3Rs Metatheory of Counseling

3 Stages of Switching

Understanding the Counseling Process

• Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT & REBT).

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new.” —Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

“Align your focus with the solution and not the problem.” —Anonymous

• Read to master the life skill of problem-solving using the best system: the 3Rs.

STAGE I THERAPY: RECOGNIZE

• You must RECOGNIZE

the self-defeating habit.

• Therapeutic work at the first stage

concerns two kinds of movement.

MOVEMENT

MOVEMENT

• FROM denial TO intellectual understanding.
• FROM no desire TO mental desire to change.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE I TASKS

1. Help increase understanding (insight) regarding the nature of the problem by exploring its consequences.
2. Help increase intention (reasons) to get rid of the problem by increasing your understanding of practical solutions.
3. Help increase motivation (drive) to get rid of the problem by increasing your understanding of practical solutions.
4. Teach cognitive (thinking) skills, e.g., sorting, testing, accurate recall.
5. Teach awareness and introspection skills so the client can learn to recognize the problem.

• Read to master the life skill of problem-solving using the best system: the 3Rs.

STAGE II THERAPY: REMOVE

• You must REMOVE

the self-defeating habit.

• Therapeutic work at the second stage

concerns two kinds of movement.

MOVEMENT

MOVEMENT

• FROM thinking awareness TO feeling awareness.
• FROM thinking desire TO emotional desire.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE II TASKS

1. Help increase emotional awareness of the impact of the problem by heartily disputing the thinking, feeling, and behaving that maintains the problem.
2. Help increase emotional motivation to get rid of the problem by increasing emotional awareness of practical solutions.
3. Teach emotional (feeling) skills, e.g., emotional responsibility.
4. Teach meditation and detachment skills.

• Read to master the life skill of problem-solving using the best system: the 3Rs.

STAGE III THERAPY: REPLACE

• You must REPLACE

the self-defeating habit.

• Therapeutic work at the third stage

concerns two kinds of movement.

MOVEMENT

MOVEMENT

• FROM feeling awareness TO acting awareness.
• FROM emotional desire TO acting desire.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE III TASKS

1. Help increase behavioral awareness of the impact of the problem by encouraging the client to persistently practice the new thinking, feeling, and behaving solutions.
2. Help increase behavioral motivation to get rid of the problem by reinforcing and generalizing new behavioral successes.
3. Teach behavioral and social skills, e.g., assertiveness.
4. Teach motivation, endurance, and persistence skills.

• Read to master the life skill of problem-solving using the best system: the 3Rs.

Table Version of the 3Rs

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• Read to master the life skill of problem-solving using the best system: the 3Rs.