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Move Beyond Duality Technique (MBD)

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Move Beyond Duality to Discover Triality & the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP)

“The first step in moving beyond duality is the discovery of triality.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Triality is balance.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice


TRIALITY

Triality is a giant leap past simplistic duality.


5 Thinking Positions (5TP)

The 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) are the replacement for conflictual and dualistic thinking.


Move Beyond Duality Counseling Technique (MBD)

Note: This technique is for professional counselor’s use only. It is not recommended that you try this on yourself or with anyone other than a trained and licensed professional counselor.

Those familiar with the work of Carl Rogers will recognize similarities between this technique (MBD) and the technique that Carl Rogers employed.


Steps of MBD 

  1. Establish a professional relationship with the client.
  2. Choose one issue that the client intends to resolve.
  3. Help the client to explore their mixed feelings and thoughts about the issue.
  4. Help the client pinpoint the main dualistic conflict that they have about the issue.
  5. Have the client accept that conflict and duality and to regard it as an aid for discovery.
  6. Have the client maintain the energy, intensity, and motivation (drive) of the duality and conflict.
  7. Have the client use that energy to shine a light on the continuum between the opposites of the duality. The continuum is most easily represented and explained to the client using the 5 Thinking Positions paradigm.
  8. Have the client use the energy to find a resolution for the conflict in the area in-between the opposites. The client will accept alternative realities, cope with duality, discover possibilities, create new views, explore perspectives, find new meaning, invent new combinations, investigate options, and problem-solve their own way out of the conflict. All you need to do is to support and encourage the client that they can find their own answers by using the conflictual energy to see more than the opposites.

EXAMPLE MBD

Issue: “I hate and love my mother.”

Client process stage one:

  1. I can stand to feel both my hate and love for my mother.
  2. I can stand to think both good and bad thoughts about my mother.

Client process stage two:

  1. I can see that my mother was sometimes good and bad but also was sometimes partially good, partially bad, and even neutral in her responses and behaviors.
  2. I now have a more varied and complete view of my mother.

Client process stage three:

  1. I now consider my mother’s problems, upbringing, situation, and issues and not just my own.
  2. I can accept that my mother was not perfect and did good, bad, mild good and bad, and some things that were neither good nor bad.
  3. I find it much more honest and real to accept my mother as a fallible human being with many kinds of behaviors instead of as someone who was all good or all bad.
  4. I am at peace with my mother. She was who she was. She did what she did. She lived her life.
  5. I hope to do better in my relationships and to draw on the good that I learned from my mother while not focusing on the bad that she did or taught me by her example.
  6. I can finally let this struggle between viewing her as either all good or all bad go. I have a new sense of peace from dropping this burden. I feel that I have just grown up some and become an adult instead of a child in my relationship with my mother. Thank you.
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