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Roles versus Masks

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Perform Roles, Not Become Masks

“The worse deceit is self-deceit.” —David Ben-Gurion

“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” —Socrates


MASKS

  • Masks are what you wear to hide behind.
  • Masks divide self from self.
  • Masks are the device of the phony.
  • Masks are a pretense.
  • Masks are lies.

EXAMPLE

Beware those who smile all the time, because they are hiding their real intentions and will likely stab you in the back when they get the chance.


ROLES

  • Roles are what you perform.
  • Roles are behavior sets that you follow.
  • Roles are guidelines for behavior that help us to interact.
  • Roles are not people and people are not roles.
  • Roles are true when you follow them and are aware that you are following a role.

EXAMPLE

We want you to follow your role as a car driver and not your true desires as a car driver. Your role is to stop at a red light whether or not you feel like it. Your role is to stop for a school bus whether or not you think you need to.


ROLES VERSUS MASKS

  • Roles are helpful and masks are hurtful.
  • Roles keep you within the bounds of your duties whereas masks hide your true intentions.
  • Roles are real and masks are phony.
  • Roles are guidelines and masks are deceptions.
  • Roles are functions and masks are games.

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