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ANGER ISSUES: Free Information

Anger Issues & Anger Magement

• Breathe will teach you how to relax and regain self-control in just 4 seconds.

“Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. Act Against Anger: Deal with Negative Feelings
2. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4
3. Eight Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
4. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected
5. Eight Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example
6. Facts about Anger
7. Quotations by Topic: Anger
8. Shit Happens, Deal with It
9. STPHFR Understand Your Anger
10. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
11. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
12. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
13. Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal

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1. Coping Skills: Anxiety–12 Steps of Reacting
2. Scripture by Topic: Anger

BLAME ISSUES: Free Information

Damning & Blaming Issues

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

1. 5 Styles for Standards & Quality (5TP)
2. Blame 6 Levels
3. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
4. Control What You Can
5. Control What You Choose to Feed
6. Damning: Attachment & Detachment
7. Damning & Blaming Increase Problems
8. Damning & Blaming: Consequences of
9. Damning Defeats Coping
10. Damning Self & The 7 Main Emotions
11. Damning: Shoulds & Ego
12. Damning: The Problem & The Solution
13. Damning Traits versus Correction Traits
14. Damning, Whining & Blaming Prevent Solutions
15. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
16. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
17. One Hundred Reasons to Stop Damning
18. Quotations by Topic: Damning & Blaming
19. Response of Responsibility
20. Scripture by Topic: Damning
21. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
22. Use Negation, Not Destruction

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1. Coping Skills: Becoming Is the Enemy
2. Coping Skills: Depression–12 Steps of Reacting
3. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
4. Responsibility Issues: Parable on Responsibility

COMMUNICATION SKILLS: Free Information

Communication Skills, Methods & Practices

• Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition will help you to improve your attitude, which improves everything else.

“First, don’t interpret or add to what they said–just hear it and share it back.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 5 Parenting Styles (5TP)
2. Communication Dualities
3. Difficult People: How to Handle
4. Don’t Argue Reality
5. Double-Binds: How to Respond
6. Ego Maintains Fights
7. Eighteen Communication Guides
8. Empathic to Narcissistic: 5 Styles Using 5TP
9. Golden Rule: To Have Friends Be a Friend
10. Happy Relationships Are Easy
11. “I” Statements for Less Conflict
12. “I” Statements: Advanced Version
13. Ins & Outs of Communication
14. Marital Conflict Solved
15. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
16. Parenting: A Strategy of Reciprocity
17. Parenting: Help Children Think for Themselves
18. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
19. Parenting: Single Parenting Issues
20. Passive to Aggressive: 5 Styles Using 5TP
21. Personalizing: Why did they do that to me?
22. Relational Styles: 25 Based on 5 Thinking Positions
23. Roles As Masks
24. Semantics & Words
25. What Do Men Want?
26. What Do Women Want?
27. What’s It All About?
28. Whiners: Learn How to Stop Them

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1. Quotations by Topic: Communication
2. Self-Esteem Issues: Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
3. Scripture by Topic: Gossip

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Coping Methods, Skills & Practices

• Stress for Success, Second Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to make stress work for you.

1. 2 Healthy Options for Coping
2. 4 Seconds Is All You Need
3. 5 Stress Attitudes Using 5TP
4. 5 Stress Kinds or Types Using 5TP
5. 5As of Coping with Life & Reality
6. 5Fs of the Survival Instinct (5TP)
7. 10 Ways to Change & Control Others
8. 12 Steps Stop Shit
9. Acceptance: A Step Towards
10. Alone Is Not Lonely
11. Anxiety & Worry
12. Anxiety & Worry: 12 Steps of Reacting
13. Attitude Power
14. Becoming Is the Enemy
15. Better Choose Better
16. Books for Reading & Reference
17. Bored Are Boring!
18. Clean Your Mind
19. Coherence Is the Goal
20. Coping Quotations: AA
21. Coping Quotations: Alone
22. Coping Quotations: Anger
23. Coping Quotations: Dealing with Difficulties
24. Coping Quotations: Worry
25. Coping Statements to Repeat
26. Correction Is My Friend or Foe?
27. Depression: 12 Steps of Reacting
28. Detachment & Identity
29. Dieting: Lose Weight Permanently
30. Do the Right Thing Anyway
31. Effort Is Inescapable: Choose Right Effort
32. Emotional Maturity & Responsibility
33. Failure Is Not Final
34. Fair or Equal Is a Death Wish
35. Forgiveness Requires Forgiveness
36. Four Steps to End Emotional Pain
37. Garden Your Mind: 3Rs
38. Green Tea: List of Pages
39. Humility Is Not Humiliating
40. Inner Conflict
41. Instant Yoga
42. Maturity: 6 Levels for Your Happiness
43. Maturity Defined & Quotations On Maturity
44. Mindfulness Is Either Animalism Or Spiritualism
45. Miscellaneous Quotations this Author
46. Morning Reading Promoting Coping
47. Negative Feelings: How to Deal With
48. Parenting: 4 Main Failures
49. Parenting: Kevin’s 10 Rules
50. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
51. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
52. Preferences Over Shoulds Over Musts
53. Problem & Solution
54. Procrastination with 3 Solutions
55. Roles versus Masks
56. Secret of Life
57. Self-Defeating Behaviors
58. Shame of Self Is an Enemy
59. Six Steps to End Emotional Pain
60. Stop Acting Stupid
61. Stress Is Musts
62. Suffering: The Cause of
63. Think Better Feel Better
64. Three Kinds of Meditation
65. Three Simple Steps to Sanity
66. Three Tests for Practical Living
67. Two Healthy Options: Problem-Solving & Coping
68. Weakness Is Strength
69. What I Learned from Riding a Bicycle
70. Why Not Why?
71. Why Wait for Magic?
72. Work Is Wonderful
73. Worry: What Is Worry Good For?

