Quotations: Expectations & Suffering

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Expectations Cause Suffering

Expectations cause suffering. We list quotations from many sources expressing the idea that expectations cause suffering.

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“All earthly delights are sweeter in expectation than in enjoyment; but all spiritual pleasures more in fruition than in expectation.” —Francois Fenelon

“As long as I focus on what I feel and don’t worry about where I’m going, it works out. Having no expectations but being open to everything is what makes wonderful things happen. If I don’t worry, there’s no obstruction and life flows easily. It sounds impractical, but ‘Expect nothing; be open to everything’ is really all it is.” —Marketa Irglova

“Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.” —Marilu Henner

“Buddhism teaches that desire is the cause of suffering. However, desire is not the cause; expectations are the cause of suffering.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Building up expectations, creating unrealistic time frames, feeling like our end goal is the end all, be all can all lead to frustration or anxiety. We end up feeling as though we have to power through what we want rather than enjoy the process and just let the result come as it may.” —Gretchen Bleiler

“But I think it is always difficult to have high expectations of yourself or anyone else.” —Uma Thurman

“By not having to live up to people’s expectations, I was somehow free.” —Kris Kristofferson

“Death, after all, is the common expectation from birth. Neither heroes nor cowards can escape it.” —Ellis Peters

“Do not seek to bring things to pass in accordance with your wishes, but wish for them as they are, and you will find them.” —Epictetus

“Don’t seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will—then your life will flow well.” —Epictetus

“Every great cause begins as a movement, becomes a business, and eventually degenerates into a racket.” —Eric Hoffer

“Expect to suffer.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Expectation is the root of all heartache.” —Willian Shakespeare

“Happiness can exist only without expectations because expectations are not at peace with reality.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Have acceptance that your present path is not likely to work, acceptance that hassles will still exist, acceptance that you had better try a different path, and acceptance that the new path (or any new paths) may still not work.”—Albert Ellis

“Hope is the cure for expectations.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“I always love to be careful with my expectations so that life has pleasant surprises for me.” —Sebastian Thrun

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” —Bruce Lee

“I am happy with what comes, I don’t have expectations of any stature.” —Leon Russell

“I can’t think of anything worse, really, than to try to live up to someone else’s expectations of what you should be. You don’t make art by consensus.” —Tracy Chapman

“I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped.” ―Fritz Perls

“I had no dreams of such economic success. You should have fun and not be so weighed down by expectations.” —Sergey Brin

“I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values—and follow my own moral compass—then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.” —Michelle Obama

“I think there comes a time when you start dropping expectations. Because the world doesn’t owe you anything, and you don’t owe the world anything in return. Things, feelings, are a very simple transaction. If you get it, be grateful. If you don’t, be alright with it.” —Fawad Khan

“If I expected more from you than I received, then I was filled with my expectation and not your offer.” —Noah benShea, Jacob the Baker

“If magical thinking, like visualization tricks, worked, then expectations would be ruling reality; however, expectations mainly cause disappointments and misery, not change or control.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If you desire any of the things which are not in your own control, you must necessarily be disappointed.” —Epictetus

“If you expect nothing, you’re apt to be surprised. You’ll get it.” —Malcolm Forbes

“It’s a good place when all you have is hope and no expectations.” —Danny Boyle

“It can be effectively argued that expectations are at the root of demands.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Life is largely a matter of expectation.” —Horace

“Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.” —Charlotte Bronte

“Life is under no obligation to give us what we expect.” —Margaret Mitchell

“Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.” —Allen Saunders

“Live in hope, not expectation.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Living is the art of getting used to what we didn’t expect.” –Eleanor C. Wood

“Many people feel so pressured by the expectations of others that it causes them to be frustrated, miserable and confused about what they should do. But there is a way to live a simple, joy-filled, peaceful life, and the key is learning how to be led by the Holy Spirit, not the traditions or expectations of man.” —Joyce Meyer

“More information is always better than less. When people know the reason things are happening, even if it’s bad news, they can adjust their expectations and react accordingly. Keeping people in the dark only serves to stir negative emotions.” —Simon Sinek

“My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.” —Michael J. Fox

“My life motto is basically to lower your standards and expectations so you’re never disappointed and never put any trust in anything, and I try to prepare for the day that I wake up, and everyone I know is like, ‘LOL JK best long-running practical joke ever,’ so I’ve never really let myself freak out or get too excited about anything.” —Tavi Gevinson

“No-ting can be understood as a reverse expectation.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Oft expectation fails, and most oft there/ Where most it promises; and oft it hits/ Where hope is coldest, and despair most fits.” —William Shakespeare, All’s Well that Ends Well

“Patients who trust their doctors and have a psychological expectation of getting better could trigger a reaction in their body.” —Irving Kirsch

“Peace begins when expectation ends.” —Sri Chinmoy

“People win Oscars, and then it seems like they fall off the planet. And that’s partly because a huge expectation walks in the room and sits right down on top of your head. The moment I won the Oscar, I felt the teardown the very next day.” —Halle Berry

“Plan work, not the results of work.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Promises are problems because they create expectations, and expectations are rarely met.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“REBT teaches that demands are the cause of suffering. However, demands are not the cause; expectations are the cause of suffering.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.” —Steve Jobs

“Simplicity is not the goal. It is the by-product of a good idea and modest expectations.” —Paul Rand

“So I look for the best and am prepared for the opposite.” ―Seneca, Letter LXXXVIII

