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How To Find Your Self

7 Steps to Find Your Self

Your Authentic Self Is Within

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.


To find your real self —

negate your self as knowing, doing, and being anything but your original self: your vessel nature.

  1. To find self—negate self.
  2. To be self—deny self.

Know Self

  • To know self—identify only with being.
  • To live—die to everything.
  • To just be—deny being anything.
  • To know—be quiet and listen.
  • To do—get out of the way.
  • To be—stop doing.

Know, Do, Be

  1. Know only that you do not know.
  2. Do only attention and identity.
  3. Be only the vessel.

Be No—

  • Be no thing.
  • Be no image.
  • Be no thought.
  • Be no concept.
  • Be no construct.
  • Be no comparison.
  • Be no category.
  • Be no feeling.
  • Be no memory.
  • Be no behavior.
  • Be no sensation.
  • Be no type or kind.

Becoming Is Deadening

  1. To become something is to become nothing.
  2. To become nothing is to become someone.
  3. To be your self, be no one and everyone.
  4. The only thing to become is dead.
  5. I pray I may be the empty me.
  6. I deconstruct all ideas, concepts, images, and constructs of the self and thereby reveal the true self.

SELF: Know, Do, Be

The container is the place and space inside for the contents.

The contents are the sensations, thoughts, and feelings you entertain.

  • Know the place.
  • Do the space.

Be the relation of the place and space to the contents of the space and place.

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Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.” —Genesis 2:7 

“But Christ as a son over his own house; whose house are we, if we hold fast the confidence and the rejoicing of the hope firm unto the end.” —Hebrews 3:6 

“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.” —Corinthians 4:7 

“Don’t look for society to give you permission to be yourself.” —Steve Maraboli 

“Effort is the very essence of the self.” —J. Krishnamurti, Can Humanity Change?, p. 40 

“If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work.” —II Timothy 2:21 

“Know thyself.” —Greek saying 

“Man is never so authentically himself as when at play.” —Friedrich von Schiller, 1759-1805 

“My only right doing is to have faith in God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“My only right doing is to host God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“My only right doing is to rely on God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“My only right doing is to serve God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“My only right doing is to trust God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“My only right doing is to wait on God’s doing.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“Psychological doing is the problem and psychological hosting is the solution.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;” —I Thessalonians 4:4 

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” —Gandhi 

“The devil knows your name but calls you by your sin. God knows your sin but calls you by your name.” —Ricardo Sanchez 

“The first job is to get some clarity of understanding about yourself, what you are, and where you are going.” —Harry D. Gideonse 

“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.” —Julien Green 

“The highest courage is to dare to appear to be what one is.” —John L. Spalding 

“The key is nonidentification with sensation. … Identification with sensation makes the self.” —J. Krishnamurti, Can Humanity Change?, p. 47 

“The only effort worth making is the one it takes to learn the geography of one’s own nature.” —Paul Bowles 

“The process of identification is the essence of the self.” —J. Krishnamurti, Can Humanity Change?, p. 34 

“To find yourself, think for yourself.” —Socrates 

“Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.” —Alan Watts 

“Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love; and thereby seriously disturb yourself.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 175 

“We must be our own before we can be another’s.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson 

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.” —Virginia Satir 

“Whoso sheddeth man’s blood, by man shall his blood be shed: for in the image of God made he man.” —Genesis 9:6 

“Why are you more concerned with the place and space where you live outside than inside?–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice 

“You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do, in order to have what you want.” —Margaret Young 

“You never exist quite so much as when you are not thinking.” —Friedrich Nietzsche, 1844-1900, German philosopher