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1. Anger Issues: Act Against Anger
2. Blame Issues: Damning Defeats Coping
3. Blame Issues: Damning, Whining & Blaming
4. Communication Skills: Parenting–4 Main Failures
5. Communication Skills: Parenting–A Strategy
6. Communication Skills: Parenting–Kevin’s 8 Rules
7. Poems by Topic: Space Between Sadness
8. Quotations by Topic: Coping with Difficulties
9. Quotations by Topic: Solitude
10. Recovery Issues: Cause of Addictions
11. Responsibility Issue: Parable on Responsibility
12. Responsibility Issues: Trying is Planning to Fail
13. Scripture by Topic: Temptation
14. Thinking Skills: Meditation Right
15. Viktor Frankl on Meaning As Coping (youtube): External Link

COUNSELING ISSUES: Free Information

Psychotherapy & Counseling

• Carl Rogers, Control Freak will teach you the real technique and how to save it.

• Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.”–Ecclesiasticus 38:33

1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
2. 9 Superstitions of Counselors & Therapists Regarding Feelings
3. Albert Ellis 2nd Most Influential Psychotherapist: External Link
4. Albert Ellis: “The New Yorker” Article
5. Answering “Why” Something Happened
6. Anxiety: Notes on
7. Better Choose Better
8. Books for Reading & Reference
9. Brief CBT Explained in 6 Lines
10. Brief CBT Explained in 12 Lines
11. CBT, REBT & FitzMaurice
12. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), CT & REBT Quotations
13. Carl Rogers, How to Save His Work
14. Change & 15 Beliefs Regarding Change
15. Change: Is it Possible?
16. Client Intake & Processing Forms
17. Client’s Rights & Responsibilities
18. Conditioning Factors: Many Kinds
19. Confidentiality: 10 Limits to
20. Copyright Information
21. Counseling Notes on
22. Couple Counseling Strategy
23. Dental Analogy of Counseling (3Rs)
24. Depression: Notes on
25. Disclaimer Information Regarding Intention of this Website
26. Emotional Control: Use Your Tools
27. Emotions: 7 Problematic
28. External or Internal Focus?
29. Feeling Superstitions: 9 Common Ones of Counselors
30. First Question in Counseling
31. Four Keys to Counseling
32. Four Keys to Mental Health
33. Four Kinds of Counselors
34. Free Handouts in PDF Format: 91
35. Freedom: Psychological
36. Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
37. Garden Your Mind to Keep it Healthy
38. Golden Rule of Mental Health
39. Insight Levels & Movement
40. Law of Attraction & Visualization
41. Maturity & Emotions
42. Mental Health Field Professions Defined
43. Metatheory of Counseling: 3Rs
44. Motivating Questions to Ask
45. Motivation: 3Ps of
46. Move Beyond Duality Technique (MBD)
47. Movies: Recommended for Being Good
48. Musts: Friend & Foe
49. Nine Fundamental Thinking Errors
50. Nine Ways to Upset Yourself & Others
51. Psychoanalysis: The Problems with Solutions
52. Questions to Ask Yourself
53. Questions (10) to Ask a Prospective Counselor
54. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
55. REBT Is Deeper than CBT, CT & other Counseling Theories
56. REBT’s 4 Issues As a System
57. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts for Life
58. REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
59. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
60. REBT’s Main Website
61. REBT Websites for More Information: External Links
62. Reasons Why You Do What You Do
63. Reform Versus Mental Health
64. Relate to Experience: How do you?
65. STPHFR Insights on Emotions
66. STPHFR Theory of Emotions
67. Second Question in Counseling
68. Self-talk: 4 Options for Dealing with Disturbing
69. Seven Questions to Ask Yourself
70. Test Your Thinking for its Results
71. The 3Rs of Counseling
72. The 4Rs of Skill Learning
73. Therapy Simplified Into 4 Opposing Issues
74. Third Question in Counseling
75. Thirty-five Stages of Switching or Counseling
76. Three Client Types
77. Three Goals of Counseling
78. Three Stages of Switching or Counseling
79. Three Treatment Plan Goals & 3 Session Goals
80. Transference & Counseling
81. Trauma Treatment Information
82. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
83. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples
84. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons
85. Ventilation: To Reinforce or To Let Go?
86. Victim Script Defined
87. Visualization: The Technique

