What Do Men Want?

Men Want4 ThingsMore InformationRelated Pages6 Groups of Topics9 Skills & Topics

What Do Men Want? 4 Things

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What do men want in a relationship? Keep your relationship flourishing and on the positive track for happiness by understanding each other.


“Encouragement and problem-solving can be used to promote coping such that negative thinking can be neutralized or switched away from to positive thinking. In the case of men, this is a necessary strategy to master, practice, and share.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice


What Do Men Want? Questions to Respond With

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What Do Men Want? And how to respond intelligently.


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What Do Men Want? 4 Things

  1. Supportive & Loyal Wife
  2. To Know They Please their Wife
  3. To Be Taken Care of by their Wife
  4. To Receive Encouragement & Support

What Do Men Want? Explanations of the 4

1. Supportive & Loyal Wife

  • This has traditionally meant that the man wants to know that his wife stands behind him: “Stand by your man.”
  • It also means that the man wants encouragement from the woman to pursue his dreams and talents.
  • A man wants to feel helped, defended, and promoted by his wife.

2. To Know They Please their Wife

  • This has traditionally been about being a good provider for their wife: a support object.
  • It has always included wanting to know that they please their wife sexually.
  • It is also about being loved and valued for their personhood.

3. To Be Taken Care of by their Wife

  • Traditionally, This is about the wife caring for the husband’s needs and chores such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping.
  • It is also about being comforted and cared for emotionally and physically as a mother would when he feels down or sick.
  • Yes, a man wants to be babied at times. For example, sit on one end of a couch and have the man lay down and put his head in your lap. Then, gently rub and massage his head. Most men love this more than most things.

4. Encouragement & Support from their Wife

  • This has been traditionally to encourage and support a man in his career or work.
  • It is also about encouraging and supporting a man in his dreams.
  • It is also about encouraging and supporting a man in his problem-solving efforts.

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What Do Men Want? Job Never Done

  • Think of supplying a food pantry.
  • No matter how well you stock it, some items will run out, and eventually, all will need resupplying.

What Do Men Want? Keep the Support & Compliments Coming

  • There is no time to rest and think the four wants are fulfilled.
  • You must continually satisfy and refill all four wants.
  • Make it a habit to regularly review all four wants to be sure you are not missing one.

What Do Men Want? Arguments About Missing One

  • When couples argue, they argue mainly because they are not getting one or more of their four desires met.

What Do Men Want? Decode the Arguments

  • The argument might be about who controls the TV remote, but it is really about not getting one or more of their four wants met.
  • If each partner reviews in themselves the four things that the other desires, then they will find out which one or ones they are not currently providing.
  • If they provide those wants, the relationship will get back on track for both parties.

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What Do Men Want? Related Pages

  1. Communication Skills: Free Help
  2. Happy Relationships Are Easy
  3. Men Comfort Women
  4. Praying Issues: Serenity Prayer
  5. Quotations by Topic: Detachment & Attachment
  6. Quotations by Topic: Maturity with Quotations
  7. Responsibility Issues: Emotional Responsibility
  8. What Do Women Want?
  9. Women Encourage Men

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