Shame Is the Negative Half of Ego

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Shame and Ego: Harmful Shame

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

Shame and Ego: Shame is one side of the coin of ego. Shame is not cured by pride because pride is worse than shame for the self.


“Guilt is really the reverse side of the coin of pride. Guilt aims at self-destruction, and pride aims at the destruction of others.” —Bill W., As Bill Sees It, p. 140


Shame and Ego: Destructive Shame

  • Shame is the enemy that leads to false identification and future evil.
  • Shame says you are the wrong instead of the truth that either your choices or your flesh nature are at fault (the wrong).

Shame and Ego: 3 Tests Prove Self-Esteem Is Insane


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Shame and Ego: Wrong Ideas

  • Shame promotes the false identity of self as wrong knowings and doings and the false solution of self as right knowings and doings.

  1. Shame is pride for others.
  2. Shame is a desire for pride.
  3. Shame is pride in knowing better than yourself.
  4. Shame is instruction in pride as the solution.
  5. Shame is the left hand of Satan at work.
  6. Shame is the two sides of the one coin of ego balanced on one side.
  7. Shame is the root of ego.
  8. Shame is the opposite side of pride.
  9. Shame is the drive for pride.
  10. Shame is what darkness hides.
  11. Shame is why you suppress and repress your experiences.

  • Shame limits, interferes with, and ignores the learning that only failure provides.

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Shame and Ego: Some Results

  • The shame of self as self-esteem objects, images, and concepts is always problematic and disintegrating.

Shame and Ego: Scripts, Programs, & Games Can Result

  1. Acting the shame out on others as a criminal.
  2. Acting the shame out on yourself as a victim.
  3. Hiding the shame by rescuing others as a codependent.
  4. Hiding the shame by acting from behind a mask as a phony.

Shame and Ego: Feelings that Can Result

  1. Depression.
  2. Anxiety.
  3. Anger.
  4. Pride.
  5. Guilt.

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Shame and Ego: Shave of Behavior Can Be Productive

  • If your shame is about your behavior and not yourself, then your shame can help you to function more successfully in society.
  • Shame is a social feeling when not about self. Shame about self is only an ego feeling.
  • Shame about just behaviors can help you to adjust to society.
  • Shame about behaviors can help you adapt and adjust to any moral code or system.

Shame and Ego: Shame of Human Nature Can Help

  • The shame of your human nature can be spiritually productive.
  • The shame of your human nature is not the shame of your ego.
  • The shame of your human nature is not self-esteem shame.
  • The shame of your human nature is the shame of your basic tendencies to death, darkness, destruction, and deception.
  • The shame of your human nature is not the shame of yourself as things and thoughts (self-concepts, self-images).
  • The shame of your human nature is acknowledging that we always need God to lead us to the good.

  • Reduce and eliminate ego and reduce and eliminate unhealthy shame.


  • Practice spiritual surrender and practice healthy shame.

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Shame and Ego: Quotations Various Sources

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“He who feels belittled must have been consequential.” —Lao Tzu

“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.” —Booker Taliaferro Washington, 1856-191

“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” —Max Ehrmann

“Self-esteem is the cause of our shame, of our fall. It is this self-esteem that must be understood, and not the fall.” —J. Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living, First Series, p. 146

“Shame is a form of pride as shame only exists with self-centeredness and a perverted sense of grandiosity.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“The highest courage is to dare to appear to be what one is.” —John L. Spalding

“There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it.” —George Bernard Shaw

“We should feel sorrow, but not sink under its oppression.” —Confucius


Shame and Ego: Quotations from Scripture

Listed Biblically

“O ye sons of men, how long will ye turn my glory into shame? how long will ye love vanity, and seek after leasing? Selah.” —Psalms 4:2

“I have stuck unto thy testimonies: O LORD, put me not to shame.” —Psalms 119:31

“The wise shall inherit glory: but shame shall be the promotion of fools.” —Proverbs 3:35

“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.” —Proverbs 11:2

“For there is a shame that bringeth sin; and there is a shame which is glory and grace.” —Ecclesiasticus 4:21

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.” —Isaiah 64:6

“Thou art filled with shame for glory: drink thou also, and let thy foreskin be uncovered: the cup of the LORD’s right hand shall be turned unto thee, and shameful spewing shall be on thy glory.” —Habakkuk 2:16

“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” —Romans 8:1

“I write not these things to shame you, but as my beloved sons I warn you.” —I Corinthians 4:14

“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.” —II Corinthians 7:10

“Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.” —Philippians 3:19

“Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.” —I Timothy 3:6

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:” —I Peter 5:8

“For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.” —I John 3:20


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Shame and Ego: Related Pages of Free Information

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  3. 5Fs of the Survival Instinct (5TP)
  4. 10 Ways to Change & Control Others
  5. 12 Steps Stop Shit
  6. Acceptance: A Step Towards
  7. Coping Skills: Free Help
  8. Two Healthy Options PDF: Problem-Solving & Coping

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