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1. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
2. Quotations by Topic: Counseling
3. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Websites External Links
4. Responsibility Issues: Shoelaces Parable on Responsibility
5. Scripture by Topic: Counseling
6. Self-Esteem Issues: List of Pages
7. Thinking Skills: Seven Thinking Errors of CT

PRAYING ISSUES: Free Information

Praying & Prayers

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.”–Matthew 6:5-6

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.”–Søren Kierkegaard

1. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann
2. Lord’s Prayer: New Testament
3. Morning Reading to Promote Serenity
4. Prayer Works: 3 Steps
5. Right Prayer
6. Prayer of Saint Francis
7. “Serenity Prayer” by Reinhold Niebuhr
8. Surrender Prayer
9. What You Serve Is What You Get
10. When & Where to Pray: New Testament

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1. New Testament: List of Links to Books
2. Poems by Topic: Be Me
3. Poems by Topic: Churchianity
4. Poems by Topic: Fight the Good Fight
5. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
6. Poems by Topic: Pray for Suffering
7. Poems by Topic: Reflections
8. Poems by Topic: Somebody Please
9. Poems by Topic: Upside-Down
10. Poems by Topic: Who is My World?
11. Scripture by Topic: List of Pages

RECOVERY ISSUES: Free Information

Addiction Recovery Issues & Topics

• Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
• Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

“Recovery is the process of recovering who you were as a child.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 5 Levels of Living Life: Assess Yours
2. 12 Steps of Anger Reacting
3. 12 Steps of Anxiety Reacting
4. 12 Steps of Depression
5. 12 Steps of Recovery: Rewritten & Simplified
6. 12 Steps Stop Shit
7. 12 Steps to Keep the Shit Going
8. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Steps of
9. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): The 12 Traditions of
10. Cause of Addictions
11. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
12. Do the Good More & Do the Bad Less
13. Emotionalize New Behaviors & Beliefs
14. How to Quit in 5 Steps
15. Quotations & Slogans from AA
16. Reduce Problems & Stuff
17. Relapse Prevention: 3 Steps
18. SAD: 3 Step Program of Recovery
19. Secret of Life
20. Serenity Prayer: Help with Acceptance
21. Seven Pillars of Recovery
22. Stimulation As Motivation
23. Temptation: A Strategy to Overcome
24. The Four Absolutes: Oxford Group External Link
25. Use Negation, Not Destruction
26. Yoga Practice Points

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1. Quotations by Topic: Acceptance

RESPONSIBILITY ISSUES: Free Information

Responsibility Issues & Topics

• The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition for 99¢ will teach you how to own the power of emotional responsibility.

“Responsibility is not limited to behavior. Responsibility must also be taken for thinking and feeling if one wishes to claim maturity.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

1. 3Rs: Recognize, Remove & Replace Problems
2. About It, Is Not It
3. Apologies Can Be Real
4. Better Choose Better
5. Blame 6 Levels
6. Blame or Responsibility: 100 Things You Can Blame
7. Challenging & Disputing Thinking Errors
8. Choose Higher when Tempted by Lower
9. Control What You Can
10. Control What You Choose to Feed
11. Drum Circle Experiment
12. Emotional Maturity 6 Levels
13. Emotional Responsibility (ER): Diagram
14. Feed Feelings: 12 Ways
15. Fights Diagram: Ego Causes & Maintains Hurt & Anger
16. Four Seconds Is All You Need to Relax
17. Golden Rule: The (Quotations)
18. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
19. Meditation Simplified
20. Motivation 6 Step Cycle from Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition
21. Non-Doing & Non-Action
22. Parable on Responsibility
23. REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
24. Response of Responsibility
25. Secret of Life
26. Seek-or-Shun Response & 5TP
27. Self-Control: Act Opposite of Feelings
28. Shoelaces Parable: 4 Life Lessons
29. S-R Thinking (Stimulus-Response)
30. STPHFR Infographic
31. STPHFR Model Explains Feelings & Behaviors
32. Stimulus Responsibility: Before & After a Stimulus
33. Suffer Well: Choice Helps
34. Trying Is Planning to Fail
35. Will: The 7 Options for What to Will

