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Blaming & Damning Compound Problems

10 Ways to Make Things Worse


Nothing Fails Like Blaming & Damning

“We can complain of nothing but ourselves.” —Seneca

“He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His holy Spirit.” —I Thessalonians 4:8

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming—or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127


BLAME & DAMN TO GET 10 MORE PROBLEMS

Blaming and damning take one problem and multiply it into a whole set of problems. Oh boy! What joy! You too can have 10 problems for the price of only 1!

  1. You still have the original problem.
  2. Now you have the additional problem of the conflicts with others that blaming and damning cause.
  3. Now you have the additional problem of the conflicts with reality that blaming and damning cause.
  4. Now you have the additional negative stress caused by the negative energy of blaming and damning.
  5. Now you have the additional problem of the time and energy wasted by blaming and damning.
  6. Now you have the additional problem of how to end the blaming and damning.
  7. Now you have the additional problem of being removed several steps from peace of mind by blaming and damning.
  8. Now you have the additional problem of the lack of acceptance of reality that blaming and damning cause.
  9. Now you have the additional problem of your being stuck focused on blaming and damning–so having no time for problem-solving solutions for the original problem.
  10. Now you have the additional problem of your being fixated on blaming and damning–so having no time for coping with the original problem.

More Evidence

Want more evidence, more problems? How about the effect of your whining on your relationships with others? It will not exactly endear you to others! At least not to others you should want to be around!

  • Need still more? How about the fact that whatever you serve, dwell on, or think about–you are attracting into your life.
  • Do you really want the garbage of blaming and damning more in your life? How will it manifest itself? In the end, you get what you magnify, what you serve.

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Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.” —Arnold H. Glasgow

“A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying.” —John Burroughs

“A man may fall many times but he won’t be a failure until he says someone pushed him.” —Elmer G. Letterman

“A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” —Alexander Pope

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” —Wayne Dyer

“And just as two wrongs don’t make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 130

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain and most fools do.” —Benjamin Franklin

“As long as the mind is in conflict–blaming, resisting, condemning–there can be no understanding. If I want to understand you, I must not condemn you, obviously.” —J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, p. 51

“Before we blame we should first see whether we cannot excuse.” —George C. Lichtenberg

“Being right does not give you the right to damn.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Blame is a lazy man’s wages.” —Danish Proverb

“Condemn the sin, not the sinner.” —Christian saying

“Damning is the worst form of demanding.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is turning the living into things, into the dead.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is when the cure is worse than the illness.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Damning is when the medicine is worse than the poison.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Despise the crime, not the criminal.” —Japanese saying

“Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.” —Baruch Spinoza

“Don’t be a blame thrower.” —Greg Hickman

“Don’t make excuses, make good.” —Elbert Hubbard

“Even when people act nastily to you, don’t condemn them or retaliate.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 205

“Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours.” —Swedish proverb

“Feeling bad won’t make you good.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Feeling stupid won’t make you smart.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Fix the problem, not the blame.” —Catherine Pulsifer

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.” —Proverbs 11:12

“He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His holy Spirit.” —I Thessalonians 4:8

“I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.” —Charles M. Schwab

“I praise loudly, I blame softly.” —Catherine II of Russia

“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.” —Booker Taliaferro Washington, 1856-1915

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” —Anonymous

“If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally–about anything. Yes, anything.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

“In short, luck’s always to blame.” —Jean De La Fontaine

“It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete.” —Epictetus, Enchiridion

“Let us not burden our remembrances with a heaviness that is gone.” —William Shakespeare

“No one is a failure until they blame somebody else.” —Charles (Tremendous) Jones

“Only God can damn without serving Satan.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” —George Bernard Shaw

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.” —Erica Jong

“Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems–themselves.” —Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, p. 43

“The farther behind I leave the past, the closer I am to forging my own character.” —Isabelle Eberhardt

“The moment you blame anyone for anything, your relationship and your personal power deteriorate.” —Brian Koslow

“The search for someone to blame is always successful.” —Robert Half

“The superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others.” —Don Shula

“The whiner equates pain with power.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“There can be no doubt that the average man blames much more than he praises. His instinct is to blame. If he is satisfied he says nothing; if he is not, he most illogically kicks up a row.” —Arnold Bennett

“To find a fault is easy; to do better may be difficult.” —Plutarch

“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming—or damning.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127

“We can complain of nothing but ourselves.” —Seneca

“When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” —Louis Nizer

“When we blame, we give away our power.” —Greg Anderson

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” —Anonymous

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” —Dr. Robert Anthony

“You are what you hate not what you ate.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“You can overcome anything if you don’t bellyache.” —Bernard Baruch

“You can overcome anything if you don’t bellyache.” —Bernard M. Baruch

“You cannot solve a problem by condemning it.” —Wayne Dwyer

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