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How to Gain More from the STPHFR Model

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You must be familiar with the STPHFR model to understand this page.

  • For the sake of the discussion below, P is regarded as T, because P is only a type of T.
  1. S exists but not for T.
  2. S exists independently of T or F.
  3. S for me is about H’s contact with S.
  4. F is about H’s contact.
  5. F can be about H’s contact with T or S.
  6. F about T can never be about S.
  7. F derived directly from S is about S.
  8. F is mainly about F, not S, or even T.
  9. F cannot be about T and S at the same time.
  10. T can be about F, not S.
  11. I can only be aware of S by F.
  12. I can be aware of T by T or F.
  13. I can be aware of F by T or F.
  14. I can be aware of T as T or F, but it is only T.
  15. I can be aware of F as F or T, but it is only F.
  16. I cannot be aware of S except as F.
  17. I readily confuse H’s contact with T with H’s contact with S.
  18. I readily confuse T with S.
  19. I readily confuse T with F.
  20. H + T = F
  21. H + S = F
  22. H + T + S = F2
  23. T = F – H
  24. S = F – H
  25. S does not = T
  26. S does not = R
  27. F does equal a part of S if it comes from H + S.
  28. S can be experienced in part through F but never known even in part with T.
  29. F can be both experienced and known in part through T.
  30. R is really caused by H.
  31. Control P and H and let S, T, and F be free.
  32. P is recursive T.

Mind Matters

  • Since all that I can respond to is my mind, is T or F—I will focus first on making my mind right, not S.
  • It’s all in my mind, in T or F—because there is no place else it can be.

Sensations Start the Process

  • Sensations can originate in the body, the external world, or the internal world.

“Sensations lead to feelings lead to thoughts lead to actions.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“Stimuli prompt feelings prompt thoughts prompt responses prompt feelings.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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  1. We try to convert experience into thinking; however, experience is only alive and real when it exists as sensations, not as thoughts.
  2. We try to convert action, doing, and movement into thinking; however, action, doing, and movement are only alive and real when they exist as sensations, not as thoughts.
  3. We try to convert emotions and feelings into thinking; however, emotions and feelings are only alive and real when they exist as sensations, not as thoughts.
  4. We try to convert reality and truth into thinking; however, reality and truth are only alive and real when they exist as sensations, not as thoughts.
  5. We try to convert sensing into thinking; however, sensing is only alive and real when it exists as energy perceiving sensations, not as thoughts.
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Quotations from Various Sources

Listed Alphabetically

“A fool is only a fool because he won’t see he is a fool.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” —James Joyce

“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. — Hebrews 12:8

“By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194

“Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.” —Proverbs 15:5

“Failure doesn’t have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” —Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” —Hebrews 12:6

“If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” —Hebrews 12:7

“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:” —Proverbs 3:11

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn, and the fool seeks to justify with excuses.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

Quotations from Scripture on Counseling

Listed Biblically

“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:” —Proverbs 1:5

“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” —Proverbs 11:14

“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” —Proverbs 12:15

“Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counselors of peace is joy.” —Proverbs 12:20

“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” —Proverbs 15:22

“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.” —Proverbs 19:20

“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” —Proverbs 20:18

“Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth.” —Isaiah 16:3

“Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]” —Ecclesiasticus 6:2

“As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.” —Ecclesiasticus 22:16

“Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 30:21

“A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel.” —Ecclesiasticus 32:18

“And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it.” —Ecclesiasticus 37:13

“Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.” —Ecclesiasticus 38:33

“Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.” —Ecclesiasticus 40:25