How To End Psychological Pain: 6 Steps

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6 Steps that Work to Stop Emotional Pain

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Here are six steps that can cure or relieve either psychological or physical pain.

6 Steps

  1. Apologize directly to the pain or provide understanding for its existence.
  2. Accept the pain as it is, or be mindful of it and fully recognize it.
  3. Empathize with the distress, which is to relate to the pain, not sympathize with the pain.
  4. Love the space and place that has the pain, not the pain. Show compassion.
  5. Encourage the space and place of the distress that there are better ways to feel there.
  6. Remember pleasure, relaxation, or comfort in the space and place that now has the pain.

Some Suggestions

  • You must repeat the 6 steps often if they are to work.
  • You can repeat the 6 steps in any order and at any time.
  • You can just use the steps that you remember.
  • Experiment using the 6 steps with an upset spouse or child.
  • Above all, you must learn to accept the pain, because it is “not-ing” that keeps the distress alive.
  • For more on “not-ing”, discover Not.
  • Many therapies include one or more of these six steps; therefore, you might be able to include some of these steps as part of something you already know.
  • If you are under the care of any professional, then ask them before starting this new practice.
  • This same process can be done with only four steps.
  • Some find simpler to be easier and some find more detailed to be easier.

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  • Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.

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