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Emotionalize New Behaviors & Beliefs

Book cover for "Breathe Your Mind"


Humans Are Emotionally Controlled

  • Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
  • Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.

“Vices are never genuinely tamed.” —Seneca


ACCEPT EMOTIONAL CONTROL

Accept the fact that your emotions control your choices.

  • Reason justifies emotion.
  • Emotion causes motion.

Now learn to emotionalize what is good for you.


HOW TO EMOTIONALIZE A CHANGE

What are you already emotional about?

  • You can link that by association to whatever behavior or belief that you want to have instead.

What are you angry about? What are you glad about? What are you sad about?

  • To emotionalize a change in behavior or belief, pick something that you already feel the way that you want to feel about that change. Then you can attach those already existing feelings to your new behaviors or beliefs by associating those behaviors or thoughts with those feelings.
  • You associate through holding in mind both together long and often enough that they become paired (grouped, linked) in your mind.

USE MIND-MOVE (M-M) TO EMOTIONALIZE

You can Mind-Move (M-M) your new belief or behavior to connect it to your calm heart.

  • You can M-M your new behavior or belief along with a strong emotional memory.
  • You can M-M your new behavior or belief along with a strong positive attitude or positive experience.
  • You can M-M your new behavior or belief while having a slight smile (MonaLiza smile) to add some emotion.

Breathe teaches the calming and coping skill Mind-Move (M-M).


SELF-CONDITIONING TO EMOTIONALIZE

  1. You associate through repetition which is a form of self-conditioning.
  2. Mindless or inattentive repetition does little.
  3. Attentive, conscious, engaged, and involved repetition does much.
  • You can choose to view your new behavior or belief emotionally.
  • Swearing or using expletives sometimes help to emotionalize things.
  • You can forcefully tell yourself positive things about your new behavior or belief.
  • You can defend your new behavior or belief until you emotionally feel closer to it.
  • You can protect your new behavior or belief until you emotionally feel closer to it.
  • You can feed your new behavior or belief time and energy until it becomes emotional.
  • You can attach to (identify with) your new behavior or belief, but attachment is itself a problem so this is not recommended.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ON EMOTIONALIZING

Emotional power can come from:

  • breathing, drinking, or eating that are dramatic, focused, or powerful
  • choosing the forbidden and going against a strong taboo or conscience
  • danger versus safety reactions
  • dramatic or powerful sensing experiences
  • heart contact, owning, taking to heart, or internally touching something
  • making something important to your existence or continued life
  • resistance or strong opposition
  • self-identity or identifying with something
  • sense responses that are powerful, like to a gorgeous sunset or nature view
  • sensual responses that are powerful like to a deep healing massage
  • something negative that is perceived as destroying, disintegrating, or ugly
  • something that is perceived as difficult, grotesque, hard, stressful, or ugly
  • survival responses that are highly triggered
  • touching something with some of your existing emotions

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