Desire Leads to Compulsion Leads to Addiction
- Garbage Rules will prod you to face your self-defeating thinking that’s keeping you addicted.
- Ego will help you to understand and overcome the underlying problem in your addiction.
Desire, Homeostasis, Stress, & Energy
Desire Is an Energy Imbalance
- Desire is an egg-shaped state of energy imbalance with a void at one end and compression at the other end along with a mental target or direction for the movement of energy.
- Any instant relief of the imbalance of a desire is experienced as pleasure with the intensity of the pleasure equaling the pressure of the imbalance.
- The more targets one desire has, the more intense that desire becomes until there are enough targets that the desire turns into a compulsion or repeats into an addiction.
- Long-term goals produce a leaning towards one side of the energy balance with aligned or grouped goals creating a stronger leaning or tendency to the goal or release side.
- The relief of long-term goals produces gratification, joy, satisfaction, and vindication in proportion to the work performed and the obstacles overcome to achieve the goals.
- In contrast, acceptance is a state of balance.
- Positive stress is a movement towards relieving or righting the imbalance: back to homeostasis.
- Negative stress is trying or working to get relief without making any progress.
- Negative stress often results from unrealistic expectations & trying to control what you cannot.
Desire Becomes Compulsion Becomes Addiction
- A desire becomes a compulsion by having several simultaneous goals or objects to obtain.
- A compulsion becomes an addiction through practice.
- The more you repeat a compulsion, the more likely it will become an addiction.
Difference Between Compulsion & Addiction
- A compulsion feels like an irresistible urge to do something right now.
- An addiction is when you have a habit of giving in to a compulsion to do a specific thing like drinking alcohol, gambling, or overeating.
- Desirers are easier to deny than are compulsions which are easier to deny than are addictions.
- Starving still works. Starve them out.
- Waiting 20 minutes for them to pass still works.
Habit Is the Big Problem
- The problem is in the addiction as a habit, because the habit will come back again and again just because it is a habit.
- You need to replace the destructive habit with a useful habit.
- You need to remove and replace everything that you reasonably can that is associated with the destructive habit.
- You need the addiction triggers to clue you to practice your program of recovery.
- In the end, habit is the problem and habits take conscious work and repetition to change (switch away from).