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Forgiveness Requires Forgiveness

Forgive to Fight Ego

Practice Forgiveness for Your Own Sake

Failure to Forgive Is a Self-Curse

  • Unforgiveness is when you eat poison in the vain attempt to poison someone else.
  • God will not be mocked. You must forgive to be forgiven.
  • You bring into your life what you dwell on. Dwell on evil, whether of self or others, and you bring evil into your life.
  • The hypocrite wants forgiveness but withholds forgiveness–so receives none.
  • You have enough baggage to carry without carrying the sins of others.
  • The evil of self or others that you resist letting go–persists in your mind. Is your mind a temple for evil or good?

When you do not forgive it is because you want the other person to be damned. And you foolishly reason that your damning your internal images of them as if some voodoo doll will keep them damned. In fact, it will only keep you damned for serving and hosting damning.

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Qutations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“Distrust all in whom the impulse to punish is powerful.” —Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, 1844-1900 

“Earth gives birth to everything and yet it continues to give.” —Menander, fragment 

“For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” —I Peter 2:20 

“Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.” —Harriet Nelson 

“Forgive and forget means forgive and stop dwelling on it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“Forgiveness does not mean either that you must let the forgiven back in your life or that you must become their victim again.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” —William Arthur Ward 

“Forgiveness is as valuable to the one who forgives as to the one forgiven.” —Mary Whitcher, Shaker member 

“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” —Hannah Arendt 

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” —Cicero 

“Hatred is one long wait.” —Ren’ Maran 

“He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven.” —Thomas Fuller, 1608-1661 

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.” —Henry Ward Beecher 

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” —Dalai Lama 

“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” —William Blake 

“Lack of forgiveness is holding on to a burning coal despite the hurt in the hopes that it is burning and hurting someone else.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“Lack of forgiveness of others breeds lack of self-forgiveness.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition,p. 130 

“Let us forget and forgive injuries.” —Miguel de Cervantes, 1547-1616 

“Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares to forgive an injury.” —E. H. Chapin, 1814-1880 

“Only the brave know how to forgive. A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.” —Laurence Sterne, 1713-1768 

“Pray you now, forget and forgive.” —William Shakespeare, King Lear 

“Reason to rule, but mercy to forgive: The first is law, the last prerogative.” —John Dryden, 1631-1700 

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” —Thomas Szasz, 1920- 

“To be social is to be forgiving.” —Robert Frost 

“To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” —Confucius, c. 551-479 B.C. 

“To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” —Confucius 

“To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition,p. 137 

“To suffer woes which Hope thinks infinite; To forgive wrongs darker than death or night; . . . This alone is Life, Joy, Empire, Victory.” —Percy Bysshe Shelley, 1792-1822 

“Tout comprendre rend tres indulgent.” This is Latin for, “To understand everything is to forgive everything.” 

“When the rain falls it cannot be put back into the clouds.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” —Roberto Assagioli 

“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” —Roberto Assagioli 

“You will forgive people more easily when you end your need to make them wrong.” —Brian Koslow 

Quotations from Scripture

“For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee.” —Psalms 86:5 

“Forgive thy neighbour the hurt that he hath done unto thee, so shall thy sins also be forgiven when thou prayest.” —Ecclesiasticus 28:2 

“And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” —Matthew 6:12 

“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” —Matthew 6:14-15 

“For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” —Matthew 7:2 

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? until seven times?” Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” —Matthew 18:21-22 

“And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, until he should pay all that due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.” —Matthew 18:34-35 

“And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.” —Mark 11:25-26 

“Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:” —Luke 6:37 

“And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.” —Luke 11:4 

“Him hath God exalted with his right hand to be a Prince and a Saviour, for to give repentance to Israel, and forgiveness of sins.” —Acts 5:31 

“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.” —II Corinthians 7:10 

“In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace;” —Ephesians 1:7 

“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” —Ephesians 4:32 

“In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sins:” —Colossians 1:14 

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” —I John 1:9 

“For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.” —I John 3:20