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The Golden Rule of Behavior

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Some Simple Ways to Understand the Golden Rule

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” —Matthew 7:12

“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” —Luke 6:31

10 Practical Examples

  • If you want others to be nice to you, then first be nice to them.
  • If you want to find friends, then first be friendly.
  • If you want others to be appreciative, then be appreciative of them.
  • If you want respect, give respect.
  • If you want love, give love.
  • If you want kindness, give kindness.
  • If you want to be heard, then listen.
  • If you want fairness, then be just.
  • If you want peace, then act peacefully.
  • If you want privileges, then give privileges.

Plant Positive to Harvest Positive

  • Do you plant negative expecting to harvest positive?
  • Do you plant discord expecting to harvest peace?
  • Do you plant criticism expecting to harvest praise?

What You Get Might Just Be What You Intend

  • Often, people are not aware of their intentions because they are unpleasant.
  • Sometimes because of negative conditioning, people want the worst for themselves.
  • For example, if you are always getting rejected, then it might be your intention to get rejected.
  • Consider becoming aware of and improving your intentions if your outcomes are often negative.

Perhaps a Focus on Emotional-Responsibility

  • Perhaps, life is hard because your heart is hard.
  • Perhaps, you are bored because you are boring.
  • Perhaps, no one wants to be with you because you do not.
  • Perhaps, no one can make you happy because you cannot.
  • Perhaps, it begins with you to begin what you want.

 Related Information

  1. Coping Skills: Do the Absolute Right Thing Anyway
  2. Praying Issues: What You Serve Is What You Get
  3. Quotations: The Secret of Life
  4. Quotations by Topic: Golden Rule
  5. Scripture by Topic: Universality
  6. The Secret of Life
  7. The Story of Life
  8. Universality: Way of Peace

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Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“A man should wander about treating all creatures as he himself would be treated.” —Jainism, Sutrakritanga, 1.11.33 

“Act in such a way that the maxim of your action would be instituted as a universal law of nature.” —Immanuel Kant, 1724-1804, German philosopher 

“All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One.” —Black Elk, Native American 

“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” —Luke 6:31 

“And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.” —Luke 10:27 

“And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself.” —Bahá’íEpistle to the Son of the Wolf 

“And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” —Matthew 22:39 

“And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.” —Mark 12:31 

“And to love him with all the heart, and with all the understanding, and with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love his neighbour as himself, is more than all whole burnt offerings and sacrifices.” —Mark 12:33 

“But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;” —I Peter 1:15 

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” —Matthew 5:44 

“But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.” —Luke 6:35 

“Conduct yourself towards your parents as you would have your children conduct themselves towards you.” —Isocrates, letter to Demonicus 

“Do not do to others that which would anger you if others did it to you.” —Socrates 

“Do not do to others what you would not like yourself. Then there will be no resentment against you, either in the family or in the state.” —Confucius, Analects, 12:2 

“Do that to no man which thou hatest: drink not wine to make thee drunken: neither let drunkenness go with thee in thy journey.” —Tobit 4:15 

“Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbours, but mischief is in their hearts.” —Psalms 28:3 

“For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” —Galatians 5:14 

“For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” —Romans 13:9 

Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” —Matthew 19:19 

“Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” —Buddhism, Udana-Varga5:1 

“If ye fulfil the royal law according to the scripture, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself, ye do well:” —James 2:8 

“Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.” —Romans 15:2 

“Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.” —Romans 13:10 

“May I do to others as I would that they should do unto me.” —Plato 

“Never ask from another that which you are not willing to give.” —Apache law, Native Americans 

“No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself.” —Sunnah, Islam 

“One going to take a pointed stick to pinch a baby bird should first try it on himself to feel how it hurts.” —African Traditional Religions, Yoruba Proverb (Nigeria) 

“One should not behave towards others in a way which is disagreeable to oneself. This is the essence of morality. All other activities are due to selfish desire.” —Hinduism, Mahabharata, Anusasana Parva, 113:8 

“One who you think should be hit is none else but you. One who you think should be governed is none else but you. One who you think should be tortured is none else but you. One who you think should be enslaved is none else but you. One who you think should be killed is none else but you. A sage is ingenuous and leads his life after comprehending the parity of the killed and the killer. Therefore, neither does he cause violence to others nor does he make others do so.” —Jainism,Acarangasutra, 5:101-2 

“Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.” —Romans 13:8 

“Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” —Proverbs 16:24 

“Regard your neighbor’s gain as your gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.” —Tai Shang Kan Yin P’ien, Taoist teaching 

“That nature alone is good which refrains from doing to another whatsoever is not good for itself.” —Zoroastrianism, Dadisten-I-Dinik, 94:5 

“The basis of Sufism is consideration of the hearts and feelings of others. If you haven’t the will to gladden someone’s heart, then at least beware lest you hurt someone’s heart, for on our path, no sin exists but this.” —Javad Nurbakhsh, Nimatullahi Sufi Order 

“The first duty of love is to listen.” —Paul Tillich, 1886-1965 

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” —Matthew 7:12 

“This is the sum of duty; do naught unto others what you would not have them do unto you.” —Hinduism, Mahabharata 5:1517 

“Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD.” —Leviticus 19:18 

“Treat your inferiors as you would be treated by your superiors.” —Seneca, Epistle, 47:11 

“Try to treat others as you would want them to treat you.” —L. Ron Hubbard, The Way to Happiness,Scientology 

“Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to benevolence.” —Confucianism,Mencius VII.A.4 

Tsekung asked, ‘Is there one word that can serve as a principle of conduct for life?’ Confucius replied, ‘It is the word shu—reciprocity: Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you.’” —Confucius,Analects, 15:23 

“Use every man after his desert, and who should ‘scape whipping? Use them after your own honour and dignity: the less they deserve, the more merit is in your bounty.” —William Shakespeare, 1546-1616, Hamlet 

“We ought not to retaliate evil for evil to anyone, whatever evil we may have suffered from him.” —Socrates 

“What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow man. This is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary.” —Judaism, Talmud, Shabbat3id 

“Whatever is disagreeable to yourself do not do unto others.” —Zoroastrianism, Shayast-na-Shayast, 13:29 

“Wish not for others what ye wish not for yourselves.” —Bahá’í, Kitab-I-Aqdas 148