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Quotations: Blame & Complain

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Blaming, Complaining, Hating, Damning & Judging

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  • “It is the peculiar quality of a fool to perceive the faults of others and to forget his own.”–Cicero


Organized alphabetically.

“A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.” —Arnold H. Glasgow

“A man aught to be seen by the the gods neither dissatisfied with anything nor complaining.” —Marcus Aurelius

“A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying.” —John Burroughs

“A man may fall many times but he won’t be a failure until he says someone pushed him.” —Elmer G. Letterman

“A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” —Alexander Pope

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” —Wayne Dyer

“An uninstructed person will lay the fault of his own bad condition upon others. Someone just starting instruction will lay the fault on himself. Someone who is perfectly instructed will place blame neither on others nor on himself.” —Epictetus

“And be silent for the most part, or else make only the most necessary remarks, and express these in few words. But rarely, and when occasion requires you to talk, talk, indeed, but about no ordinary topics. Do not talk about gladiators, or horseraces, or athletes, or things to eat or drink–topics that arise on all occasions; but above all, do not talk about people, either blaming, or praising, or comparing them.” —Epictetus, Enchiridion

“And just as two wrongs don’t make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 130

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain and most fools do.” —Benjamin Franklin

“As long as the mind is in conflict–blaming, resisting, condemning–there can be no understanding. If I want to understand you, I must not condemn you, obviously.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, p. 51

“Be slow to anger, slow to blame, And slow to plead thy cause. But swift to speak of any gain That gives thy friend applause.” –Mary Whitcher, Shaker member

“Before we blame we should first see whether we cannot excuse.” —George C. Lichtenberg

“Being right does not give you the right to damn.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Blame is a lazy man’s wages.” —Danish Proverb

“But do not of your own accord make your troubles heavier to bear and burden yourself with complaining.” —Seneca

“Compassion is the basis of morality.” —Arthur Schopenhauer

“Damning is the worst form of demanding.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is turning the living into things, into the dead.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is when the cure is worse than the illness.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is when the medicine is worse than the poison.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning people for their crimes is the bigger crime.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Despise the crime, not the criminal.” —Japanese saying

“Do not look at the faults of others, or what others have done or not done; observe what you yourself have and have not done.” —Dhammapada, 4:4

“Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.” —Baruch Spinoza

“Don’t be a blame thrower.” —Greg Hickman

“Don’t find fault, find a remedy.” —Henry Ford

“Don’t let your mind be occupied by blame toward others. A liberated mind is a forgiving mind.” —Jerry Corstens

“Don’t make excuses, make good.” —Elbert Hubbard

“Don’t see others’ faults, see your own. For if you dwell on others’ faults, your own get stronger.” —Dhammapada: Flaws, verses 252-253

“Even when people act nastily to you, don’t condemn them or retaliate.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 205

“Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours.” —Swedish proverb

“Feeling bad won’t make you good.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Feeling stupid won’t make you smart.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“First improve yourself and then judge others.” —Jewish proverb

“Fix the problem, not the blame.” —Catherine Pulsifer

“Further, you will find fault with no one or accuse no one.” —Epictetus

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“Hate is like acid. It can damage the vessel in which it is stored as well as destroy the object on which it is poured.” —Ann Landers

“Hatreds do not ever cease in this world by hating, but by love; this is an eternal truth.” —Dhammapada, 1:5

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” —Abraham Lincoln

“He that can’t endure the bad, will not live to see the good.” —Jewish proverb

“He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.” —Proverbs 11:12

“He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His holy Spirit.” —I Thessalonians 4:8

“How can you be happy without something to complain about?” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse.” —Florence Nightingale

“I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.” —Charles M. Schwab

“I praise loudly, I blame softly.” —Catherine II of Russia

“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.” —Booker Taliaferro Washington, 1856-1915

“If I condemn something, I do not understand it.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, p. 335

“If then these happen to each thing both what is usual and natural, why shouldest thou complain? For the common nature brings nothing which may not be borne by thee.” —Marcus Aurelius

“If you buy a ticket to hell, it isn’t fair to blame hell.” —Elon Musk

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” —Anonymous

“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” —Jim Rohn

“If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally–about anything. Yes, anything.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

“In short, luck’s always to blame.” —Jean De La Fontaine

“It is inconceivable that we could be bored in a world with so much wrong to tackle, so much ignorance to reach and so much misery we could alleviate.”–William Wilberforce

“It is only cats that ‘meow’ and wail, lions roar.” —Chaim Nachman Bialik

“It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete.” —Epictetus, Enchiridion

“It is the peculiar quality of a fool to perceive the faults of others and to forget his own.” —Cicero

“Let us not burden our remembrances with a heaviness that is gone.” —William Shakespeare

“Love and compassion are not necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” —Dalai Lama XIV

“Make every effort not to indulge in negative thoughts, cruel words, and bad deeds.” —Dhammapada: The Right Way, verse 281

“Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining.” —Albert Ellis

“Never succumb to the temptation of becoming bitter. As you press for justice, be sure to move with dignity and discipline, using only the instruments of love.” —Martin Luther King Jr.

