The Problem and The Solution: Self-Damning
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“He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His holy Spirit.” —I Thessalonians 4:8
“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming—or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127
“Whining is sharing your ego pain. Blaming is accusing others of causing your ego pain. Damning is hating others for your ego pain. This threesome (whining, blaming, damning) is considered conversation in an ill world.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
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The Problem and The Solution: One False Solution
- The problem is my ego, emotional, and psychological pain caused by my self-damning.
- The problem worsens because my desire to stop damning myself turns into my damning others instead.
- I seek to end my problem of self-damning by refocusing my damning onto others.
- I damn people, places, and things instead of myself (at least consciously).
- I damn life and God.
The Problem and The Solution: One Solution
- The problem is still my ego, emotional, and psychological pain caused by my self-damning.
- The problem improves because my desire to stop damning myself turns into my damning my disturbed thinking.
- I seek to end my problem of self-damning by refocusing my damning on my thinking errors.
- I damn my foolish conditioning, life scripts, programming, and unproductive habits instead of myself.
- I damn my foolish choices, decisions, and thinking habits instead of myself.
The Problem and The Solution: Stop Damning
- Most people will not stop damning.
- Therefore, most people need to learn to refocus their self-damning onto their stinking thinking instead of on others, which only increases problems.
The Problem and The Solution: No Excuses
- Always remember that negative experiences and feelings are not allowed to be used as excuses for blaming and damning.
- Instead, accept the negative as part of life and do what you can to help improve or lessen it.
- Choose to problem-solve or cope.
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The Problem and The Solution: Blaming Isn’t Coping
- Remind yourself that blaming is wasting your time and energy.
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The Problem and The Solution: Quotations Various Sources
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“And just as two wrongs don’t make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 130
“Being right does not give you the right to damn.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Condemn the sin, not the sinner.” —Christian saying
“Damning is the worst form of demanding.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Damning is turning the living into things, into the dead.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Damning is when the cure is worse than the illness.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Damning is when the medicine is worse than the poison.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Despise the crime, not the criminal.” —Japanese saying
“Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.” —Baruch Spinoza
“Even when people act nastily to you, don’t condemn them or retaliate.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 205
“Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours.” —Swedish proverb
“Feeling bad won’t make you good.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Feeling stupid won’t make you smart.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21
“He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.” —Proverbs 11:12
“He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His holy Spirit.” —I Thessalonians 4:8
“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.” —Booker Taliaferro Washington, 1856-1915
“If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally–about anything. Yes, anything.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127
“It is impossible to suffer without making someone pay for it; every complaint already contains revenge.” —Friedrich Nietzsche
“Let us not burden our remembrances with a heaviness that is gone.” —William Shakespeare
“One does not hate so long as one continues to rate low, but only when one has come to rate equal or higher.” —Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil
“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“The whiner equates pain with power.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“To call others judgmental is judgmental.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“To condemn is stupid and easy, but to understand is arduous, requiring pliability and intelligence.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV,p. 143
“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming–or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127
“When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” —Louis Nizer
“When you point a finger at another, you are also pointing three fingers at yourself.” —Anonymous (often quoted in AA in various forms)
“You are what you hate, not what you ate.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“You can overcome anything if you don’t bellyache.” —Bernard Baruch
“You can overcome anything if you don’t bellyache.” —Bernard M. Baruch
“You cannot solve a problem by condemning it.” —Wayne Dwyer
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The Problem and The Solution: 6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
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The Problem and The Solution: 9 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Anger Skills & Topics
- 2. Blame Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Coping Skills & Topics
- 5. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 6. Praying Skills & Topics
- 7. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Thinking Skills & Topics
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover the best and fastest way to problem-solve.