defense Mechanisms
73. STPHFR Insights on Emotions
74. STPHFR Theory of Emotions
75. Test Your Thinking for its Results
76. The 3Rs of Counseling
77. The 4Rs of Skill Learning
78. Therapy Simplified Into 4 Opposing Issues
79. Third Question in Counseling
80. Thirty-five Stages of Switching or Counseling
81. Three Client Types
82. Three Goals of Counseling
83. Three Stages of Switching or Counseling
84. Three Treatment Plan Goals & 3 Session Goals
85. Transference & Counseling
86. Trauma Treatment Information
87. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
88. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples
89. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons
90. Ventilation: To Reinforce or To Let Go?
91. Victim Script Defined
92. Visualization: The Technique

Related Pages

1. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
2. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
3. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Websites External Links
4. Responsibility Issues: Shoelaces Parable on Responsibility
5. Scripture by Topic: Counseling
6. Self-Esteem Issues: List of Pages
7. Thinking Skills: Seven Thinking Errors of CT

6. PRAYING ISSUES: Free Information

Praying & Prayers

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.” —Matthew 6:5-6

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.” —Søren Kierkegaard

1. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann
2. Lord’s Prayer: New Testament
3. Morning Reading to Promote Serenity
4. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
5. Right Prayer
6. Prayer of Saint Francis
7. “Serenity Prayer” by Reinhold Niebuhr
8. Surrender Prayer
9. What You Serve Is What You Get
10. When & Where to Pray: New Testament

Related Pages

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. New Testament: List of Links to Books
3. Poems by Topic: Be Me
4. Poems by Topic: Churchianity
5. Poems by Topic: Fight the Good Fight
6. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
7. Poems by Topic: Pray for Suffering
8. Poems by Topic: Reflections
9. Poems by Topic: Somebody Please
10. Poems by Topic: Upside-Down
11. Poems by Topic: Who is My World?
12. Scripture by Topic: List of Pages

7. RECOVERY ISSUES: Free Information

Addiction Recovery Issues & Topics

• Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
• Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

“Recovery is the process of recovering who you were as a child.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 4 Main Spiritual Failures
2. 5 Levels of Living Life: Assess Yours
3. 12 Steps of Anger Reacting
4. 12 Steps of Anxiety Reacting
5. 12 Steps of Depression
6. 12 Steps of Recovery: Rewritten & Simplified
7. 12 Steps Stop Shit
8. 12 Steps to Keep the Shit Going
9. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Steps of
10. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Traditions of
11. Cause of Addictions
12. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
13. Desire Leads to Compulsion Leads to Addiction
14. Do the Good More & Do the Bad Less
15. Emotional Responsibility
16. Emotionalize New Behaviors & Beliefs
17. How to Quit in 5 Steps
18. No-ting Thinking Error
19. Quotations & Slogans from AA
20. Reduce Problems & Stress
21. Relapse Prevention: 3 Steps
22. SAD: 3 Step Program of Recovery
23. Secret of Life
24. Serenity Prayer: Help with Acceptance
25. Seven Pillars of Recovery
26. Stimulation As Motivation
27. Temptation: A Strategy to Overcome
28. The Four Absolutes: Oxford Group External Link
29. Use Negation, Not Destruction
30. Yoga for Coping, Recovery, Relaxation, & Health
31. Yoga Practice Points

Related Pages

1. Ego & Pride Issues: List of Pages
2. Emotional Responsibility & Maturity: List of Pages
3. Feelings & Emotions: List of Pages
4. Quotations by Topic: Acceptance
5. Quotations by Topic: Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
6. Quotations by Topic: Coping Statements
7. Responsibility Issues & Suggestions: List of Pages
8. Trying to Fail: List of Pages

8. RESPONSIBILITY ISSUES: Free Information

Responsibility Issues & Topics

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Responsibility is not limited to behavior. Responsibility must also be taken for thinking and feeling if one wishes to claim maturity.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 3Rs: Recognize, Remove & Replace Problems
2. About It, Is Not It
3. Apologies Can Be Real
4. Better Choose Better
5. Blame 6 Levels
6. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
7. Challenging & Disputing Thinking Errors
8. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
9. Control What You Can
10. Control What You Choose to Feed
11. Drum Circle Experiment
12. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
13. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
14. Feed Feelings: 12 Ways
15. Feelings & Coping: Memes
16. Fights Diagram: Ego Causes & Maintains Hurt & Anger
17. Four Seconds Is All You Need to Relax
18. Golden Rule: The (Quotations)
19. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
20. Meditation Simplified
21. Motivation 6 Step Cycle from Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition
22. Non-Doing & Non-Action
23. Parable on Responsibility
24. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
25. Response of Responsibility
26. Secret of Life
27. Seek-or-Shun Response & 5TP
28. Self-Control: Act Opposite of Feelings
29. Shoelaces Parable: 4 Life Lessons
30. S-R Thinking (Stimulus-Response)
31. STPHFR Infographic
32. STPHFR Model Explains Feelings & Behaviors
33. Start Right to Finish Right
34. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
35. Suffer Well: Choice Helps
36. Trying Is Planning to Fail
37. Universal Declaration of Human Rights: External Link
38. Will: The 7 Options for What to Will

