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25 Reasons Why I Am Not Thoughts

3 Tests Prove Self-Esteem Is Insane


I Am Not My Thoughts, Feelings, or Behaviors

• Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.


Note: These 25 reasons why self-esteem is insane are true, because conditional self-esteem (CSE) can only exist when you falsely believe that you are your thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, memories, or behaviors.


• Self-images, self-concepts, and self-constructs are thoughts, not men or women.


25 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

  1. Who is it in me that remembers my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  2. Who is it in me that experiences my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  3. Who is it in me that chooses my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  4. Who is it in me that hosts (provides space and time for) my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  5. Who is it in me that exists before and after my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  6. Who is it in me that exists in the space in-between any two of my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  7. Who is it in me that copes with my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  8. Who is it in me that mistakenly identifies with my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and/or behaviors?
  9. Who is it in me that has attitudes about my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  10. Who is it in me that can be detached from my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  11. Who is it in me that can be hurt by my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  12. Who is it in me that can pay attention to my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  13. Who is it in me that can seek out my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  14. Who is it in me that can wait for my thoughts?
  15. Who is it in me that can suppress my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  16. Who is it in me that can enjoy my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  17. Who is it in me that can switch my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  18. Who is it in me that can test or challenge my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  19. Who is it in me that can resist my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  20. Who is it in me that can flee from my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  21. Who is it in me that can distract from my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  22. Who is it in me that can contain my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  23. Who is it in me that can ignore my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  24. Who is it in me that can accept my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?
  25. Who is it in me that can judge my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors?

One Sane Reason to Always Remember

Since I am always separate from my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors, then I can never be my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, or behaviors.

  • Self-images, self-concepts, and self-constructs are thoughts, not people.

Another Sane Reason Why You are Not Self-Esteem

Since my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, and behaviors always come and go and only I remain, then I can never be my thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, or behaviors.

  • Self-images, self-concepts, and self-constructs are thoughts, not human beings.

MESSAGE

  • Stop rating your self and others.
  • Instead, rate your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

PRACTICE ACCEPTANCE

Practice unconditional self-esteem (USE), unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-esteem (UOE), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), and ego reduction.


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QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES

Organized Alphabetically

“I often marvel how it is that though each man loves himself beyond all else, he should yet value his own opinion of himself less than that of others.”–Marcus Aurelius, 121-180 A.D.

“It is my contention that the promotion of ‘self-esteem’ has done demonstrably more harm than good, and that the prudent individual will resist the arrogant and childish temptation to ‘esteem himself.'”–David Mills, Overcoming “Self-Esteem” Why Our Compulsive Drive for “Self-Esteem” Is Anxiety-Provoking, Socially Inhibiting, and Self-Sabotaging

“Perfection does not consist in macerating or killing the body, but in killing our perverse self-will.”–Catherine of Siena

“Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.”–Albert Ellis, Ph.D., the most famous and influential living psychologist in the world, Psychology Today, February, 2001, p. 72, in the interview, “The Prince of Reason,” with the famous psychologist Robert Epstein, Ph.D.

“Self-esteem steals souls.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“The assumption being that if high-risk children could be made to ‘feel good about themselves,’ these epidemics could be mitigated. … This prescription, unfortunately, has proven to be yet another in a long list of nouveau homilies that haven’t lived up to their promises.”–John Rosemond, Plan To Build Self-Esteem Backfires, August 1996 syndicated newspaper column regarding research done at Case Western Reserve University and the University of Virginia

“The first step man takes in self-confidence, removes him so far from the confidence he ought to have in God.”–Marguerite of Navarre

“The societal pursuit of high self-esteem for everyone may literally end up doing considerable harm.”–Roy F. Baumeister, Joseph M. Boden, and Laura Smart, Psychological Review, February 1996

“There can be no understanding if there is condemnation of or identification with what is.”–J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV, p. 143

“There is little reason to believe self-esteem leads to academic achievement or is even necessary for academic success. It is therefore crucial to delegitimize the education establishment’s mindless glorification of self-esteem.”–Nina H. Shokraii, “The Self-Esteem Fraud: Feel-Good Education Does not Lead to Academic Success,” USA Today Magazine, January 1998

“Titles are like a magicians wand which circumscribe human facility and prevent us from living the lives of man.”–Thomas Paine

“What others think of us would be of little moment did it not, when known, so deeply tinge what we think of ourselves.”–Lucius Annaeus Seneca, 4 B.C. ? to 65 A.D.

“You are an intricate mechanism, but comparison, judgment, identification prevent comprehension.”–J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV, p. 2

“You never exist quite so much as when you are not thinking.”–Friedrich Nietzsche, 1844-1900, German philosopher

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