“Social media, unfortunately, just makes it a lot easier to be jealous. It sets up false expectations of reality, so it’s really easy to look at someone else’s life online and assume that they have everything going great for them and that their life is perfect.” —Franchesca Ramsey

“The American dream has now morphed into an expectation. And if it isn’t provided, or if it doesn’t happen, then people feel cheated.” —Rush Limbaugh

“The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.” —Confucius

“The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow, and loses today. You are arranging what lies in fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.” —Seneca

“The main thing in making art often is letting go of your expectation and your idea.” —Agnes Martin

“The origin of sorrow is this: to wish for something that does not come to pass.” —Epictetus, Discourses

“The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering.” —Ram Dass

“Things rarely turn out the way you expect them to.” —Aphorism

“To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves – there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.” —Joan Didion

“To work without attachment is to work without the expectation of reward or fear of any punishment in this world or the next. Work so done is a means to the end, and God is the end.” —Ramakrishna

“True generosity is an offering; given freely and out of pure love. No strings attached. No expectations. Time and love are the most valuable possession you can share.” —Suze Orman

“We never live; we are always in the expectation of living.” —Voltaire

“When one’s expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have.” —Stephen Hawking

“When we are fully conscious and aware, we actually know when we are about to overreact. When we are mindful, we have the mental space and are aware of when our moods change. When we are mindful, we are aware of when our mental models are being challenged and when expectation does not meet with reality, which can trigger an emotional response.” —Elizabeth Thornton

“You can’t base your life on other people’s expectations.” —Stevie Wonder

“You can’t live someone else’s expectations in life. It’s a recipe for disaster.” —Bear Grylls

“You shouldn’t live your life according to someone else’s expectations.” —Steven Aitchison

“Your goal of having general success and perfection dooms you to serious disappointment, even if you only prefer it. If you must achieve it, beware!” —Albert Ellis

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3D: Daily Dose: 2021

Without Hope, No Future: 09-19-2021

  1. “Live in hope, not expectation.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
  2. “Hope is praying for the best from the best.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
  3. “Hope provides both meaning and motivation, which are two indispensable conditions for life.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
  4. “Hope for others can be an act of charity because you think better of them than they are showing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
  5. “If you focus only on the present, then you deny both faith and hope, which are based on the future.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

3D: Daily Dose: 2020

#Demands #Expectations: 2020-03-05

“Hope and pray for the best, but expect and plan for the worst.”

  1. To better manage expectations, first separate your dreams and goals from your expectations.
  2. Low expectations lead to gratitude and happiness, and high expectations lead to frustrations and irrational demands.
  3. Thinking things are likely to fail defeats high expectations and protects dreams and goals from discouragement.
  4. Expecting failure, and so problem-solving in advance (proactive measures), is more useful than expecting success because predicting failure helps you to overcome the inevitable setbacks that life often has in abundance.
  5. A continued attitude of low-expectations can make for a productive and satisfying life instead of a life of regret and whining about conditions that comes from maintaining high expectations.

#Expectation #Unhappiness: 2020-03-06

“Hope and pray for the best, but expect and plan for the worst.”

  1. Expectations are at the root of anxiety, worry, and fear.
  2. Expectations are at the root of guilt, shame, and depression.
  3. Expectations are at the root of whining, blaming, and damning.
  4. Expectations are at the root of discontent, dissatisfaction, frustration, and unhappiness.
  5. Expectations are at the root of the irrational demands focused on in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).

#Gratitude #Expectations: 2020-03-10

“Hope and pray for the best, but expect and plan for the worst.”

  1. Expectations are the enemy of gratitude because you are not grateful for what you expect to get anyway.
  2. Expectations are the enemy of serenity because you are not serene when things don’t turn out the way that you expect.
  3. Expectations are the enemy of peace-of-mind because your mind is not peaceful when it does not get what it expects to get.
  4. Expectations are the enemy of appreciation and thankfulness because you do not appreciate what you expect to get as a matter of course.
  5. Expectations are the enemy of contentment because you will not be content with what happens unless it meets or exceeds your expectations.

#Expectations #Peace: 2020-04-20

  1. Expectations do not allow for clean or original experience because expectations color experience.
  2. Expectations do not allow for peace and serenity because expectations are desires and demands for what should be.
  3. Expectations do not allow for freedom of discovery, exploration, and inquiry because expectations are focused on harvesting specific territories.
  4. Expectations do not allow for spontaneity and joy because expectations are agenda-based, and that does not allow for the freedom that spontaneity and joy require.
  5. Expectations do not allow for acceptance, coping, forgiveness, and understanding because expectations have goals that must be met, and anything that thwarts those goals is the enemy or at least a nuisance.

#Expectation #Desire: 2020-08-25

  1. Expectations cause disturbance when you desire expected outcomes.
  2. Expectations cause disturbance when you demand expected outcomes.
  3. Expectations cause disturbance when you identify with expected outcomes.
  4. Expectations cause disturbance when you fear or resist expected outcomes.
  5. Expectations cause disturbance when you have an investment in or pride riding on expected outcomes.

#Faith #Expectation: 2020-08-26

  1. Faith is the expectation that God is true.
  2. Hope is the expectation that God is merciful.
  3. Charity is the expectation that God rewards good deeds.
  4. Forgiveness is the expectation that God forgives those who forgive.
  5. Compassion is the expectation that God shows compassion on the compassionate.
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