“Never trust the man who tells you all his troubles but keeps from you his joys.” —Jewish proverb

“No man ever got very high by pulling other people down. The intelligent merchant does not knock his competitors. The sensible worker does not work those who work with him. Don’t knock your friends. Don’t knock your enemies. Don’t knock yourself.” —Alfred Lord Tennyson, 1809–1892, English poet

“No one is a failure until they blame somebody else.” —Charles (Tremendous) Jones

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” —Carol Burnett

“Our normal tendency is to feel dissatisfied and to criticize our body, speech, and mind–my body is out of shape; voice is unpleasant; my mind is confused. We are so caught up in this pointless, neurotic habit of criticism that we disparage others as sell as ourselves. this is extremely damaging.” —Thubten Yeshe

“Overcome anger by love, overcome evil by good. Overcome the miser by giving, overcome the liar by truth.” —Dhammapada, 17:3

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” —George Bernard Shaw

“Problems are meant to be solved, but unfortunately, a lot of people choose to complain, worry, and cry about them.” ― Edmond Mbiaka

“Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others.” —Miyamoto Musashi

“Some days you have to create your own sunshine.” —Sam Sundquist

“Spite of all do you still chafe and complain, not understanding that, in all the evils to which you suffer, there is really only one–the fact that you do chafe and complain?” —Seneca

“Strong people don’t put others down to lift themselves up.” —Michael P. Watson

“Take away thy opinion, and then there is taken away the complaint.” —Marcus Aurelius

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.” —Erica Jong

“Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems–themselves.” —Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, p. 43

“The base person sees in others, whatever the excellences, only the defects and faults. A swine notices only the mud and mire in the pond that bears the lotus.” —Kavitamrtakupa

“The farther behind I leave the past, the closer I am to forging my own character.” —Isabelle Eberhardt

“The moment you blame anyone for anything, your relationship and your personal power deteriorate.” —Brian Koslow

“The search for someone to blame is always successful.” —Robert Half

“The superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others.” —Don Shula

“The whiner equates pain with power.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“There can be no doubt that the average man blames much more than he praises. His instinct is to blame. If he is satisfied he says nothing; if he is not, he most illogically kicks up a row.” —Arnold Bennett

“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.” —J.K. Rowling

“There is only one human species, to damn any member of that species is to damn the entire species.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” —Aristotle

“There’s man all over for you, blaming on his boots the fault of his feet.” —Samuel Becket

“Things that are done, it is needless to speak about –things that are past, it is needless to blame.” —Confucius

“Thou must blame nobody.” —Marcus Aurelius

“Three core irrationalities: A philosophy of self-denigration, an intolerance of frustration, a blaming and condemning of others.” —Walen, S., R., DiGiuseppe, R., and Dryden, W. (1992), A Practitioner’s Guide to Rational-Emotive Therapy (2nd edition), p.128

“To condemn anyone is to condemn not only everyone, but their maker too.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“To damn anyone requires that you first damn your self.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“To find a fault is easy; to do better may be difficult.” —Plutarch

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

“We can complain of nothing but ourselves.” —Seneca

“When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” —Louis Nizer

“When therefore we are hindered or disturbed, or grieved, let us never attribute it to others, but to ourselves, that is to our own principles.” —Epictetus

“When we blame, we give away our power.” —Greg Anderson

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” —Dr. Robert Anthony

“When you check your own mind properly, you stop blaming others for your problems.” —Lama Thubten Yeshe

“Whining, blaming, and damning is throwing dust into the wind only for it to return to hurt your eyes.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“You are what you hate not what you ate.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“You can only be a ‘victim’ of yourself. It’s all how you discipline your mind.” —Epictetus

“You can overcome anything if you don’t bellyache.” —Bernard M. Baruch

“You can whine and blame about the water coming into your sailboat, or you can bail out the water and safely sail to shore.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“You cannot solve a problem by condemning it.” —Wayne Dwyer

“You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame.” —Erica Jong

“You will become a teacher of yourself when for the same things that you blame others, you also blame yourself.” —Diogenes of Sinope, fragment

“You’re either part of the solution or you’re part of the problem.”–Eldridge Cleaver

• Scripture by Topic: Damning & Despising

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