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Roles As Masks Replace Self
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“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” —Socrates
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SELF
- Self is the space and place inside that composes you.
- Self is the inner container, host, and vessel.
Self Is Not—
- Self is not the contents of the container.
- Self is not the actions of the container.
- The self does not change when the contents change.
- The changes in behaviors of the container do not change the container.
Self Cannot Be Changed
- Self cannot be changed by people.
- Self cannot be changed by changing habits.
- Self no more changes by changing feelings, thoughts, behaviors, or experiences than the body changes by changing clothes.
- Self has not changed, but what has changed are feelings, thoughts, behaviors, habits, and experiences.
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ROLES
- A role is a set of behaviors that you are supposed to perform and that you are limited to in a specific set of situations.
- Roles are what you perform.
- Roles are behavior sets that you follow.
- Roles are guidelines for behavior that help us to interact.
- Roles are not people and people are not roles.
- Roles are true when you follow them and are aware that you are following a role.
Limitations of Roles
- Just as you are limited in the moves you can make when you play a game such as chess or checkers, so too are your options limited when you play the role of father, mother, brother, sister, teacher, counselor, doctor, etc.
- No one is a role, but people should perform roles.
- For instance, no one has ever been a doctor or a lawyer.
- But many people have acted like a doctor or a lawyer by learning the role of a doctor or lawyer.
Driver Role
- We want you to follow your role as a responsible and licensed car driver and not any desire to act as a mean or reckless car driver.
- Your driver’s role is to stop at a red light whether or not you feel like it.
- Your driver’s role is to stop for a school bus whether or not you think you need to.
Roles Are Not Masks
- Roles are helpful and masks are hurtful.
- Roles keep you within the bounds of your duties whereas masks hide your true intentions.
- Roles are real and masks are phony.
- Roles are guidelines and masks are deceptions.
- Roles are functions and masks are games.
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MASKS
- Masks are a perversion of roles.
- A mask is either a role that you hide behind or a role that you fight being.
- When you identify with a mask, you seek to be known as the mask instead of as yourself.
- Masks are phony because you identify with the mask and want others to identify you with the mask when you are not the mask.
- When you resist being a mask, you are fighting a false battle as you think you have to fight from being a mask or all masks when you do not.
- No one can be a mask.
- People can only appear as a mask.
People Are Not Masks or Roles
- We often mistake people for their roles and so create the fiction of people being masks.
- But no one has ever been or ever will be a mask or a role though they perform the role a lot of the time.
- Your feelings, thoughts, behaviors, and experiences come and go but you remain and therefore you are not them.
- Masks are what you wear to hide behind.
Masks Are Games
- Masks divide self from self.
- Masks are the device of the phony.
- Masks are a pretense.
- Masks are lies.
- Beware those who smile all the time as they are hiding their real intentions and will likely stab you in the back when they get the chance.
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5 Strategies that Masks Serve
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SPLIT ROLE-AWARENESS
- Split role-awareness is what happens when you give your other attention to the appearance of a role you are playing so that you can watch to see if you are successfully performing it.
- And you give your self-attention to thoughts of what the role is in order to better become the role.
- This division is experienced in many ways including as conflict and as the GAADSAP emotions: guilt, anxiety, attached, depression, shame, anger, pride.
- Bad actors in movies and plays make this mistake frequently.
ROLE-CONFIDENCE
- Self-confidence is absurd as self is not a doing but a host.
- However, role-confidence is natural based on experience.
- When you have performed, practiced, studied, and had experience successfully performing a role—then it is natural to have confidence that you can and will perform that role successfully.
ROLE-SURRENDER
- Role-surrender is what the wise do once they have learned and practiced a role.
- In role-surrender, you turn your performance of the role over to Energy, to Spirit.
- The role is then performed through you in a magnificent manner.
- You make no effort to complete the role.
- You do not identify with the role. You are under the performance of the role.
Perform Roles, Don’t Become Roles
- Learn to accept and perform roles.
- Learn to differentiate self from roles.
- When you identify with roles they then become masks.
- When roles become masks, they replace you.
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