Self-Esteem & Ego Have 5 Basic Moods
- Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.
- Discovery Demands 5TP: The Evolution of Perspective
“The cause of all sins in every case lies in the person’s excessive love of self.” —Plato, Laws
Ego Pain
- humiliation
- hurt
- loss of face
- low self-esteem
- negative self-concepts
- negative self-images
- negative self-objects
- psychological pain
- shame
Ego pain results from identifying self as negative self-concepts, self-images, and self-objects.
Avoid or Escape Ego Pain
- fear of being known without a mask
- fear of ego pain
- fear of exposure
- fear of negative self-concepts
- fear of negative self-images
- fear of negative self-objects
- fear of rejection
Avoiding or escaping ego pain is one of the primary activities of defense mechanisms and self-talk.
Stay Lukewarm or Neutral
- fear of failure
- fear of success
- fear of ego ratings
- fear of self-esteem ratings
- fear of the game of self-ratings
- fear of the stress of playing the rating game
The goal is to live as an undefined ego object. This means trying to maintain neutral self-esteem at all times and at all costs.
Seek Ego Pleasure
- become better than others
- evolve past others
- grow beyond others
- seek better self-concepts
- seek better self-images
- seek better self-objects
- seek superiority in as many ways as possible
- seek to know, do, or be better than others
- study to be better than others
- train to be better than others
- try to get ahead of others
Pursue ego pleasure like an addict pursues their drug. Pride addiction is the strongest and most common addiction.
Ego Pleasure
- being better than others
- bigger or more important person
- bragging rights
- despising other people
- doing better than others
- famous or noteworthy person
- feeling better than others
- gloating over the failures of others
- gossiping about others’ misfortunes
- hating other people
- having things better than others
- high self-esteem
- knowing better than others
- positive self-concepts
- positive self-images
- positive self-objects
- superiority claims
Ego pleasure results from identifying self as positive self-concepts, self-images, and self-objects.