Surrender, Accept, & Detach (SAD)

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Surrender, Accept, & Detach (SAD) to Overcome Addictions

  • Garbage Rules will prod you to face the self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
  • Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

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SAD: Surrender, Accept, & Detach

  • The AA program can be summed up in two words: surrender and acceptance.
  • The Al-Anon program can be summed up in one word: detachment.
  • When you combine all three words you get the acronym SAD pronounces like the word “sad.”
  • Yes, both programs use all three and more.

Sadness Is Empowering

  • Sadness is a healthy emotion, unlike depression.
  • Sadness can be a sign of healthy guilt or shame.
  • Sadness can be a sign of healthy regret.
  • Sadness can motivate you to do what is right instead of what is wrong.
  • Yes, there are negative forms of sadness, guilt, and shame.
  • Please use only healthy forms of sadness, guilt, and shame.
  • Healthy forms are about your actions, not your being or self-hood.
  • Healthy forms get you to improve your responses, not to withdraw from responding.

Practice SAD

Remember to regularly and persistently practice SAD:

  1. Surrender all problems to God.
  2. Accept life and things as they are.
  3. Detach your self from everything but your self.
  • Both the addict and the codependent are attached to the problem of the addict.
  • Without attachment to the problem, both can live without the problem.

SAD Tools: Brief Examples

  • Surrender is to stop trying.
  • Surrender is to stop trying to control, change, or undo something.
  • Acceptance is to find peace with life and reality as they are.
  • Acceptance is to stop whining, blaming, and damning things for not being the way they should be.
  • Detachment is to keep your identity from your ego and self-esteem games.
  • Detachment is to keep your identity from thoughts and things and to keep your identity for your self.

More on all three of these tools can be found on this website and in FitzMaurice’s books.


  • Read and discover how to develop superior coping skills.

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Related Pages of Free Information

  1. 3 Steps of Relapse Prevention
  2. Cause of Addiction
  3. Complete Relapse Plan Can Be Found in Ego.
  4. Coping Skills: Free Help
  5. Exercises, Methods, & Techniques: List of Pages
  6. Garden Your Mind to Keep it Healthy (3Rs)
  7. How to Quit in 5 Steps
  8. Recovery Issues: Free Help

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  • Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.


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  • Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.

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  • Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.

on Acceptance


  • Read and discover how to develop superior coping skills.

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9 Skills & Topics Menu


  • Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.

on Acceptance


  • Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.

on Acceptance


  • Read and discover how to develop superior coping skills.

Book cover for "Garden Your Mind"