Cause of Suffering

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Recognize, Remove, & Replace the Cause of Suffering

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” —Seneca

“Peace begins when expectation ends.” —Sri Chinmoy

“Suffering is not the opposite of happiness; it is the veiling of happiness. It is a call from happiness itself, reminding us that we have mistaken our Self for an idea, an image or an object.” —Rupert Spira

“The origin of sorrow is this: to wish for something that does not come to pass.” —Epictetus

“The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.” —Eric Hoffer


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4 Parts or Stages for Understanding Suffering

  1. The recognition of suffering.
  2. The recognition of the cause of suffering.
  3. The removal or negation of the cause of suffering.
  4. The replacing of suffering with right service, which is the end of suffering.

Recognize that Suffering Is Ego

  • Suffering is the loss of your authentic and original self.
  • Suffering is the loss of your authentic and original nature.
  • Suffering is having awareness of an ego instead of your real self.
  • Ego causes the loss of your real self by having you identify with knowing (claims to know) instead of your inner space and place.

Recognize that Suffering Is Separation from God

  • Suffering is the loss of the awareness of your self as the host for God.
  • Ego causes your separation from God by making ego your new center.
  • Ego causes service to knowing (false knowing), not self or God.

Recognize that CLAIMING to Know Is the Cause of Suffering

  • Claiming is the cause of suffering because the ego is based on claiming to know.
  • Claiming is the cause of suffering because claiming to know causes you to identify with ego, not self.
  • Claiming is the cause of suffering because separation from God is caused by claiming to know.
  • Claiming causes separation from God by attributing powers and abilities to you that only God has.
  • The cause of suffering is claiming to be a cause because God is the only cause.
  • The cause of suffering is claiming to be a source because God is the only source.

Recognize the Types of Claiming

  • The cause of suffering is claiming to know something.
  • The cause of suffering is claiming to do something.
  • The cause of suffering is claiming to be something.
  • The cause of suffering is trying to know, do, or be something, because trying requires claiming abilities.
  • The cause of suffering is trying to undo something because undoing requires claiming abilities.
  • The cause of suffering is promising something because promising requires claiming powers.

Recognize Common Symptoms of Claiming

  • Ego desires (pride, covetousness) are a symptom of claiming. While the desire for God is good, the desires of ego serve only separation from God.
  • Clinging is a symptom of claiming powers. Clinging is an attempt to know, do, and be good by holding on to and collecting good thoughts, things, or experiences.
  • Grasping is a symptom of claiming abilities. Grasping is an attempt to know, do, and be good by claiming to be right about what are good thoughts, things, or experiences.
  • Aversion is a symptom of claiming powers. Aversion is an attempt to know, do, and be good by claiming to be right about what are wrong thoughts, things, or experiences.
  • Delusion is a symptom of claiming abilities. Delusion is an attempt to know, do, and be good by trying to do or undo thoughts, things, or experiences.

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Remove the Cause of Suffering

  • You remove the cause of suffering by continually reducing your claiming to know.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by continually reducing your trying to know.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by continually reducing your trying to undo.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by continually reducing your promises.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by negating any claims of yours to know, do, or be something.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by negating any claims of yours to be a cause of anything.
  • You remove the cause of suffering by negating any claims of yours to be a source of anything.

Replace Suffering with Right Service

  • Instead of claiming to be a cause, you give all credit and praise to God alone.
  • Instead of claiming to be a source, you give all thanks and gratitude to God alone.
  • Instead of claiming in the form of trying to know, you say, “By the grace of God may this be known through me.”
  • Instead of claiming in the form of trying to do, you say, “By the grace of God may this be done through me.”
  • Instead of claiming in the form of trying to undo, you say, “May God choose to fix or improve this through me.”
  • Instead of claiming in the form of making promises, you say, “God willing.”
  • Instead of having your ego at your center, you spend your thoughts and feelings on God, not ego.

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3 Ways to Suffer with 3 Results

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3 Main Ways to Suffer

3 Main Ways You Can Choose to Suffer


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For More Information

  1. For more information on the use of the 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace), discover either Garden or Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition!
  2. For more information on the nature of ego, discover Ego.
  3. For more information on the nature of the self, discover Self: Who Am I?
  4. For more information on spiritual surrender, discover Spiritual Surrender’s Seven Steps.

3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2020

#Suffer #Mind: 2020-02-18

  1. Most of what you have and will suffer from is your imagination.
  2. More suffering is mental than physical, and the worst physical suffering is mental suffering about physical suffering.
  3. Suffering is mainly about imagined ego concepts and images appearing ugly to others.
  4. Suffering typically consists of tragic self-stories that never happened, are not happening now, and never will happen.
  5. To overcome suffering, stop thinking about yourself, stop making up self-stories, and stop having ego concepts and images.

#Suffering #Optional: 2020-02-19

  1. Mental suffering is optional because the world cannot choose it for you.
  2. Mental suffering can make any form of suffering worse than it is and even to seem unbearable.
  3. Mental suffering often blames and damns someone or something other than itself for the suffering it causes.
  4. Mental suffering can make anything into suffering by choosing to view it as causing negative self-esteem (ego pain).
  5. Mental suffering is used by many to claim victimhood and the right to punish and control others instead of their responsibility to punish and control mental suffering.

#Expectation #Desire: 2020-08-25

  1. Expectations cause disturbance when you desire expected outcomes.
  2. Expectations cause disturbance when you demand expected outcomes.
  3. Expectations cause disturbance when you identify with expected outcomes.
  4. Expectations cause disturbance when you fear or resist expected outcomes.
  5. Expectations cause disturbance when you have an investment in or pride riding on expected outcomes.

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Related Pages of Free Information

  1. Desire: Attachment to Desire Is the Problem, Not Desire
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