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2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
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4. Coping Skills: Why Wait for Magic?
5. Counseling Issues: 9 Feeling Superstitions
6. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
7. Poems by Topic: “IF” by Rudyard Kipling
8. Quotations by Topic: Responsibility

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Thinking Skills, Tools & Right Reasoning

• We’re All Insane! Second Edition will teach you how to think better and saner.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent of the people think they think; and ninety-five percent of the people would rather die than think.”–George Bernard Shaw

Thinking Skills Can Help You To–

• Learn how to think instead of what to think.
• Discover how to think to help, not hinder yourself.
• Discover how claims to know, do, or be are detrimental to your sanity.
• Discover how deconstructivism can help free you from the tyranny of concepts for open experiencing.

1. 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace): Memes
2. 6 Styles of Thinking
3. 7 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
4. 8 Thinking Skills for Detaching
5. 9 Thinking Positions Based on 5TP
6. Atheism Is Superstitious
7. Ballet & Thinking
8. Beyond The Duality of Opposites
9. Big versus Small Thinking
10. Both-And Skill
11. Choice Is a Delusion
12. Circle Diagram of 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)
13. Constructivism: Pros & Cons
14. Continuum Knowledge
15. Deconstructivism: The Answer
16. Descartes’ Dualism & the 7 Realities
17. Duality & Opposites
18. Eastern Psychology
19. Ego’s Know-Better Payoffs
20. Ego: The Four Kinds
21. Ego: The Tripartite Nature of
22. Evolution Exploitation Exposed
23. Five Survival Styles
24. Five Thinking Positions
25. Five Thinking Styles
26. General Semantics & Contact
27. Global Attitudes
28. Hierarchy Natural
29. How Media & Politicians Lie: 8LS
30. How to Help the Poor
31. How to Save the World
32. Human Rights: United Nations Declaration
33. Know, Do, & Be Thinking
34. Levels of Existence
35. Life Is Positive, Neutral, Or Negative?
36. Limitations of Thought
37. Meditation: The Right Kind
38. Messenger & Message Problem
39. Mind Is a Magnet
40. Nazi Thinking: Hive MInd
41. Nine Causes of Everyday Madness or Neurosis
42. One + One = Three
43. Perfectionism Has its Perfect Place
44. Pinhead Arguments Rarely Work
45. Postmodern Foolishness
46. Postmodernism & Constructivism Exposed
47. Quotations on Thinking
48. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
49. REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
50. Rational & Helpful Thoughts: 50
51. Revolution: How to Succeed
52. Science versus Scientism
53. Second-Order Thinking
54. Self: The Model of
55. Semantics & Words
56. Spiritual Development 12 Stages
57. Spiritual Development: First 5 of the 15
58. Spiritual Development: Second 5 of the 15
59. Spiritual Development: Third 5 of the 15
60. Spirituality: What Is it?
61. STPHFR Model of Feelings
62. Superstitions: 9 about Feelings
63. Superstitions: 42 Modern Ones
64. Test Your Thinking
65. Thinking Errors: 7 of CT
66. Thinking Errors: 9 Basic Ones
67. Thinking Errors: 12 Cognitive Biases (External link)
68. Thinking Working on Thinking Fails
69. Universality: The Way of Peace
70. Use Negation, Not Destruction
71. What Is Thinking Good For?
72. What Is Yoga? What Is Instant Yoga?
73. What, How & Why Questions
74. Who Is My World?: Poem
75. Word Sets for Using the 5 Thinking Positions

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2. CBT, CT & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List of Pages
3. Communication Skills: Passive to Aggressive
4. Coping Skills: Think Better Feel Better
5. Counseling Issues: 25 Relational Styles
6. Critical Thinking Skills: External Link
7. Ego Issues: Becoming Is the Enemy
8. Free Philosophy Courses: External Link
9. Quotations by Topic: Thinking
10. Responsibility Issues: About It Is Not It
11. Responsibility Issues: S-R Thinking
12. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR
13. Responsibility Issues: STPHFR Insights
14. Self-Esteem Issues: Feud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms