8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
8 counseling issues you can focus on and use to guide counseling sessions even when lost, or the session is scattered and unproductive.
- Garden will teach you an easy and effective Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT) system.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people control and manipulate you.
- 8 counseling issues are quickly mastered using this system.
8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
- The table version of this page lists the attributes of each of the 8 issues.
4 Harmful Practice: 8 Counseling Issues
- Blaming, Damning, Deifying, & Demanding
Versus 4 Helpful Practices: 8 Counseling Issues
- Responsibility, Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other-Acceptance (UOA), & Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA)
- Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other-Acceptance (UOA), & Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) are the three main guiding principles underlying Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).
8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
Increase 4 Healthy Attitudes & Decrease 4 Unhealthy Attitudes
- We call the attitudes healthy and unhealthy instead of positive and negative because the distinction between positive and negative is not always accurate or useful.
- For instance, neutral attitudes, as do partially positive and partially negative attitudes, exist. And there are times to use negative or neutral attitudes, not just positive ones.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people control and manipulate you.
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8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
BLAMING VS. RESPONSIBILITY
- Blaming is easily compared to and contrasted with Responsibility.
- Blaming is focusing on some person, place, or thing other than oneself as responsible.
- Responsibility is focusing on what you did and can do now regarding an issue or a problem.
- Responsibility for your feelings is, in fact, the first step toward mental health.
- See the 7 Steps.
DAMNING VS. UNCONDITIONAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE (USA)
- Damning oneself is easily compared to and contrasted with accepting yourself.
- Damning seeks to punish and torture your self or ego to make you better.
- Self-acceptance seeks to make the issue not about who or what you are but about your choices, conditioning, and habits.
- When you accept yourself, you stop playing self-esteem ego games, so you are free to focus on the actual issue of your problematic feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that are causing your problems.
- Note that damning others also causes problems, not solutions.
DEIFYING VS. UNCONDITIONAL OTHER-ACCEPTANCE (UOA)
- Deifying someone else is easily compared to and contrasted with accepting another person.
- Deifying seeks to make someone out to be god-like and infallible.
- Accepting another person allows you to focus on their behaviors and influence as either productive or unproductive.
- Accepting another person allows you to stop making the issues or problems that you are having about or with them about personalities and self-esteem, ego ideas of who and what the other person is and is not.
- Accepting another person allows you to stop playing ego games and focus on what you can do to improve the situation.
- Note that deifying yourself also causes problems, not solutions.
DEMANDING VS. UNCONDITIONAL LIFE ACCEPTANCE (ULA)
- Demanding is easily compared to and contrasted with accepting life on life’s terms.
- When you demand or insist, you are not accepting some person, place, or thing as they are.
- When you accept, then you are willing to face life or reality as it is instead of how you think it should be.
- Demanding often leads to new problems and increased stress and negativity about old problems since there is not much we humans can do to control other than our conditioning.
- Being right will make you act wrong more often than not.
- Instead, learn to problem-solve or cope as needed.
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- 8 counseling issues are quickly mastered using this system.
8 Counseling Issues to Use to Keep You Focused
- 4 Issues Contrasted with Opposites
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8 Counseling Issues: Quotations Various Sources
Listed Alphabetically
“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“A fool remains a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce
“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. — Hebrews 12:8
“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194
“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5
“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6
“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7
“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale
“When receiving correction, the wise seek to learn, and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
8 Counseling Issues: Quotations from Scripture
Listed Biblically
“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15
“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20
“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20
“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18
“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3
“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2
“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16
“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21
“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18
“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13
“Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33
“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25
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8 Counseling Issues: Related Pages of Free Information
- Coping Skills: Free Help
- Counseling Issues: Free Help
- Emotional Responsibility: List Pages
- Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Websites External Links
- REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy): List Pages
- REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
- REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
- REBT’s ABCs of Emotions
- Self-Esteem Issues: List Pages
- Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
- (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples
- (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons
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- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- 8 counseling issues are effectively and efficiently addressed in this book.
- 8 counseling issues are quickly mastered using this system.
8 Counseling Issues: 6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- 8 counseling issues are effectively and efficiently addressed in this book.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people control and manipulate you.
- 8 counseling issues are quickly mastered using this system.
8 Counseling Issues: 9 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Anger Skills & Topics
- 2. Blame Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Coping Skills & Topics
- 5. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 6. Praying Skills & Topics
- 7. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Thinking Skills & Topics
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- 8 counseling issues are effectively and efficiently addressed in this book.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people control and manipulate you.
- 8 counseling issues are quickly mastered using this system.