How to Tell If an Apology Is Valid
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“Don’t make excuses, make good.” —Elbert Hubbard
WHO OR WHAT DOES THE APOLOGY SERVE
- An apology can be given only to alleviate the conscience of the one apologizing. This serves conscience.
- An apology can be given only to alleviate some conflict or to escape some negative attention. This serves to escape a problem.
- An apology can be given only as a way to prove that the person is better than what they did. This serves ego.
- An apology can be given only as a way to prove that the person is too good to be held accountable. This serves high self-esteem.
- An apology can be given as a way to show care and concern. This serves kindness.
- An apology can be given as a way to correct the problem. This serves maturity, personal integrity, and responsibility.
SIMPLE ANSWER
- If the apology does not promise a specific way to make amends, correct, or make up for the problem, then the apology is serving the apologizer and not the one being apologized to.
