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3Rs Metatheory of Counseling

3Rs Switch Behaviors


3 Stages of Switching or Counseling

  • Garden will teach you an easy and effective system of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new.” —Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

“Align your focus with the solution and not the problem.” —Anonymous


THREE STAGES OF THERAPY

  • 3Rs ARE METATHEORY OF THERAPY

THE 3Rs

The 3Rs of Counseling & Psychotherapy are:
Recognize, Remove, and Replace.


RECOGNIZE

Stage I

  • You must recognize
  • the self-defeating habit.

REMOVE

Stage II

  • You must remove
  • the self-defeating habit.

REPLACE

Stage III

  • You must replace
  • the self-defeating habit.

STAGE I THERAPY: RECOGNIZE

  • You must RECOGNIZE
  • the self-defeating habit.
  • Therapeutic work at the first stage
  • concerns two kinds of movement:

MOVEMENT

OR–

no insight to cognitive

  • FROM denial TO intellectual understanding.
  • FROM no desire TO mental desire to change.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE I TASKS

  1. Help increase understanding (insight) regarding the nature of the problem by exploring its consequences.
  2. Help increase desire (motivation) to get rid of the problem by increasing understanding of practical solutions.
  3. Teach cognitive (thinking) skills, e.g., sorting, testing, accurate recall.
  4. Teach awareness and introspection skills so the client can learn to recognize the problem.

STAGE II THERAPY: REMOVE

  • You must REMOVE
  • the self-defeating habit.
  • Therapeutic work at the second stage
  • concerns two kinds of movement:

MOVEMENT

OR–

cognitive insight

  • FROM thinking awareness TO feeling awareness.
  • FROM thinking desire TO emotional desire.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE II TASKS

  1. Help increase emotional awareness of the impact of the problem by heartily disputing the thinking, feeling, and behaving that maintains the problem.
  2. Help increase emotional motivation to get rid of the problem by increasing emotional awareness of practical solutions.
  3. Teach emotional (feeling) skills, e.g., emotional responsibility.
  4. Teach meditation and detachment skills.

STAGE III THERAPY: REPLACE

  • You must REPLACE
  • the self-defeating habit.
  • Therapeutic work at the third stage
  • concerns two kinds of movement:

MOVEMENT

OR–

emotional insight

  • FROM feeling awareness TO acting awareness.
  • FROM emotional desire TO acting desire.

COUNSELOR’S STAGE III TASKS

  1. Help increase behavioral awareness of the impact of the problem by encouraging the client to persistently practice the new thinking, feeling, and behaving solutions.
  2. Help increase behavioral motivation to get rid of the problem by reinforcing and generalizing new behavioral successes.
  3. Teach behavioral and social skills, e.g., assertiveness.
  4. Teach motivation, endurance, and persistence skills.

Note on 3Rs

In some cases it is best to modify the 3Rs to be Recognize, Reduce, Replace. Clearly, there are some situations that the best that can be hoped for is a reduction of the negative and an increase in the positive.


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QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES

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“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A fool remains a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.”–James Joyce

“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.”–Hebrews 12:8

“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194

“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.”–Proverbs 15:5

“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.”–Hebrews 12:6

“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?”–Hebrews 12:7

“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:”–Proverbs 3:11

“The great man is he who does not lose his child-heart.”–Mencius

“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.”–Julien Green

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”–Norman Vincent Peale

“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice


QUOTATIONS SCRIPTURE

“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:”–Proverbs 1:5

“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.”–Proverbs 11:14

“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.”–Proverbs 12:15

“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.”–Proverbs 12:20

“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.”–Proverbs 15:22

“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.”–Proverbs 19:20

“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.”–Proverbs 20:18

“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.”–Isaiah 16:3

“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]”–Ecclesiasticus 6:2

“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.”–Ecclesiasticus 22:16

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.”–Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.”–Ecclesiasticus 32:18

“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.”–Ecclesiasticus 37:13

“Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.”–Ecclesiasticus 38:33

“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.”–Ecclesiasticus 40:25

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