Detachment & Identity

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Detachment Is Primary Skill for Sanity


“The essence of balance is detachment.” —Chinese proverb

“We have bound our souls to pleasure, whose service is the same of all evil.” —Seneca


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Attachment to desire is the problem


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Must Be Able to Detach

  • You must be able to detach from false identities.
  • You must be able to detach from conflicts.
  • You must be able to detach from persons, places, and things.
  • The older you get, the more you need to detach from.

Detachment & Attachment

  • Detachment has nothing to do with not feeling or experiencing.
  • Detachment has everything to do with feeling and experiencing without ego.
  • You detach so that you can feel and experience.
  • Attachment causes suppression and repression, not detachment.
  • Attachment causes defensiveness and denial of feelings, not detachment.
  • Attachment causes limited feelings and experience in order to protect your self-image.
  • Attachment causes loss of contact with reality in order to protect your self-concepts.
  • Detachment frees you from slavery to self-esteem, self-story, and ego.
  • Attachment is the problem and detachment is the solution.

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8 Thinking Skills for Uprooting Thoughts

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8 Thinking Skills for Detaching


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Ask Yourself If You Can Exist Without—

Can you exist without thought?


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Related Pages of Free Information

  1. 8 Thinking Skills for Detaching
  2. Attachment & Detachment
  3. Coping Skills: Free Help
  4. Desire: Attachment to Desire Is the Problem, Not Desire
  5. Deconstructivism: The Answer
  6. Freedom—Psychological
  7. Freedom—Spiritual
  8. Quotations by Topic: Detachment & Attachment
  9. Use Negation, Not Destruction

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