35 Stages of Counseling or Switching

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The Many Stages of Switching (Change): 35

  • Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT).

35 Stages of Counseling Beyond the 3Rs: Link for 3 Stages

  • Note: You can be at different points in this “change” model for different issues. That is, you may be further along with one problem than another.
  • Remember not to let one problem that you are either not ready to deal with or are discouraged about stop you from receiving help for others that you are willing to face.
  • You do not have to work on all of your problems at once or even all of your problems one by one during this visit to counseling.
  • You only have to work on the ones you choose to work on now.

List of Stages of Switching (Change)

  1. unaware of change
  2. aware of change
  3. consider change
  4. decide against change
  5. decide for change
  6. motivated to seek change
  7. seek change information
  8. seek change resources
  9. discouraged about seeking
  10. stop seeking: change is short-circuited
  11. motivated to finish seeking
  12. make a plan for change
  13. motivated to work plan
  14. work at change plan
  15. discouraged about working
  16. stop working: change is short-circuited
  17. motivated to finish plan
  18. change occurs
  19. motivated to maintain change
  20. seek maintenance information
  21. make maintenance plan
  22. motivated to prevent relapse
  23. seek relapse information
  24. make relapse prevention plan
  25. work on the maintenance plan
  26. discouraged about working
  27. stop working: change is short-circuited
  28. relapse: lose change
  29. motivated to recover change
  30. apply relapse plan
  31. recover change
  32. motivated to maintain change
  33. revise maintenance plan (e.g., include more motivation)
  34. revise relapse plan if needed (e.g., add new resources)
  35. work at revised maintenance plan

3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2020

#Counseling #Plan: 2020-04-29

1. Your willingness to suffer the work to end a problem, instead of suffering the problem, must be verified or developed.

2. Your willingness to give up the problem’s payoffs, such as feelings of being better than others, is usually the first issue to work on.

3. Your relationship to your problem needs to change; for example, stop relating to the problem as an “it” that is plaguing you and, instead, relate to the problem as a bad habit that can be replaced by practicing a better habit.

4. Your problem with your problem, for example, your anxiety about your anxiety, is a crucial place for early work, else it might sabotage all your efforts to overcome the problem.

5. Once you have your plan, your intention to develop new feeling, thinking, and behaving habits through continual practice must be steadfast.

Related Pages

Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A fool remains a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce

“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.” —Erica Jong

“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” —Hebrews 12:8

“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194

“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5

“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” —Proverbs 27:6

“For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” —I Peter 2:20

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6

“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7

“Justifying a fault doubles it.” —French proverb

“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11

“No one wants advice–only corroboration.” —John Steinbeck

“Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it.” —Gordon R. Dickson

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“There is no point to correction unless there is there is the possibility of correction.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” —Anonymous

Quotations from Scripture on Counseling

“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5

“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14

“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15

“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20

“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22

“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20

“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18

“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3

“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2

“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18

“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13

“Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25