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6 Styles of Failing to Cope

2 Healthy Options for Coping


Failing to Cope Comes in 6 Basic Styles

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” —Confucius

“Fix it or accept it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice


List of 6 Styles of Failing to Cope: One Word Alphabetically Arranged

  1. avoid
  2. cover
  3. damn
  4. escape
  5. reframe
  6. suppress

List of 6 Styles of Failing to Cope: In a Sentance

  1. Some people practice becoming an expert at avoiding and ignoring their thoughts a.k.a. too busy to be bothered with their thoughts.
  2. Some people practice becoming an expert at covering and hiding their thoughts a.k.a. changing or faking the appearance of their thoughts.
  3. Some people practice becoming an expert at damning and punishing their thoughts a.k.a. persecuting or torturing their thoughts.
  4. Some people practice becoming an expert at escaping or running away from their thoughts a.k.a. too busy to notice their thoughts.
  5. Some people practice becoming an expert at suppressing and repressing their thoughts a.k.a. hiding their thoughts in darkness.
  6. Some people practice becoming an expert at reframing or renaming their thoughts a.k.a. lying about what their thoughts are.

Why Are these 6 Syles Failing?

  1. They don’t cope with the thought but try to somehow make the problematic thought not to appear or to exist.
  2. They are forms of no-ting, of trying to make problems not exist when they do exist. (See Not for more information on why no-ting is a major problem.)
  3. They are not problem-solving because they fix nothing and even protect the problem’s existence.
  4. They are not perspective-taking because they do not provide a new approach to facing and dealing with the problem.
  5. They waste time and energy on processes that have only negative results.

Acceptance Is Coping

  • Effective coping is basically learning to accept the problem.
  • The rule is, learn to live with a problem when you can not fix it.

Perspective-Taking Goes Beyond Coping

  • Perspective-taking is moving away from being stuck on the problem by moving to a more productive view of the situation.
  • For example, a problem might be viewed as providing an opportunity, a lesson, or a chance to improve your skills. This is not reframing or covering because the problem remains the same. What changes is not the problem but your attitude about the problem. This attitude change leads to both coping and problem-solving choices.

Problem-Solving Is Beyond Coping

  • Problem-solving is about fixing the problem while standing it as it is.
  • Problem-solving faces the problem and overcomes it through better choices and work.

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