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REBT 3 Main Musts
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REBT 3 Main Musts: REBT can focus on three self-defeating demands that cause unnecessary suffering.
“To understand the actual world as it is, not as we should wish it to be, is the beginning of wisdom.” —Bertrand Russell
“There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.” ―Albert Ellis
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REBT 3 Main Musts
- I must do well.
- You must treat me well.
- The world and life must be easy.
REBT 3 Main Musts: Why Are Musts Problematic?
- When you demand you do well, you will react poorly when you perform poorly.
REBT 3 Main Musts: Your reactions to your poor performances are likely these:
- Self-esteem abuse of yourself.
- Feelings of discouragement.
- An increase in anxious and depressive thoughts and feelings.
- These reactions are self-defeating because they will likely thwart your goals, lower your energies, drain your motivation, and keep you from working.
REBT 3 Main Musts: 4 Ways Demands Cause Negative Stress
REBT 3 Main Musts: Worst Demands Are “Must Not” Demands
- Musts with a chance of completion are not as devastating as demanding something impossible.
- “Must nots” do demand the impossible; they demand something that exists not to exist.
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REBT 3 Main Musts: Acceptance Conquers Demandingness
- If you accept someone or something the way they are, you will not be demanding that they change.
- If you switch to accepting a situation from demanding that situation not be what it is, you will defeat demandingness.
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REBT 3 Main Musts: REBT & Thinking Styles
- REBT focuses on thoughts that are irrational or self-defeating.
- REBT proposes that thinking errors and irrational beliefs share a common denominator: demandingness.
- Cognitive Therapy (CT) focuses mainly on thinking errors.
- CT proposes that thinking errors and irrational beliefs share a common denominator: distortions.
- A major strategy of REBT is to get clients to think, feel, and act less demandingly.
- A major strategy of CT is to get clients to see how easily and often we distort our thinking and to learn to distort it less.
REBT 3 Main Musts: REBT Philosophy Fixes
- REBT also works at a deeper level by helping clients develop three new, more effective philosophies:
- unconditional self-acceptance (USA)
- unconditional other-acceptance (ULA)
- unconditional life-acceptance (ULA)
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REBT 3 Main Musts: REBT’s Evolution
- REBT focuses on helping people to cope and problem-solve so that people might live more fruitful and happy lives.
REBT 3 Main Musts: REBT’s 3 Main Focuses for Interventions
- Extreme, inflexible, and rigid thinking are seen as getting in the way of coping and problem-solving.
- Lack of acceptance is seen as getting in the way of coping and problem-solving.
- Self-esteem demands and desires are seen as getting in the way of coping and problem-solving.
Progression to USA, UOA, ULA
- Initially, REBT was primarily focused on extreme, inflexible, and rigid thinking, with some emphasis on self-esteem and acceptance.
- Over time, REBT focused more on acceptance and self-esteem.
- Finally, Albert Ellis guided REBT, combined acceptance, self-esteem, and inflexible thinking into three fundamental principles: USA, UOA, and ULA.
Coping & Problem-Solving
- Coping can be understood as acceptance.
- Acceptance can be understood as the negation of inflexible thinking.
- Problem-solving can be understood as the freedom to come up with the best possible solutions and to experiment with them.
Is Acceptance the Opposite of Demandingness?
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REBT 3 Main Musts: 10 Demand Scripts to Ruin Your Life
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REBT 3 Main Musts: Quotations Directly Related to “Musts”
“A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and in all things.” —Eleanor Roosevelt
“Each of us does, in effect, strike a series of ‘deals,’ or compromises, between the wants and longings of the inner self, and an outer environment that offers certain possibilities and sets certain limitations.” —Maggie Scarf
“Happy is the man who early learns the wide chasm that lies between his wishes and his powers.” —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.” ―Albert Ellis
“To understand the actual world as it is, not as we should wish it to be, is the beginning of wisdom.” —Bertrand Russell
“What has always made a hell on earth is that man has tried to make it his heaven.” —Friedrich Holderlin
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- The best understanding of feelings combined with a modern, efficient, and effective therapy.
REBT 3 Main Musts: Related Pages of Free Information
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- CBT, CT, & REBT Cognitive Psychotherapies: List Pages
- Cognitive Psychotherapy Quotations
- Coping Skills: Free Help
- Counseling Issues: Free Help
- Ego & Self-Esteem Fast-Facts
- Emotional Responsibility: List Pages
- Exercises & Techniques: List Pages
- Feeling & Coping: Fast-Facts
- Musts: Friend & Foe
- Musts & Demands Cause Stress: 4 Ways
- REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy): List Pages
- REBT Is Deeper than CT & CBT
- REBT: What Is REBT? 3 Main Strategies
- REBT’s 11 Irrational Beliefs
- REBT’s 10 Must Scripts
- Self-Esteem Issues: List Pages
- Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE): Defined
- Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE), & (UAE): Examples
- Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE), (UOE), (ULE), & (UAE): Reasons
- Read and discover the best diagrams and maps of how people play games with your mind and heart.
- Read and master the life skill of acceptance using the best combination of CBT, REBT, & Stoicism.
- The best understanding of feelings combined with a modern, efficient, and effective therapy.
REBT 3 Main Musts: 6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
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REBT 3 Main Musts: 9 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Anger Skills & Topics
- 2. Blame Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Coping Skills & Topics
- 5. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 6. Praying Skills & Topics
- 7. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Thinking Skills & Topics
- Read and master the life skill of acceptance using the best combination of CBT, REBT, & Stoicism.
- The best understanding of feelings combined with a modern, efficient, and effective therapy.