7 Steps to Freedom from Psychological Problems
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“Move your self out of the problem (positive versus negative) into the neutral space in-between the problem from where you can help the problem resolve in the best possible way.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“The magic move it to take the neutral position while supporting the positive position.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“The magic question is, ‘What is the neutral position?’” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
- Read to understand and practice spiritual surrender.
- This page contains an advanced method that requires personal responsibility, insight, self-awareness, and the ability to bear psychological discomfort.
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7 Steps to End Internal Conflicts
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- You recognize and confess that you are powerless over an internal conflict. (The conflict takes the form of a duality between a should-be and a should-not-be.)
- You move both of your attentions to the neutral position for the should-be and the should-not-be (detachment).
- You move both of your attentions to your host nature (container, vessel).
- You ask for the Light and Energy to be the focus of your awareness-of-self.
- You focus your awareness-of-other on the problem.
- You keep returning the problem to the Light and Energy.
- You praise and thank the Light and Energy for ending the problem.
- Note: These steps are refined and updated in Spiritual Surrender’s Seven Steps.
Information Required to Understand the 6 Steps to Freedom
- Starting at around age seven, you have two attentions: one for self and one for “other.”
- Before age seven, you have only one attention, and it is for your self; however, you are still aware of the existence of “other” or not-self.
- Around age thirteen, your awareness of “other” can focus on abstract thoughts such as ideals and romantic notions.
- When your attentions are not pressured, they can be easily moved to new pressure-positions.
- Neutral space can be understood as one or more of the following mental states: detached, disinterested, meditator, mindfulness, objective, observer, recorder, uninvolved, or witness.
- The insight that the basic three positions (positive, neutral, negative) exist independently of what should-be, what is, and what should-not-be is required for using the steps.
Information about the 7 Steps to End Psychological Problems
1. You recognize and confess that you are powerless over an internal conflict.
The conflict takes the form of a duality between a should-be and a should-not-be.
- These should-positions are pressured positions.
- The should-not-be is pushing to erase the should-be position.
- The should-not-be has energy and power from being valued and weighted more than the should-be.
- Both should-positions are valued, but the should-not-be makes a stronger case (argument), so has more connections, thoughts, and life force on its side.
- Your identity or awareness of self is with the should-be, and your awareness of “other” is with the should-not-be.
- You submit your two attentions (awarenesses) to the should duality in order to claim to know.
2. You move both of your attentions to the neutral position for the should-be and the should-not-be.
- This neutral position is the position found in triality between the opposites.
- There is equal value for both the should-be and the should-not-be in neutrality.
- This value of each should-position is neutral and might appear as indifference.
- This locating of the should-positions in neutral space takes the pressure off the problem or conflict.
- It is the neutral space that allows us to move our attentions.
- This recognition of neutrality comes from triality.
3. You move both your awarenesses to your vessel nature (host, container).
- Because your attentions are not pressured-positions in neutral space, they can be easily moved to where they belong and are originally found (host nature).
4. You ask for the Light and Energy to come into you so that you can focus your awareness-of-self on them.
- You ask, pray, and wait on the Light and Energy to be your focus.
5. You focus your awareness of other on the problem.
- Another way to understand step four is that you own the problem. You confess, own up, and admit the problem.
- You are acting in a responsible, accountable, and mature manner.
6. You keep returning the problem to the Light and Energy until it dies.
- This is suffering.
- This is bearing the wrong.
7. Focus on the positive and praise the positive.
- The positive can be God, the Light of God, Energy as God, a solution, an ideal, or some virtue.
- You do not need to try to control or change the problem.
- You do not need to avoid, escape, or suppress the problem.
- The problem is dead.
- You can double your trouble by having a new complex or set of opposing shoulds about the problem.
- The second should-not-be tries to make the first should-not-be not to exist.
- This is supposed to end the problem.
- As this is an impossibility (something that exists cannot also not exist), you are stuck with the problem about the problem until you de-power the second should-not-be.
- This double-trouble keeps you from simply ignoring the original problem until it goes away, focusing on something else, or getting distracted by a new crisis.
- You now loop (ruminate, obsess) on the original problem.
- All attempts to escape, avoid, and suppress the original problem only work temporarily.
- You are, in a sense, addicted to the original problem because of the problem about it.
A Variation of the Seven Steps
- Make the part that is trying to fix the problem move into the neutral position from the should-not-be position.
- Make the part that is the problem (what is) yours.
- Make God the solution, the should-be.
- Bring the problem to God and hold it there and keep redirecting it there when it wanders.
- You want neutral for trying to fix the problem.
- You want the Light and trying to switch places.
- Consider this method to be the process of spiritual surrender.
2 Steps that Work
- Move the should-not-be content (death and destruction) to the neutral position.
- Move the should-be content (life and love) to the positive position.
4 Necessary Conditions for the 7 Steps to Work
- The should-be must be in the positive position.
- The should-not-be must be in the negative position.
- The what-is must be in the neutral position.
- The should-be must have more value and power than the should-not-be.
- You always want to process using Triality: positive, neutral, negative.
- You want the duality to exist between the problem and the Light, not between the problem and fighting the problem.
- Don’t make pain about fighting the problem. Make pain about asking for help.
- Pain needs love, not neutral or negative.
- Light and pain working together cure the problem.
- Light is nurturing, caring, compassionate, and curative.
- Pain is cured, and evil is disintegrated or cast out.
- Neutral is the position of abstract and objective thinking.
- Neutral is also the position of planning, problem-solving, coping, and goal-setting.
- Fighting, avoiding, escaping, suppressing, hating, and resisting should all be moved to the neutral position.
Slogan & More
“Neutral for me and health for the problem.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“The neutral is neither good nor bad but the anticipation of good or bad.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“The soul must wait in the neutral space of neither experience nor no-experience for the heart to reveal itself through hosting or magnifying something.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
#Magic #Question: 2020-05-05
1. The magic question is, “What is the neutral position?”
2. This question is magical because it moves you out of duality and into triality, where conflicts and problems take on a new light.
3. The magic move is to take the neutral position while supporting the positive position.
4. The magic move is to stay in the neutral position while feeding the positive position.
5. This move is magical because it keeps you out of the conflict while also allowing you to support the solution.
#Magic #Practice: 2020-05-06
1. The magic practice is to keep returning to the neutral position in order to keep yourself out of the conflict between the opposites.
2. The magic practice is to keep faith, hope, and charity for the positive that it will drive out and overcome the negative.
3. The magic practice is to keep detaching from the battle and to keep turning the battle over to the Good, Energy, Light, and God.
4. A part of the magic practice is to keep your identity as the host for the battle and to refuse to try to fix the battle.
5. A part of the magic practice is to continue hosting the battle without trying to cover, deny, or disguise the battle.
#Internal #Conflict: 2020-05-09
- Internal conflicts are between the should-not-be and the should-be.
1. When you identify with just one side (should-not-be or should-be), you have made the conflict unresolvable because you now have to die for the other side to win.
2. When you identify with just one side (should-not-be or should-be), you protect and reward your side with covering, denying, excusing, hiding, rationalizing, and reframing.
3. When you identify with both the should-not-be and the should-be, you have made the conflict the essential thing in your life because now you are trying to kill yourself so that only one side of you remains.
4. The solution is don’t identify with either side, but keep your self neutral so that your self can support the side that your self believes should win.
5. When you detach from the conflict, you move into a neutral space from which you can observe and monitor the conflict while choosing to influence the outcome based on reason and virtue.
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