What Do Men Want?

Men Want 4 Things

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“Encouragement and problem-solving can be used to promote coping such that negative thinking can be neutralized or switched away from to positive thinking. In the case of men, this is a necessary strategy to master, practice, and share.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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Some Questions to Respond With

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List of 4 Things Men Want

1. Supportive & Loyal Wife
2. To Know They Please their Wife
3. To Be Taken Care of by their Wife
4. To Recieve Encouragement & Support

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Explanations of the Four Wants

1. Supportive & Loyal Wife

• This has traditionally meant that the man wants to know that his wife stands behind him: “stand by your man.”
• It also means that the man wants encouragement from the woman to pursue his dreams and talents.
• A man wants to feel helped, defended, and promoted by his wife.

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2. To Know They Please their Wife

• This has traditionally been about being a good provider for their wife: support object.
• It has always included wanting to know that they please their wife sexually.
• It is also about being loved and valued for their personhood.

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3. To Be Taken Care of by their Wife

• This has traditionally been about the wife taking care of the husband’s needs and chores such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping.
• It is also about being comforted and cared for emotionally and physically as a mother would when he feels down or sick.
• Yes, a man wants to be babied at times. For example, sit on one end of a couch and have the man lay down and put his head in your lap. Then gently rub and massage his head. Most men love this more than most things.

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4. Encouragement & Support from their Wife

• This has been traditionally to encourage and support a man in his career or work.
• It is also about encouraging and supporting a man in his dreams.
• It is also about encouraging and supporting a man in his efforts to problem-solve.

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Job Never Done

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• No matter how well you stock it, some items will run out, and eventually, all of it will need resupplying.

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Keep the Support & Compliments Coming

• There is no time that you can rest and think that the four wants are fulfilled.
• You must continually satisfy and refill all four wants.
• Make it a habit to regularly review all four wants to be sure you are not missing one.

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Arguments Are About Missing One of the Four

• When couples argue, they argue mainly because they are not getting one or more of their four desires met.

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Decode the Arguments

• The argument might be about who controls the TV remote, but it is really about not getting one or more of their four wants met.
• If each partner will review in themselves the four things that the other desires, then they will find out which one or ones they are not currently providing.
• If they will then provide those wants, the relationship will get back on track for both parties.

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Related Pages of Free Information

1. Communication Skills: Free Help
2. Happy Relationships Are Easy
3. Men Comfort Women
4. Praying Issues: Serenity Prayer
5. Quotations by Topic: Detachment & Attachment
6. Quotations by Topic: Maturity with Quotations
7. Responsibility Issues: Emotional Responsibility
8. What Do Women Want?
9. Women Encourage Men

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