8 Thinking Skills to Practice & Develop for Detaching

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Develop Your Negation Thinking Skills

Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT).

“The essence of balance is detachment.” —Chinese proverb

“Thus the negative perception is the triumph of consciousness.” —Alfred North Whitehead

Make “it” personal by replacing “it” with a specific attitude, feeling, thought, or behavior of yours.

Deconstruct it by analyzing and examining the parts and systemic aspects of any feeling, thought, or behavior.
Decrease it by paying less attention, importance, and time to it and thereby feed it less.
Detach from it by choosing to no longer regard it as a part of your self or ego.
Dissociate from it by choosing to no longer give it any reality and to consider it unreal and illusionary.
Discard it by applying the 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace) to it so that you learn to find it less than worthless.
Dispute it by holding it accountable for its effects on you, your relationships, and your life.
Distance from it by using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) to look at other ways of viewing the same thing.
Divorce it by treating it unemotionally in order to remove the anger, anxiety, and drama associated with it.

Detached from a wrong desire, you can find new options and new ways to fulfill your desire in a mild or right way.
Detached from a wrong desire, you can ignore the desire and let it pass on its own.
Detached from a wrong desire, you can switch your attention and focus to something other than desire.
Detached from a wrong desire, you can switch your attention and focus to another more worthwhile desire.
Detached from a wrong desire, you can observe your desire as you would observe a movie or a play (meditation).
Detached from a wrong desire, you can curiously try to understand the intentions and motivations of your desire (introspection).

8 Thinking Skills for Detaching