Emotional Responsibility Diagrammed
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“The worse deceit is self-deceit.” —David Ben-Gurion
“Rule your mind, or it will rule you.” —Horace, a Roman poet
“Stop being a victim of your mind by owning your feelings.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“You can only be a ‘victim’ of yourself. It’s all how you discipline your mind.” —Epictetus
“We teach people that they upset themselves. We can’t change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling, and behaving today.” —Albert Ellis
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People Mainly Upset Themselves
The diagram below clarifies that the person who upsets themselves (Person Two) does it to themselves.
“Because you upset yourself, therefore you, luckily, can practically always un-upset the one person in the world whose thoughts and feelings you control—you!” —Albert Ellis
Emotional Responsibility Diagrammed
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Take on the task of learning and practicing emotional responsibility.
- They are victims only of their minds.
- It is their choice to take the insult seriously (to own it or to take it to heart) and to think a lot about it.
- These two choices make the insult painful—and not the insult itself.
- You can respond emotionally, and when you claim that your response-ability is determined by other people, places, and things—you are out of control and superstitious.
Emotional Responsibility Diagrammed
Emotional Responsibility & Science
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- How People Choose Their Emotions
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People Cannot Make You Own Their Stuff
“Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems–themselves.” —Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, p. 43
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3D: Daily Dose: 2020
#Psychological #Pain: 2020-06-24
- Psychological pain is self-inflicted; else, you have surrendered your choices.
- Psychological pain is self-inflicted; else, you are not in control of your inner life.
- Psychological pain is self-inflicted; else, you are not a mature adult but only a manipulated child.
- Psychological pain is self-inflicted; else, your heart, soul, and mind are being controlled by others.
- Psychological pain is self-inflicted; else, you believe you can control the feelings of others but not your own.
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Fast-Facts 2021: You Affect Yourself the Most
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Quotations Various Sources
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“A baby expects to be soothed, but a mature adult soothes themselves.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“A man’s as miserable as he thinks he is.” —Marcus Seneca
“A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.” —Francis Bacon
“Accuse not Nature, she hath done her part; Do thou but thine.” —John Milton, Paradise Lost
“Adults are experts at self-disturbance and inept at self-soothing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“An excuse is a lie guarded.” —Jonathan Swift
“Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?” —Annonymous
“But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.” —Galatians 6:4
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” —Mark Twain
“Each man the architect of his own fate.” —Sallust
“I am happy and content because I think I am.” —Alain-Rene Lesage
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” —W. E. Henley, Invictus
“I realized that they had already taken everything from me except my mind and my heart. Those they could not take without my permission. I decided not to give them away. And neither should you.” —Nelson Mandela
“If people can’t control their own emotions, then they have to start trying to control other people’s behavior.” —Robin Skynner, noted psychiatrist
“If pleasure first, then pain second.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“If we have not peace within ourselves, it is in vain to seek it from outward sources.” —Francois de La Rochefoucauld
“If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you!” —Sister Mary Tricky
“It belongs to small-mindedness to be unable to bear either honor or dishonor, either good fortune or bad, but to be filled with conceit when honored and puffed up by trifling good fortune, and to be unable to bear even the smallest dishonor and to deem any chance failure a great misfortune, and to be distressed and annoyed at everything. Moreover, the small-minded man is the sort of person to call all slights an insult and dishonor, even those that are due to ignorance or forgetfulness. Small-mindedness is accompanied by pettiness, querulousness, pessimism and self-abasement.” —Aristotle, Virtues and Vices
“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” —Agnes Repplier
“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” —William Shakespeare
“Life always gets harder towards the summit–the cold increases, responsibility increases.” —Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, 1844-1900
“Luck is where preparation meets opportunity.” —Anonymous
“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.” —Jean-Paul Sartre, 1905-1980
“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will–his personal responsibility in the realm of faith and morals.” —Albert Schweitzer
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” —Abraham Lincoln
“My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” —Oprah Winfrey
“No one has ever gotten to anyone.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Not flattered by praise, not hurt by blame.” —Buddhist saying
“Not in the shouts and plaudits of the throng, but in ourselves, are triumph and defeat.” —Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“Nothing stops the man who desires to achieve. Every obstacle is simply a course to develop his achievement muscle. It’s a strengthening of his powers of accomplishment.” —Eric Butterworth
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” —Michael Jordan
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” —Anonymous
“Rule your mind, or it will rule you.” —Horace, a Roman poet
“Sensations lead to feelings, lead to thoughts, lead to actions.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Stimuli prompt feelings prompt thoughts prompt responses prompt feelings.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“Some pursue happiness, others create it.” —Anonymous
“Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems–themselves.” —Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, p. 43
“The ability to accept responsibility is the measure of the man.” —Roy Smith
“The fault, Dear Brutus, is not in our stars; but in ourselves, that we are underlings.” —William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar
“The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions, the more credibility you will have.” —Brian Koslow
“The only disability in life is a bad attitude.” —Scott Hamilton
“The U. S. Constitution doesn’t guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself.” —Benjamin Franklin
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” —Joan Didion
“There is no man so low that the cure for his condition does not lie strictly within himself.” —Thomas L. Masson
“To a large extent, I can control my feelings and desires and can change them so that I lead a happier existence.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 247
“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” —Carlos Castenada
“What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.” —Oliver C. Wilson
“Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 252
“While they were saying among themselves it cannot be done, it was done.” —Helen Keller
“Why is it that people are willing to take responsibility for their happiness or mild sadness but not their severe disturbance or great unhappiness?—why ego, of course!” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“You can only be a victim of yourself. It’s all how you discipline your mind.” —Epictetus
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Emotional Responsibility Diagrammed
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6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
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9 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Anger Skills & Topics
- 2. Blame Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Coping Skills & Topics
- 5. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 6. Praying Skills & Topics
- 7. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Thinking Skills & Topics
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