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No-ting Thinking Error

Book Cover "Don't Read This"


No-ting Thinking Error Wreaks Havoc on Humans


Trying to Undo Thinking Is a Thinking Error

  • The no-ting thinking error is so common and destructive that it deserves its own page.
  • The no-ting error can be considered under the basic heading of trying to control what you cannot control.
  • The no-ting error is found everywhere, but it is the favorite of the emotionally disturbed and the addicted.

2 Main Variations of No-ting Error

  1. Demand something not exist that does exist.
  2. Demand something not be what it is.

2 Main Variations of No-ting Error: Undo Time or Stop Time

  1. Demand the past not be what it is: undo time either the past or some moment.
  2. Demand what is happening now is not happening now: stop existence or time.

No-ting Results in Frustration & Doing the Opposite of What You Want

  1. Since you cannot change reality, you become angry, depressed, frustrated, or upset.
  2. Since you insist on making something not exist, all you have left to focus on and reinforce is its existence.

Examples of the No-ting Error

  1. I must not drink; therefore, I must drink because I cannot not drink. There is no single state of being that is not drinking because not drinking is either everything else or nothing else.
  2. I must not have acted so badly in the past so that memory must change. And I will analyze or rationalize it until it does.
  3. He/she/it must treat me better right now than they are treating me right now. This reality cannot exist.
  4. My child does not do drugs even though everyone tells me that they do because I must not be seen to be a bad parent.

Compare No-ting Error to REBT

  • Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) teaches people not to demand so much or so often.

Compare No-ting Error to Acceptance

  • Accepting things as they are now or were in the past is the opposite of the no-ting error.

Compare to Sigmund Freud’s Defense Mechanism

  • Do you see any or all of Freud’s defense mechanisms as ways to cope with no-ting?
  • Denial and suppression are useful to stop no-ting because no-ting becomes increasingly distracting and disturbing since it cannot work or complete its task.
  • Freud’s Ego Defense Mechanisms

Book Devoted to Overcoming No-ting Error


Scripture on No-ting (limited selection)

“What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet.” —Romans 7:7

“For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.” —Romans 7:15

“I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.” —Romans 7:21


3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2019

#No-ting #Stress: 2019-11-29

For more on no-ting, read the book “Not” a.k.a. “Don’t Read This!”

1. No-ting (should-not-be) causes poor coping because no-ting conflicts with what happened and is unable to accept what happened.

2. No-ting (should-not-be) causes negative stress because no-ting collides with what happened and is unable to change what happened.

3. No-ting (should-not-be) causes emotional disturbance because no-ting insists that expectations that were not met still be met in the past.

4. No-ting (should-not-be) causes annoyance, frustration, and resentment because no-ting clashes with what happened and is unable to control what happened.

5. No-ting (should-not-be) causes negative relationships because no-ting demands a person not feel, think, and act as they have done; therefore, in effect, no-ting demands that person not exist and they often fight back with their own no-ting.


3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2020

#No-ting #Shoulding: 2020-04-18

1. You will fail when your mind is on losing-the-game and on not-losing-the-game because both are losing positions.

2. You will often fail when your mind is on “I should win” and on “I should not lose” because “I should not lose” will often dominate “I should win.”

3. When your focus is on not failing (I should not fail), then you are predicting and preparing for failure.

4. When your focus is on not being a failure (I should not be a failure), then you are working to produce and perfect a failure.

5. When your mind is on “I should win” as an active positive-position and on “I should not lose” as an active negative-position, then if you can keep the positive position stronger than the negative position, you will win.

#No-ting #Should-Not: 2020-04-24

1. When you think something should-not-have-been, then you do not accept the past, are in conflict with the past, want to control what you cannot control, make the past appear worse than it was, often whine and blame, and increase and spread emotional stress.

2. When you think something should-not-be, then you do not accept the present, are in conflict with the present, want to control what you cannot control, make the present appear worse than it is, often whine and blame, and increase and spread emotional stress.

3. When you think something will-not-be what it should-be, then you do not accept the future, are in conflict with the future, want to control what you cannot control, make the future appear worse than it might be, often whine and blame, and increase and spread emotional stress.

4. Coping with the past, present, and future always begins with acceptance (it is what it is), and then moves on to problem-solving, fixing, and planning what you have or can get the authority and power to improve, fix, or prepare for.

5. Look out for any no-ting (should-not) because no-ting is anti-reality and will keep you sidetracked from productively improving what you can improve, moving on to new experiences, planing for the future, and proactively preparing for problems.


Related Pages

  1. Constructivism: Pros & Cons
  2. Nine Fundamental Thinking Errors
  3. Postmodern Foolishness
  4. Postmodernism & Constructivism Exposed
  5. Quotations: Acceptance & Coping
  6. REBT: List of Pages
  7. REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
  8. Test Your Thinking
  9. Thinking Errors: List of Pages
  10. Trying to Fail: List of Pages
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