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Surrender, Accept & Detach (SAD)

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Surrender, Accept & Detach (SAD) to Overcome Addictions

  • Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
  • Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

SAD: Surrender, Accept & Detach

  • The AA program can be summed up in two words: surrender and acceptance.
  • The Al-Anon program can be summed up in one word: detachment.
  • When you combine all three words you get the acronym SAD.

Sadness is a healthy emotion, unlike depression.


Practice SAD

Remember to regularly and persistently practice SAD:

  1. Surrender all problems to God.
  2. Accept life and things as they are.
  3. Detach your self from everything but your self.
  • Both the addict and the codependent are attached to the problem of the addict.
  • Without attachment to the problem, both can live without the problem.

SAD Tools: Brief Examples

  • Surrender is to stop trying.
  • Surrender is to stop trying to control, change, or undo something.
  • Acceptance is to find peace with life and reality as they are.
  • Acceptance is to stop whining, blaming, and damning things for not being the way they should be.
  • Detachment is to keep your identity from your ego and self-esteem games.
  • Detachment is to keep your identity from thoughts and things, and to keep your identity for your self.

More on all three of these tools can be found on this website and in FitzMaurice’s books.


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