No-ting Thinking Error Wreaks Havoc on Humans
- We’re All Insane! Second Edition will teach you how to think better and saner.
Trying to Undo Thinking Is a Thinking Error
- The no-ting thinking error is so common and destructive that it deserves its own page.
- The no-ting error can be considered under the basic heading of trying to control what you cannot control.
- The no-ting error is found everywhere, but it is the favorite of the emotionally disturbed and the addicted.
2 Main Variations of No-ting Error
- Demand something not exist that does exist.
- Demand something not be what it is.
2 Main Variations of No-ting Error: Undo Time or Stop Time
- Demand the past not be what it is: undo time either the past or some moment.
- Demand what is happening now is not happening now: stop existence or time.
No-ting Results in Frustration & Doing the Opposite of What You Want
- Since you cannot change reality, you become angry, depressed, frustrated, or upset.
- Since you insist on making something not exist, all you have left to focus on and reinforce is its existence.
Examples of the No-ting Error
- I must not drink; therefore, I must drink because I cannot not drink. There is no single state of being that is not drinking because not drinking is either everything else or nothing else.
- I must not have acted so badly in the past so that memory must change. And I will analyze or rationalize it until it does.
- He/she/it must treat me better right now than they are treating me right now. This reality cannot exist.
- My child does not do drugs even though everyone tells me that they do because I must not be seen to be a bad parent.
Compare No-ting Error to REBT
- Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) teaches people not to demand so much or so often.
Compare No-ting Error to Acceptance
- Accepting things as they are now or were in the past is the opposite of the no-ting error.
Compare to Sigmund Freud’s Defense Mechanism
- Do you see any or all of Freud’s defense mechanisms as ways to cope with no-ting?
- Denial and suppression are useful to stop no-ting because no-ting becomes increasingly distracting and disturbing since it cannot work or complete its task.
- Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms
Book Devoted to Overcoming No-ting Error
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For more on no-ting, read the book “Not” a.k.a. “Don’t Read This!”
1. No-ting (should-not-be) causes poor coping because no-ting conflicts with what happened and is unable to accept what happened.
2. No-ting (should-not-be) causes negative stress because no-ting collides with what happened and is unable to change what happened.
3. No-ting (should-not-be) causes emotional disturbance because no-ting insists that expectations that were not met still be met in the past.
4. No-ting (should-not-be) causes annoyance, frustration, and resentment because no-ting clashes with what happened and is unable to control what happened.
5. No-ting (should-not-be) causes negative relationships because no-ting demands a person not feel, think, and act as they have done; therefore, in effect, no-ting demands that person not exist and they often fight back with their own no-ting.