9 Common Superstitions of Therapists

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9 Common Superstitions About Feelings

Many Counselors & Therapists Believe


9 Common Superstitions of Therapists and Counselors about feelings that cause them to misguide you and work against your mental health.


“You’d better strongly think, believe, and, yes, feel that you can control your own emotional destiny. Not others’ thoughts and actions. No, not the fate of the world. But your thoughts, feelings, and actions.” —Albert Ellis


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  • Notice how many of these superstitions are the result of the externalization of internal events.
  • And many others are about making excuses to remove responsibility.

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1: OTHERS CAN GIVE YOU FEELINGS OR CAUSE YOU TO FEEL A CERTAIN WAY

  1. What is the medium of the transmission of feelings from another to you?
  2. Please show me the methods and means you use to give and receive feelings from others.
  3. Can others always give you feelings or only when you choose to give what they say or do meaning or importance?
  4. Can you sometimes successfully resist others giving you feelings, and if so, then why sometimes and not at other times?
  5. You must feel sad right now! Was I able to give you the feeling of sadness right now? If not, then why not? 9 common superstitions about feelings to drop now.
  6. Only you can ever push your buttons because only you are in there to push them.
  7. Only you can get on your nerves because only you are there to get on them.

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2: OTHERS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW YOU FEEL BUT NOT FOR HOW THEY FEEL

  1. How can it make sense that others are responsible for your feelings, but you are not?
  2. Do others sneak inside your head through your mouth, nose, ears, or some imaginary hole in your head to run your heart and mind for you?
  3. Doesn’t it make more sense that you are responsible for your feelings and not the feelings of others and vice versa—just as you are for your behaviors?
  4. Voodoo works because people believe in it. Others control your feelings only because you control them how others want you to.

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3: EXPRESSING FEELINGS CURES FEELINGS OR HEALS FEELINGS

  1. No feeling was ever changed through expression; however, different feelings can be had while expressing one feeling and thinking about it in different ways.
  2. Feelings cannot be fixed, cured, or changed—just let go or switched.
  3. Any feeling once experienced can be remembered in its original form forever.

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4: EXPRESSING FEELINGS ENDS FEELINGS OR RELEASES FEELINGS

  1. Expressing a feeling will only help you to let go of that feeling IF that is your intention and you purposefully work at letting it go!
  2. Expressing feelings reinforces feelings just as expressing beliefs reinforces beliefs.
  3. Studies consistently show that expressing feelings strengthens them and leads to more expression of them, not LESS. For example, studies on anger show that expressing anger increases anger.
  4. It is common knowledge that what you practice gets stronger, not weaker.

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5: EXPRESSING FEELINGS IS COPING WITH FEELINGS OR RELIEVING FEELINGS

  1. Expressing a feeling will not automatically help you to cope with that feeling. You must add some experiencing, thinking, or other feelings to help yourself cope with that feeling.
  2. Expressing feelings does not automatically soothe or comfort those feelings. If you want to soothe or comfort it, you must add something soothing or comforting before, while, or after expressing a feeling.
  3. You must add something to cope with, not simply express whatever you wish to cope with.
  4. Coping is not just an expression exercise–because coping involves perspective-taking and openness to new thoughts and feelings–something new must be added.

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6: FEELINGS MUST BE EXPRESSED, OR YOU WILL BURST APART

  1. No law says feelings build up.
  2. No law says feelings must be expressed.
  3. People collect reasons to give themselves permission to express feelings and then blame the so-called buildup of feelings on their “having to” express them. A cop-out by any other name is still a cop-out.
  4. People, particularly men, contain feelings all the time without denying them or expressing them.
  5. Millions of people have died without having ever expressed feelings that they carried most of their lives.

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7: FEELINGS CANNOT BE CONTROLLED

  1. If I put a gun to your head and say if you continue to feel that way or to act on that feeling, then I will shoot you, and you will find that you are instantly free to choose to feel and act another way.
  2. While it is true that there is nothing you can do about the experience of a feeling, it is also true that you can do a lot about having feelings before and after you experience them.
  3. If you do not feed a feeling, it will pass! Watch little children and see how easily they pass from one feeling to another.
  4. If you do not allow the thoughts and sensations that would cause a feeling to be in your mind and heart, then you will not have that feeling.
  5. If you do not take the thoughts and sensations that come to mind before a feeling—to heart—then you will not have the associated feeling.
  6. You can control a feeling before and after the fact, but not during.
  7. You never have to act the way you feel. You may be mad at the police officer who pulled you over, but you can remain calm to avoid further trouble.

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8: FEELINGS CANNOT BE REGULATED OR MODULATED AND STILL BE GENUINE

  1. Everyone regulates or modulates their feelings at some point, for some people or situations.
  2. You can fully have your feelings while limiting their expression in a situation.
  3. You can feel angry without having to act angry.
  4. You can comfort and soothe your child even when you need more comforting and soothing than they do.
  5. You can act nice to your boss while secretly desiring to poison their coffee.

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9: ALL FEELINGS ARE GOOD FEELINGS

  • The feelings that drive people to rape, murder, and genocide are not good feelings.
  1. The feelings that drive people to rape and abuse are not good feelings.
  2. The feelings that drive people to depression and suicide are not good feelings.
  3. The feelings that drive people into mania and panic attacks are not good feelings.
  4. The feelings that drive people to harmful compulsions and addictions are not good feelings.
  5. For many years, REBT and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy have produced various lists to help clients discern the difference between helpful and productive feelings and unhelpful and unproductive feelings. Such a list can be found in What’s Your Story?

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Related Pages of Free Information

  1. 13 Feeling Superstitions Are Listed in Stiffer: Stoic Mind
  2. 42 Modern Superstitions
  3. CBT, CT, & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List Pages
  4. Coping Skills: Free Help
  5. Counseling Issues: Free Help
  6. Emotional Responsibility: List Pages
  7. Feelings & Coping: Fast-Facts
  8. Secret of Maturity, Fourth Edition, will guide you to emotional responsibility.
  9. Thinking Skills: Free Help
  10. Ventilation: To Reinforce or To Let Go of Feelings?

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3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2020

#Magical #Feelings: 2020-04-30

  1. Feeling your feelings is not a magical cure for anything.
  2. Expecting people to cope with feelings they are already struggling with just because you tell them to is condescending, naive, and self-righteous.
  3. Not evaluating, accepting, and understanding the coping level of the client demonstrates a lack of empathy, competence, and skill on the therapist’s part.
  4. Therapists who do not initially encourage and promote the learning of new coping skills and the transfer of current coping skills to current problems need to go back to school.
  5. Experiencing your feelings is a better way to live; however, people are not born with emotional coping skills, and some feelings are dangerous and destructive if not handled properly.

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