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1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Coping Skills: Control Others
4. Coping Skills: Why Wait for Magic?
5. Counseling Issues: 9 Feeling Superstitions
6. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
7. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
8. Quotations by Topic: Responsibility

9. THINKING SKILLS: Free Information

Thinking Skills, Tools & Right Reasoning

• We’re All Insane! Second Edition will teach you how to think better and saner.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent of the people think they think; and ninety-five percent of the people would rather die than think.” —George Bernard Shaw

Thinking Skills Can Help You To–

• Learn how to think instead of what to think.
• Discover how to think to help, not hinder yourself.
• Discover how claims to know, do, or be are detrimental to your sanity.
• Discover how deconstructivism can help free you from the tyranny of concepts for open experiencing.

Pages to Help You Think Better & Clearer

1. 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace): Memes
2. 5 Thinking Positions (5TP): Memes
3. 6 Styles of Thinking
4. 7 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
5. 8 Thinking Skills for Detaching
6. 9 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
7. 12 Levels of Existence from We’re All Insane!
8. Atheism Is Superstitious
9. Ballet & Thinking
10. Beyond The Duality of Opposites
11. Big versus Small Thinking
12. Both-And Skill
13. Choice Is a Delusion
14. Circle Diagram of 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)
15. Constructivism: Pros & Cons
16. Continuum Knowledge
17. Deconstructivism: The Answer
18. Descartes’ Dualism & the 7 Realities
19. Discovery Demands 5TP: The Evolution of Perspective
20. Duality & Opposites
21. Eastern Psychology
22. Ego’s Know-Better Payoffs
23. Ego: The Four Kinds
24. Ego: The Tripartite Nature of
25. Evolution Exploitation Exposed
26. Five Survival Styles (5TP)
27. Five Thinking Positions (5TP): Explained
28. Five Thinking Styles (5TP)
29. General Semantics & Contact
30. Global Attitudes
31. Hierarchy Natural
32. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
33. How to Help the Poor
34. How to Save or Change the World
35. Human Rights: United Nations Declaration
36. Know, Do, & Be Thinking
37. Levels of Existence: Basic 3
38. Life Is Positive, Neutral, Or Negative?
39. Limitations of Thought
40. Meditation: The Right Kind
41. Messenger & Message Problem
42. Mind Is a Magnet
43. Nazi Thinking: Hive Mind
44. Nine Causes of Everyday Madness or Neurosis
45. One + One = Three
46. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
47. Perspective-Taking Book: Discovery Demands 5TP
48. Perspective-Taking Thinking Skill
49. Pinhead Arguments Rarely Work
50. Postmodern Foolishness
51. Postmodernism & Constructivism Exposed
52. Problem-Solving
53. Quotations on Thinking
54. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
55. Rational & Helpful Thoughts: 50
56. Revolution: How to Succeed
57. Science versus Scientism
58. Second-Order Thinking
59. Self: The Model of
60. Semantics & Words
61. Spiritual Development 12 Stages
62. Spiritual Development: First 5 of the 15
63. Spiritual Development: Second 5 of the 15
64. Spiritual Development: Third 5 of the 15
65. Spirituality: What Is it?
66. STPHFR Model of Feelings
67. Superstitions: 9 about Feelings
68. Superstitions: 42 Modern Ones
69. Test Your Thinking
70. The Three Stooges & Failure
71. Thinking Errors: #1 or Primary Error
72. Thinking Errors: 4 Covering Methods
73. Thinking Errors: 4 of Ukraine System
74. Thinking Errors: 7 of Cognitive Therapy (CT)
75. Thinking Errors: 9 Basic Ones
76. Thinking Errors: 11 Irrational Beliefs from REBT
77. Thinking Errors: 12 Cognitive Biases (External link)
78. Thinking Errors: 100s in Planet Earth: Insane Asylum
79. Thinking Errors: No-ting or Undoing
80. Thinking Errors: List of Pages
81. Thinking Skills: Memes
82. Thinking Skills & Tools: List of Pages
83. Thinking Tests: List of Pages
84. Thinking Working on Thinking Fails
85. Universality: The Way of Peace
86. Use Negation, Not Destruction
87. What Is Thinking Good For?
88. What Is Yoga? What Is Instant Yoga?
89. What, How & Why Questions
90. Who Is My World?: Poem
91. Word Sets for Using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)

Related Pages

1. 5 Thinking Positions (5TP): List of Pages
2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Communication Skills: Passive to Aggressive
4. Coping Skills: Think Better Feel Better
5. Counseling Issues: 25 Relational Styles
6. Critical Thinking Skills: External Link
7. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
8. Free Philosophy Courses: External Link
9. Quotations by Topic: Thinking
10. Responsibility Issues: About It Is Not It
11. Responsibility Issues: S-R Thinking
12. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR
13. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR Insights
14. Self-Esteem Issues: Feud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms