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Meditation Definition

Meditation is the practice of watching your thoughts from the perspective of an observer rather than from the perspective of a participant.


Observe Your Thinking

  • You observe your thoughts as a witness, not as their cause or source.

You witness your thoughts the same way that you watch a movie you are interested in or listen to music that you choose to hear.

You watch your thoughts as you would watch a sporting event that you were curious about, but not invested in.


Obstacle to Meditation

The obstacle to meditation is attachment.

  • Attachment means that you own thoughts or take them personally.

When you are identified with some stream of thoughts, then you will not be meditating those thoughts.

  • Keep your identity out of your thinking.

You can tell your identity is involved in your thinking when you take your thinking either too seriously or too personally.


Method to Regain Perspective

  • Detach your identity from your thinking so that you can go back to witnessing and meditating your thinking.

An effective way to detach your self from your thinking is to move your awareness from attached thoughts to your breath, body, yoga posture, mental counting, or environmental awareness (mindfulness or presence).

Once your identity is detached from your thoughts, then you can go back to witnessing your thoughts as their host rather than as either their creator or owner.


4 Premises of Meditation

  1. Thoughts will reveal their true nature when in the light of awareness.
  2. This light of awareness only exists when you are not attached to your thoughts.
  3. This light will drive out and away thoughts that do not serve good or Energy, because they cannot stand the light.
  4. This light will strengthen and reinforce thoughts that serve the good or Energy, because they love the light.

Detached Thoughts

  1. You are not your thoughts.
  2. Your thoughts are neither you nor your life.
  3. Your thoughts are not other people.
  4. Your thoughts are neither others nor the lives of others.
  5. Thoughts can partially represent something, but never be anything.

Meditate Anywhere Anytime & Other Gems

A posture that helps you to stay awake when you are meditating can be useful in the beginning of your practice. However, the goal is to be always meditating anytime and anywhere.

When your practice slips, simply return to your practice. Start by watching the slip and your thinking about the slip.

  • Right meditation does not ignore internal processes–it reveals them.

You can bear the ugliness that you find inside by detaching your identity from it. However, nothing should be used to make the unpleasant pleasant.

Without emotional responsibility, you will find it too difficult to continue when your meditation practice deepens.

Meditation always includes the realization that you share the same human nature with everyone. For example, the ugliness you see in others is in you.

Meditate to become purified by becoming the vessel and dropping self-esteem and ego games of pride, shame, superiority, and inferiority.


More Information


Quotations from Various Sources

Organized alphabetically

“A baby expects to be soothed, but a mature adult soothes themselves.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A man’s as miserable as he thinks he is.”–Marcus Seneca

“A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.”–Francis Bacon

“Adults are expert at self-disturbance and inept at self-soothing.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“An excuse is a lie guarded.”–Jonathan Swift

“Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?”–Anonymous

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”–Ephesians 4:26

“But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.”–Galatians 6:4

“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”–Mark Twain

“Each man the architect of his own fate.”–Sallust

“Either do not attempt at all, or go through with it.”–Ovid

“God has entrusted me with myself.”–Epictetus

“Great works are performed not by strength, but by perseverance.”–Samuel Johnson

“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”–Proverbs 25:28

“I tried to change the world and failed. I changed myself and the whole world changed too!”–Author unknown

“If pleasure first, then pain second.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If we have not peace within ourselves, it is in vain to seek it from outward sources.”–Francois de La Rochefoucauld

“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.”–Agnes Repplier

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”–William Shakespeare

“Life always gets harder towards the summit–the cold increases, responsibility increases.”–Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, 1844-1900

“Luck is where preparation meets opportunity.”–Anonymous

“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.”–Jean-Paul Sartre, 1905-1980

“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will–his personal responsibility in the realm of faith and morals.”–Albert Schweitzer

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”–Abraham Lincoln

“My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.”–Oprah Winfrey

“No one has ever gotten to anyone.”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.”–Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Nothing stops the man who desires to achieve. Every obstacle is simply a course to develop his achievement muscle. It’s a strengthening of his powers of accomplishment.”–Eric Butterworth

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”–Michael Jordan

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”–Anonymous

“Some pursue happiness, others create it.”–Anonymous

“Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems–themselves.”–Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, p. 43

“The ability to accept responsibility is the measure of the man.”–Roy Smith

“The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions, the more credibility you will have.”–Brian Koslow

“The only disability in life is a bad attitude.”–Scott Hamilton

“The U. S. Constitution doesn’t guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself.”–Benjamin Franklin

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.”–Joan Didion

“There is no man so low that the cure for his condition does not lie strictly within himself.”–Thomas L. Masson

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”–Carlos Castenada

“What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.”–Oliver C. Wilson

“Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.”–Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 252.

“While they were saying among themselves it cannot be done, it was done.”–Helen Keller

“Why is it that people are willing to take responsibility for their happiness or mild sadness but not their severe disturbance or great unhappiness?–why ego of course!”–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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