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Examples of Unconditional Self-Esteem

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Practice Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE) Statements

• Ego will help you to recognize, remove, and replace your ego: a.k.a. self-esteem.

“It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete.” —Epictetus, Enchiridion

“Unconditional Self-Accepting means you refuse to give your self, your personality, your being–any global rating.” —Albert Ellis


4 Keys to Effective Counseling: USE, UOE, ULE, UAE

  • REBT has three main philosophical principles: USA, UOA, ULA.

“To help people achieve the three basic REBT philosophies of unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other-acceptance, and unconditional life-acceptance, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral methods, which are described in this monograph, are used.” ―Albert Ellis, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy

  • Kevin recommends 4: USE, UOE, ULE, UAE.

EXAMPLES of All 4 Kinds: USE, UOE, ULE, UAE

  • DIRECTIONS: Pick the ones that work for you–then emotionally and vigorously repeat them daily.

Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE)

  1. I may have acted like a louse, but that cannot make me a louse.
  2. I may have acted stupid, but that cannot make all of me stupid.
  3. I may have been treated as an inferior, but that cannot make me an inferior.
  4. I may have been treated like I was defective, but that cannot make me defective.
  5. I may have been treated like I was worthless, but that cannot make me worthless.
  6. I may have thought and felt bad, but that cannot make me bad.
  7. I may have worthless things, but that cannot make me worthless.
  8. I may not be part of that group, but that cannot make me unfit for any group.
  9. I may own junk, but that cannot make me junk.

Unconditional Other-Esteem (UOE)

  1. They may have acted like a louse, but that cannot make them lousy.
  2. They may have acted like I was worthless, but that cannot make them of no value.
  3. They may have given or sold me something worthless, but that cannot make them worthless.
  4. They may have kept me out of the group, but that does not mean they are unfit for any group.
  5. They may have sold or given me junk, but that cannot make them junk.
  6. They may have thought and felt bad, but that cannot make them bad.
  7. They may have treated me like I was defective, but that cannot make them defective.
  8. They may have treated me like I was inferior, but that cannot make them inferior.
  9. They may have treated me like I was stupid, but that cannot make them stupid.

Unconditional Life-Esteem (ULE)

  1. Life may appear to exclude me from many things, but life cannot exclude me from everything.
  2. Life may have given me junk, but that cannot make all of life junk.
  3. Life may have given me worthless things, but that cannot make all of life worthless.
  4. Life may have treated me bad, but that cannot make all of life bad.
  5. Life may have treated me like I was defective, but that cannot make all of life bad.
  6. Life may have treated me like I was inferior, but that cannot make all of life inferior.
  7. Life may have treated me like I was stupid, but that cannot make all of life stupid.
  8. Life may have treated me like I was worthless but that cannot make life worthless.
  9. Life may have treated me lousy, but that cannot make all of life lousy.

Unconditional Ability-Esteem (UAE)

  1. My abilities may be poor in certain areas, but I can work and enjoy myself in other areas.
  2. My abilities may not always get me the best, but that cannot make all of my abilities lousy.
  3. My abilities may not be the best, but that cannot make all of my abilities bad.
  4. My aptitude may not be great for everything, but my aptitude is good for many things.
  5. My skills may not be inferior to some others, but that cannot make all of my abilities inferior.
  6. My skills may sometimes even be worthless, but that cannot make all of my skills worthless.
  7. My talents may not always be up to the task at hand, but that cannot make me stupid.
  8. My talents may not be as good as another’s, but that does not make my talents worthless.
  9. My talents may not be the best, but that does not mean that I am defective.

Related Pages

  1. 8 Counseling Issues to Focus On
  2. REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy): List of Pages
  3. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
  4. Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE) & (UAE): Reasons

QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES

Organized Alphabetically

“As ever, we use the Christian and REBT philosophy of accepting the sinner but not the sin.”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230

“Condemn the sin, not the sinner.”–Christian saying

“Despise the crime, not the criminal.”–Japanese saying

“Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing.”–Chuang-Tzu

“If value is potential, then all humans are always good for all humans always have the potential for good.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.”–Arthur Rubinstein

“Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.” ―Albert Ellis

“Self-esteem steals souls.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.”–Albert Ellis, Rational-Emotive Therapy with Alcoholics and Substance Abusers, p. 71

“The cause of all sins in every case lies in the person’s excessive love of self.”–Plato, Laws

“The main emotional support that you can give yourself is what we have mentioned several times already in this book–achieving unconditional self-acceptance (USA).”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230

“To help people achieve the three basic REBT philosophies of unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other-acceptance, and unconditional life-acceptance, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral methods, which are described in this monograph, are used.” ―Albert Ellis, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy

“Unconditional Self-Accepting means you refuse to give your self, your personality, your being–any global rating.”–Albert Ellis

“You wouldn’t worry about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”–Eleanor Roosevelt

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