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Reasons for Believing in USE

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Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE) Makes Sense

  • Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

“It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete.” —Epictetus, Enchiridion

“Unconditional Self-Accepting means you refuse to give your self, your personality, your being–any global rating.” —Albert Ellis


4 Keys to Effective Counseling: USE, UOE, ULE, UAE

  • REBT has three main philosophical principles: USA, UOA, ULA.

“To help people achieve the three basic REBT philosophies of unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other-acceptance, and unconditional life-acceptance, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral methods, which are described in this monograph, are used.” ―Albert Ellis, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy

  • Kevin recommends 4: USE, UOE, ULE, UAE.

Reasons for Believing in USE, UOE, ULE, UAE

  • DIRECTIONS: Pick the ones that work for you and vigorously repeat them daily.

Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE)

I am always of value because–

  1. Fundamentally, I am the same as everyone else.
  2. God loves me.
  3. I am alive.
  4. I am here.
  5. I am made in the image of God.
  6. I choose to value myself.
  7. I have a purpose in life.
  8. I have faith that I have value.
  9. I have the right to exist.
  10. Others choose to value me.

While it is possible to prove that my thoughts, feelings, and/or behaviors are bad–it is not possible to prove that my being is either good or bad.


Unconditional Other-Esteem (UOE)

They are always of value because–

  1. Everyone is made in the image of God.
  2. Fundamentally, they are the same as everyone else.
  3. God loves everyone.
  4. I choose to value all human beings equally.
  5. I have faith that all humans have value.
  6. Others choose to value them.
  7. They are alive.
  8. They are here on planet Earth.
  9. They have a purpose in life.
  10. They have the right to be here.
  11. To value others is to value myself.

Unconditional Life-Esteem (ULE)

Life is always of value because–

  1. God runs it.
  2. I choose to love life.
  3. I have enjoyed life before and I can again.
  4. I have faith in the value of life.
  5. I have the chance to go to heaven.
  6. It is the best we have.
  7. There is always some good in it.
  8. There is love in the world.
  9. I choose to see the good in life.
  10. I choose to focus on the positive in life.

Unconditional Ability-Esteem (UAE)

My ability is always of value because–

  1. I am able to do many things.
  2. I can do some things well.
  3. I can make a difference.
  4. I do have positive abilities.
  5. I do have usefulness.
  6. I do make contributions.
  7. I have comforted others.
  8. I have confidence in some areas.
  9. I have encouraged others.
  10. I have helped others.
  11. I have made some things better.
  12. My lack of talents in one area cannot override my real talents in another area.
  13. Others do appreciate my contributions.

Related Pages

  1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
  2. REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy): List of Pages
  3. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
  4. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Examples

Quotations from Various Sources

Organized Alphabetically

“As ever, we use the Christian and REBT philosophy of accepting the sinner but not the sin.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230

“Condemn the sin, not the sinner.” —Christian saying

“Despise the crime, not the criminal.” —Japanese saying

“Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing.” —Chuang-Tzu

“I suggest that people take the challenge and adventure of creating and maintaining a profound attitude of unconditionally accepting themselves, other people, and world frustrations, no matter what occurs in life. They better make it an integral, unforgettable part of their living.” —Albert Ellis

“If value is potential, then all humans are always good for all humans always have the potential for good.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” —Arthur Rubinstein

“Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.” ―Albert Ellis

“Self-esteem steals souls.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.” —Albert Ellis, Rational-Emotive Therapy with Alcoholics and Substance Abusers, p. 71

“The cause of all sins in every case lies in the person’s excessive love of self.” —Plato, Laws

“The main emotional support that you can give yourself is what we have mentioned several times already in this book–achieving unconditional self-acceptance (USA).” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230

“To help people achieve the three basic REBT philosophies of unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other-acceptance, and unconditional life-acceptance, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral methods, which are described in this monograph, are used.” ―Albert Ellis, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy

“Unconditional Self-Accepting means you refuse to give your self, your personality, your being–any global rating.” —Albert Ellis

“You wouldn’t worry about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

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