Choose to Cope by Repeating Coping Statements
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“When fate hands you a lemon, make lemonade.” —Dale Carnegie
Collection of Quality Coping Statements to Practice
- I am inclined to […], but I can survive if […].
- I am partial to […], but I can cope with life if it doesn’t work out.
- I desire to control […], but I can make the best of my life even if I never learn how.
- I fancy […], but I can work it out if […].
- I favor […], but it isn’t crucial to my happiness.
- I had sooner […], but I can adapt either way.
- I lean towards […], but I can get along if it does or doesn’t happen.
- I want […], but I can tolerate what I get.
- I want […] to be corrected as soon as possible, but I will be OK even if it never is.
- I want what I want and I want it now, but I’ve learned that it is not a catastrophe, a disaster, awful, horrible, terrible, or the end of the world even if I never get it.
- I wish […] would happen, but I can cope with reality if it never does.
- I would choose […], but I won’t fall apart if […].
- I would like […], but I can manage even if it doesn’t.
- I would like it better if […], but I can make the best of it if […].
- I would prefer it if […], but I can stand it if it doesn’t happen.
- I would rather […], but in all honesty, it really doesn’t matter much in the long run.
- I would select […] given the opportunity, but I can adapt to life with […] anyway.
- I would sooner […], but I can make do with whatever.
- It is more desirable for me that […], but in a hundred years who will care or remember?
- It is my predilection that […], but I will manage with or without it.
- It would be nice if […] were changed, but I can live with it as it is.
- It would seem better if […], but I can accept it if […] happens instead.
- My first choice would be […], but it is really not that important.
MORE COPING STARTERS
Acclimate, accommodate, accustomed, act flexibly, adapt, adjust, adjust to the facts, become accustomed to, come to terms with, contend with, deal with, get accustomed to, get adapted, get used to, grapple with, hang tough, harden myself to it, inure myself to it, make peace, manage, moderate, reconcile my wants, resolve myself to it, sanely struggle with, sanely wrestle with, temper my desire, think flexibly, tough-minded, toughen up, weather the storm, work it out.
GENERAL COPING PHRASES
Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can; adapt and adjust; all is not lost; be patient; be satisfied with your best effort; choose your battles; count to ten; detach yourself from it; don’t be so serious; don’t force it; don’t let it get the best of you; don’t let it get to you; don’t look back unless that is where you want to go; don’t make a federal case out of it; don’t take it so seriously; don’t take yourself so seriously; each day is a new beginning; easy does it; endure until the end; expect the worst and hope for the best; first make the best of what you got; give it a rest; give it time; give them the benefit of the doubt; give yourself a break; go back to it when you are fresh; hope for the best and plan for the worst; it is what it is; I can take it; I can tolerate what I don’t like; I don’t need what I want; I have survived worse; if it’s to be, then it’s up to me; if you’ve got lemons–make lemonade; it’s no big deal; it’s nothing; keep an open mind; keep on keeping on; keep on trucking; keep trying in trying times; keep your chin up; learn what is serious and laugh at the rest; let it be; let it go; let it go in one ear and out the other; lighten up; like it or lump it; live and let live; motivation follows action; no pain no gain; oh well; one day it will all be just a memory; quitters never win and winners never quit; relax; roll with the punches; see it from their point of view; sleep on it; stay flexible; stop moping and start coping; stop stewing and start doing; stuff happens; take a break; take it easy; take it one day at a time; that’s life; that’s the way it is–too bad; that’s the way the cookie crumbles; the evil you know is better than the evil you don’t know; the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh; the world won’t come to an end; there’s no telling; things can always get worse; think about it first; this too will pass; this is temporary; tomorrow you’ll see it in a new light; tomorrow’s another day; too bad; tough luck; turn it over; walk a mile in their shoes before you judge them; we’ll do what we can; we’re all the same; what goes around comes around; what you resist persists; what’s done is done; what’s gone is gone; what’s the hurry; whatever will be will be; when the going gets tough the tough get going; when your dreams turn to dust–vacuum; who knows; who would have guessed; you can’t win them all; you have to start to finish; you need a destination to arrive.
Quotations from Various Sources
“For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” —I Peter 2:20
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” —Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation–some fact of my life–unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.” —Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, page 449 (The Big Book)