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8 Thinking Skills for Detaching

8 Thinking Skills for Detaching


Develop Your Negation Thinking Skills

  • Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT).

“Thus the negative perception is the triumph of consciousness.” —Alfred North Whitehead


8 Thinking Skills to End Negative Feelings, Thoughts, & Behaviors

Note: Make the “it” personal by adding a specific attitude, feeling, thought, or behavior of your own.

  1. Deconstruct it by analyzing and examining the parts and systemic aspects of any feeling, thought, or behavior.
  2. Decrease it by paying less attention, importance, and time to it and thereby feed it less.
  3. Detach from it by choosing to no longer regard it as a part of your self or ego.
  4. Discard it by applying the 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace) to it so that you learn to find it less than worthless.
  5. Dispute it by holding it accountable for its effects on you, your relationships, and your life.
  6. Distance from it by using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) to look at other ways of viewing the same thing.
  7. Divorce it by treating it unemotionally in order to remove the anger, anxiety, and drama associated with it.

6 Benefits from Detachment

  1. Detached from a wrong desire, you can find new options and new ways to fulfill your desire in a mild or right way.
  2. Detached from a wrong desire, you can ignore desire and let it pass on its own.
  3. Detached from a wrong desire, you can switch your attention and focus to something other than desire.
  4. Detached from a wrong desire, you can switch your attention and focus to another more worthwhile desire.
  5. Detached from a wrong desire, you can observe your desire as you would observe a movie or a play (meditation).
  6. Detached from a wrong desire, you can curiously try to understand the intentions and motivations of your desire (introspection).

Related Pages

  1. Attachment & Detachment
  2. Becoming Is the Enemy
  3. Deconstructivism: The Answer
  4. Detachment & Identity
  5. Desire: Attachment to Desire Is the Problem, Not Desire
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