Couple Counseling Strategy
- Garden will teach you an easy and effective Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT) system.
Couple counseling strategy to promote acceptance of each other’s reality. Understanding and perspective-taking can solve problems.
“The way to change other’s minds is with affection, and not anger.” —Dalai Lama
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- Couple Counseling: Master the life skill of perspective-taking using this book.
Couple Counseling: PROCEDURE
- Each takes a turn sharing an event that they are both upset about.
- Each must be quiet while the other gives their point of view, their reality regarding the event.
- The counselor helps each to deal with their thinking errors after their explanation, defense, offense, rationalization, distortion, case, etc., has been made.
Couple Counseling: PERQUISITES
- First train in Feeling-Intention Therapy (FIT) or Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).
- Explain the nature and purpose of the exercise before using it.
- Get agreement to follow the exercise before using it.
Couple Counseling: GOALS/BENEFITS
- To accept each other’s reality without argument or resentment.
- To learn to modify their reality using the other’s reality only if they believe they should—but never attempting to convince or coerce their partner to modify their reality.
- Learn the value of acceptance, for example, peace.
- Learn the importance of caring over the importance of being right.
- End the game of playing court with each other.
- Each couple member learns self-control, self-soothing, and emotional responsibility by recognizing, removing, and replacing their thinking errors.
- Help lessen whining, blaming, and damning.
- Move towards understanding, compassion, negotiation, problem-solving, and coping with the relationship.
Couple Counseling: Choose Being Right or Choose—
“You can be right, or you can be happy.” —Anonymous
“You can be right or righteous.” —Anonymous
“You can be right, or you can be married.” —Anonymous
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Couple Counseling: Quotations Various Sources
Listed Alphabetically
“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce
“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” —Hebrews 12:8
“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194
“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5
“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6
“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7
“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11
“The great man is he who does not lose his child-heart.” —Mencius
“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.” —Julien Green
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale
“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn, and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
Couple Counseling: Quotations from Scripture
Listed Biblically
“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15
“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20
“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20
“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18
“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3
“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2
“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16
“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21
“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18
“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13
“Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33
“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people play games with your mind and heart.
- Couple Counseling: Master the life skill of perspective-taking using this book.
Couple Counseling: Related Pages of Free Information
- CBT, CT, & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List Pages
- Coping Skills: Free Help
- Counseling Issues: Free Help
- Emotional Responsibility: List Pages
- REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy): List Pages
- Responsibility Issues: Shoelaces Parable on Responsibility
- Self-Esteem Issues: List Pages
- Thinking Skills: Seven Thinking Errors of CT
- Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
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- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- Couple Counseling: Master the life skill of perspective-taking using this book.
Couple Counseling: 6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people play games with your mind and heart.
- Couple Counseling: Master the life skill of perspective-taking using this book.
Couple Counseling: 9 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Anger Skills & Topics
- 2. Blame Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Coping Skills & Topics
- 5. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 6. Praying Skills & Topics
- 7. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Thinking Skills & Topics
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people play games with your mind and heart.
- Couple Counseling: Master the life skill of perspective-taking using this book.